I am so angry at the moment. I have been lied to and cheated on. Should i try and let my anger go, or wallow in it? Is being angry good for you, or is it destructive?
2006-08-05 02:37:07 · 21 answers · asked by doodlepol 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
re. lordwin.. Being lied to and cheated on makes me angry.
2006-08-05 02:43:14 · update #1
i do not want to beat the hell out of anyone. i am angry at myself for being such a fool.
2006-08-05 02:45:36 · update #2
First off, I've been there and you're not a fool, the fool cheated you-their loss!!! its OK to be angry. its OK to be sad and wallow for awhile, but its not OK to stay that way. You cant blame yourself, no matter what they say, there's no justification. So while your sitting there on that floor mad, angry, hurt, confused, sad and feeling like you've hit rock up, look up, and just pray about. If GOD brought to it, he can get thru it. Good Luck, I'll keep you in my prayers!
2006-08-05 03:09:31 · answer #1 · answered by Free_Spirit 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
My suggestion is - don't suppress, but don't wallow in it. Express it (works best with a pair of boxing mittens and a boxing bag; any heavy physical activity can do, though). Many benefits - it won't gnaw on you, you'll recover your reasoning mind, and you'll get some exercise, which is good anytime.
Don't overdo it; people are hurt all the time, cheated, etc. - it's not the end of the world. But don't let it poison you, by holding it all in.
Also, screaming your anger out where nobody can hear you helps a bit :)
2006-08-05 09:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being angry, just what you do with it is the problem. Anger is destructive to your mental and physical health, so if you can let it go, that is the best thing. On the other hand, you can channel it to do quite positive things - like make life changes you might not consider otherwise .
2006-08-05 14:59:45 · answer #3 · answered by tagette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keeping anger inside you isn't good. It causes bad feelings. It's important that you express your anger toward the person who made you feel angry (the one who lied to you and cheated on).
Since you've been lied and cheated on, it's something connected to that person and you have to make a decision whether you would like still to be with the person who did that to you. We always might feel as fools but that's something what is going to follow us all of our lives.
2006-08-05 12:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by Psychologist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger is good because that means that you are capable of emotion. The trick is to feel it, embrace it and say what you need to say at the moment and then let it go. If you have been lied to and cheated on then you need to get out of the relationship. Toxic people are never good company. But anger is good to express healthily (never get physical). Tell the person that caused your anger exactly how you feel. Never suppress your emotions to spare someone else feelings.
2006-08-05 09:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never get over the problem if you continue in your anger. You need to work out the problem and move on. Anger can get very destructive and you will only hurt yourself in the end. Hope this helps.
2006-08-05 09:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by NICOLE D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to some mountains or deserted place and SCREAM. You will feel better. Then think over the whole situation and how to manage the solve the problem. Do not be destructive because it will not help. There is always a solution and be patience with yourself.
2006-08-05 09:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anger is a negative destuctive emotion, are you the fool for trusting, or are they the fools for lying .its all a matter of perspective
remember this little saying, fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.
life is too short to wallow in self pity becaused you were lied to, join a gym get on a heavy bag and let it all out. regards Lf
2006-08-05 09:57:20 · answer #8 · answered by lefang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger, occasionally is ok but your intensity is much beyond acceptable level!!! Anger distorts all muscles in your face and thus will not add to your beauty.Angry people also are easy targets for mental disorders and shortened life. They become negative personalities!!!
2006-08-05 09:43:24 · answer #9 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get down 2 UR local Charity Shop & ask them 4 any odd bits of crockery.
Take it home & in a safe corner proceed 2 smash the hell outta of it until U feel better.
Don't stay mad, get motivated & get it outta UR system!
2006-08-05 09:44:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋