2006-08-05 02:04:58 · 52 answers · asked by lizzie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he's using you
2006-08-13 02:01:21 · answer #1 · answered by gallow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not an easy question to answer, but I feel that he is having his cake and eating it too and as long as you let him get away with it....why not. For him life is great..he has his wife who takes care of him in a "domestic kind of way"...and there is you...always at a "Honeymoon phase". I wonder if you have ever given him an ultimatum. He probably cares for you..but as far as loving you...no. This is really not fair to you, who is putting her life on hold...and then there is his wife and possible kids? Would you want to be that wife? And if he would leave his wife to marry you...who says that he would not to the same thing to you after he divorces his wife? My advise for you is to make a clean cut. It will hurt, but I feel that you would be a lot happier in the longrun...and you would get your self respect back, because I can't imagine that you don't think about his wife and how she would feel if she found out. Don't do things to others that you would not want to have done to you. Good luck and I hope you make the right decision.
2006-08-12 14:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking from experience yes he might very well love you. But in the long run you like I was will probably be the one getting hurt in the end. They love there wives also. But there wife is not giving them all that they need. So they go out and get the needs they can't get from her from some one else. But that does not mean he does not love you. I did this for 4 years and finally seen it was time to stop all this. As long as things continue like they are he will have what he wants and not try to move on with you. I know this isn't something u want to hear. But I know first hand.
2006-08-13 00:41:34 · answer #3 · answered by dream_lady62 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If he loved you he would not be married to someone else, he would be married to you.
Being invloved with a married man is a recipe for pain. If you're both just in it for the sex and can remain casual about it then fine - no harm, no foul.
But the fact that you have to ask a forum such as this if he loves you tells me that you know he doesn't.
Does he have children? How do you think they would feel if they found out about you? How do you think his wife would feel? And whatever he tells you about his wife is subject to extreme doubt - don't fall for the 'my wife doesn't understand me/is a shrew' stock standards.
There are enough single men out there without getting involved with the ones that are taken. And remember - if he is capable of cheating on his wife WITH you, then he is capable of cheating ON you.
Walk away now.
2006-08-05 02:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by poledra_73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, but why are you clinging to a man who has a serious commitment to another woman, and possibly children.
He's not into being really intimate with you, and most likely would break it off with you in a heartbeat if his wife ever had an idea of what was going on.
Secondly, it's selfish of you to go out with a married man. Did you ever consider what the wife would think if she ever found out? How would you feel if you were married and you found out your husband had been dating a woman on the side for a couple years?
Break it off with him before you really get hurt.
Life's too short to waste it on someone who doesn't really appreciate you.
Good luck.
2006-08-05 02:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by dgrhm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
More than likely, no. Why would you want to be involved with a married guy? You have to share everything...sex, your thoughts, intimacy...you are just as wrong as he is to be having this sort of relationship. Did you ever think of what you are doing to the wife and/or children? If he has problems in his marriage, it is not your job to fix them, and you should not continue with this. Find someone who can love you for who you are, not just salad dressing on the side. You deserve more in life, and his wife deserves more from him. He cannot give it to her if you are in the picture. He is having his cake and eating it, too. You are making it too easy for him, and hard on yourself. Have some self respect. I can imagine you have lost quite a bit with being with him. You have the right to be loved completely by one man. You don't have to share...
2006-08-05 02:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by rach_cast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my..you are wasting your life, My Dear. You do not have to ask us this question, answer it yourself. Who is sitting home at night WAITING when he is with his wife. Who is sitting home Christmas day WAITING when he is with his wife and a family and it will go on and on.The word Wife has alot of power and is this the kind of man that you want, a man that is not trustworthy. You may not be but you sound young to me and Dear life only has a one way ticket so please do not waste yours. WE all have regrets that we look back on when we get older but do not let this be one of yours. Aren't you worth having a man that YOU have the freedom to pick the phone up at any time and call. Other then stolen time probably in behind four walls what else has he, or can he offer you. Set you sites higher and you will get them. And look after yourself, you are #1 on your list.
2006-08-12 06:38:31 · answer #7 · answered by loving_yellow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will say anything to keep you!. Your the one,who's selling yourself short,while he's having his cake,and eating it too (with Ice Cream!). Why buy the cow,when you can get the milk for "free". I can't figure out why would anyone want to have a relationship with someone who is married. Try asking him does he love his wife,who does he love more,and how can he love two people,at the same time?
2006-08-05 02:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by Squeakers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is not in love with you!!! he's Married and you're nothing more than a BOOTY call!! He is lying to his wife, he's lying to you and worse yet he believes the lies he is telling to each of you. There might even be more of you than you know about!!!
He is having promiscous sex with you and possibly others and then brings home his promiscuity to his wife....
If he has an STD / HIV/ AIDS/ you and every1 else are his potential victims!!!
I swear....have some self- respect ....MARRIED men...are users!!!
2006-08-13 01:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just an outlet for his sexual desires. If he really loved you and was so miserable in his marriage-he would have left his wife for you a long time ago. The old phrase(I CAN HAVE MY CAKE AND EAT IT TOO) applies to you.You will get shortchanged on holidays,birthdays, and all sorts of special occasions because he will choose to be with his wife. Get out before you get hurt-emotionally and mentally
2006-08-11 17:57:16 · answer #10 · answered by ric m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm there with you girl, get out...leave. I know its hard I'm in the EXACT same situation. It's now been 3 yrs and he keeps saying he will get out eventually, but cant leave bc of his daughter. Its BS. He only LOVES the fact that he can get sex fm you and still go home and lay in bed with his wife at night like life is peachy. We argue constantly, Ive asked him to leave me alone and ive thought about telling his wife, but i feel sorry for her knowing she's with a lying, cheating husband. It's not my place to say. He's a sorry excuse for a man.
2006-08-12 16:02:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋