2006-08-05 02:35:17 · 23 answers · asked by healthnut 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
everyone deserves a second chance
2006-08-05 02:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of variables to consider and I don't think infidelity should be an automatic out. There should be a discussion on what "caused" the indescretion in the first place. And don't buy the b/c "you weren't meeting my needs crap", if you have a fidelity commitment it stands, no matter what, at least until both parties decide to change the rules. The other things to consider may be children, finances, your love for the other partner, and your resolve to make the marriage work. I do think there are some very compelling reasons for divorce but I also think that divorce can be to easy an option. Let the flames of anger die down a bit and then approach the subject as calmly and clearly as you can, and warning, this may be very difficult.
2006-08-05 10:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on if you still love them and you can forgive them. If you can forgive them, TOTALLY, and will not throw it back in their face. If you can't do that, then it's over. A second chance will never last if you can't do that. Everyone makes mistakes, cheating is one of those terrible mistakes. And there are usually reasons for the cheating that need to be talked about. It will sometimes make you see that the relationship IS worth saving, or it may help you to see it's not. Communication is so important at this point. It's far more than important, it's critical.
2006-08-05 15:52:40 · answer #3 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Preferably the first time. However, giving a second chance is ok provided you can know for sure he won't do it again. You need to be vigilant and may need the services of a PI to check on him cos after the first time cheating , trust is gone.
2006-08-05 12:42:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your spouse cheated on you, you had to consider if you made mistakes or your spouse was a person who likes to "discover new things". If you made mistakes, then you have to fix them, if you didn't make any mistake, and your spouse cheated on you, you could give him or her one or two chances because no one wants to break up the relationship with the one they love and got married to. However, if they keep cheating on you. it means that they don't respect and lvoe you anymore. So it's time to say goodbye..
2006-08-05 09:51:44 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've given 3 people who cheated on me and got a 2nd chance and got cheated on again. Now, I'm at the point that if they cheat once (this goes both physically or emotionally cheat on me) then they are out and without a 2nd chance.
2006-08-05 09:41:06 · answer #6 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to this question is different for every person. You have to ask yourself this question: Can I get past this? I don't mean can you forgive, the question is can you get to a point where there is once again trust in your relationship?
I have a friend whose husband of 15 year strayed. They separated for a time and eventually worked things out. That was 8 years ago and it is still in her head and tortures her. So you need to ask yourself if you reconcile, can you live with what has happened? I don't' envy you this situation. Good Luck to you!
2006-08-05 09:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is an answer only you can decide if you can trust him again so to give him a second chance. I would file for divorce, it would not be negotiable what so ever, once a cheater always a cheater
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2006-08-05 11:00:33 · answer #8 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how you can cope with the fact your spouse cheated you. Can you live with it? If you think yes, then there's a lot of talking to do, to see how you can go on with your marriage now that everything has changed...
2006-08-05 09:41:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave mine a second chanc and he cheated a second time. Good luck with your decision.
2006-08-05 10:40:49 · answer #10 · answered by angie devine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if you really love this person than you give them another chance... i know from experience that you can fall in love in one day but there is no way to fall out of love in one day... my husband gave me a second chance and now everything is OK with us and i cant imagine what would of happened if he would of left me... give them a second chance it could of been a terrible mistake that they regret...
2006-08-05 09:46:21 · answer #11 · answered by ilovechris!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋