are we really ready?

Question

my boyfriend is comeing down for 2 weeks, we have everything we need like condoms and stuff. but are we really ready?

P.s i am dislexic so sorry if my spelling is a bit off.

Answer 1

Hi its a bit more to it then that...

First time you did most things did you mess it up?

You can mess up with condoms as well so what you need is them to be a back up to a DEPRO injection which is like going on the pill only its an injection that lasts 3 weeks. So you don't forget it or take it late say if you forgot or had a late night as the pill has to be taken at the same time each day.

As you are beginners it would be best you get this done.

Contact

www.brook.org.uk
www.nya.org.uk
www.ruthinking.co.uk
www.playingsafely.co.uk

For sex ed advice as I seriously doubt your school did it right.

Ie do you know that anything oil based ie vasaline, ice cream, cream, chocolate etc renders rubber usless by disolving holes in
condoms usually in under 30 seconds (virus size holes), 60 seconds (anything else ie sperm or germs)(not durex avanti polyurathane ones also useful if someone is allergic to rubber so use them if playing with food etc.)

That you (especailly if feeling the way you do) as a teenager are hyper fertile and will find it VERY easy to get pregnant without protection.

Most things only do the job right if you use them right.

So what would be smark is you practice using condoms (and the above organisations and family planning /planned pregnancy clinics hand out free condoms).

Ie you can practice on bananas but would be much better is a plasic more realistic shaped willy (and size). ofthen you should find something useful in a joke/gift shop like novelty.

Or sex shop.

And part of that is being realistic ie turn off the lights, place then in your wallet, through clothes on the floor then time yourself... to find them, get the wallet, condoms out, and rolled right with air out of teeth in seconds or boy will have drooped... Its not so easy then... and then practice with hair conditioned inside the end to simulate after he has come.

And pulling willy substitute out say from under cusions on the sofa you are sitting on without the condom comming off and getting the condom off in a realistic position as though attached to boy (unless he practices yoga) without any spillage.

Good trick is for you to put it on him with your mouth (remember the oil thing so not right after you had dinner)

That any way shape or form even the tiniest bit or a guys love juice gets on in or near your girlie bits it can get you preggers...


ie first time, standing up, any real time of the month as it stays inside you for a long time, etc etc and even if you are a virgin...Yes immaculate conceptions due to messing about love wise are a real and common thing

ie third base if either if your fingers touched his willy when stiff (they leak sperm as soon as still so NEVER, NEVER, NEVER do the he pulls out and careful thing... it does not work and guys that age last seconds)...

Sperm could be on either fingers which if get in your pants can get you pregnant, as can splashes or spills on taget or dribbled down say from butt or tummy on soaked underwear even you sitting on the wet patch on sheets... get it?


or him taking off condom and not cleaning hands after or willy which rubs all over bed sheets...


Etc...


Solution... the pill, patch (like a sticky plaster pill) or best an injection that lasts 3 months so you can't forget it after a late night and as ill guess you have other things on your mind like kissing boy.

So things like you washing your self out with pepsi (dangerous) or other stuff is bull poop.

And the fingering thing is real.

Also find out several places you can get morning after pills including on sunday morning etc... go there and find out how much, what forms would need filling in and get the forms so if you EVER think anything when not quite right go and get the pill striaght away inc bunking off school or work... this would be more important.


Don't wait a few days and come here and ask is it ok we did this as it will be too late.


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Ok thats the technical stuff out of the way... Now for the fun stuff.

oor errr.

Seriously first time should be a good thing and there is a rule to that... not all at once.

This means you dont skip bases 2 and 3 so to speak...

Before you go all the way you should be used to kissing, making out, hands over top half and all all over.

Another stage of different days or longer gets to hands under clothes top half, then another stage under clothes botton half. possibly you topless,

Then you get to the hand off stage ie you getting him off by hands till he comes in his shorts and him fingering you and remember what I said sperm can transfer on fingers hence the injection.

When you like that and used to it or before you should have seen each other naked... shower show, strip poker, hey you could get pole dance lessons etc... and tell him to practice a routine...

Either way you should be comfortable seeing each others bits and getting yours seen lights on and like being looked at that way... In fact your should find it top fun turning him on by being naughty and strippy and him checking out your but, and boobs etc. Getting felt up and feeling up.

Next comes the stimulating each others bits with your mouth ie blw jb and him using tongue...


Again if you notice theres lots to do so take your time and not just ry each once... get good at each stage and be relaxed at it...


At some point you wont want to stop and continue so thigs will be a bit more spontaneous then planned and therefore you will be more relaxed and not feeling the pressure to do it or perform well on a set day and time.


By this point you should deff not be wanting to just like there and let him do his thing and be all over him getting what you like too out of it. He should like this as it means you like what you are doing and not doing him a favour or duty.

Then when you go all the way you should be more ready. You won't be shy or uncomfortable or tense or stressed but happy relaxed and can't wait.

Your female body also needs a lot of warm up doing all the kinds of things above and by then you will know what works for you.


His love gun should be more under control and not so 'quick triggered' ie kiss paw 10 seconds later dam all over. You want more then that.


Your body will be more ready and loose and the first time ouchy bit won't be much or you won't care.

All of the above is foreplay and love play and a very important part of love making as is the 'unwrapping' and kissing and cuddling after and all the safety aspects above.


Much more complex then you thought huh?


Also how old are you two? as there may be legal imlications...


but stuff the marriage thing...

Like if marriage worked the divorce rate would not be so high and the church would not have a history of sexisim, homophobia and witch burning.



The other thing you should note whilst you do that is how the emotions effect you like will you feel you are pushing things too far is nnone more pushy then the other. Does it feel right etc...


Sex is a good thing but is not that simple


also you may want to look into this

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?id=1222

Answer 2

Only you know if you are ready having condoms doesn't make you ready for sex do you love each other enough to take your relationship to the next step? Two weeks might sound exciting think of all you cna do in that time. If you are both adult and can sit down and weigh up the physical and emotional side you'll be able to enjoy yourselves knowing it's what you both wnat and have a comfortable healthy sex life

Answer 3

Well if you are asking that means that you are not quite sure of yourself and that you are being hesitant..it's better to be a 100% sure if you really want to do this, so you won't have any regrets later on..Just ask yourself the question and I'm sure you'll find the answer within you. If you want to wait just tell him your not ready yet..if the guy really likes you he would probably understand.
Take care.

Answer 4

If you are so unsure that you are having to ask on Yahoo, that would suggest that you are definitely not ready. Take your time and enjoy getting to know each other better but do not feel rushed into sex either by your boyfriend or by the false belief that 'everyone' is doing it.

Answer 5

If you can't wait for him to get to you and you get that feeling deep deep down, and when you kiss him you want more than the kiss, then you are ready.

If you have doubts don't do it. let things progress at their own pace and it will be the best thing that's happened in a long time. Don't just jump into bed the minute you see him (unless you've got that feeling)

Answer 6

think of the consequences in case something happens u could get pregnate are u ready to raise a kid? do u have the money to raise a kid? think of all the things that might happen if u think ur ready sure if u cant raise a kid no ur not because it could happen.

Answer 7

i think the people on here are useless !
i am only 16 i was with my bf for 4yrs and yes we was in love i started havin sex with him and after a while we split up couldnt handle being told what to do at my age but i found out i was pregnant i was only 15 when i found out .....not sayin u will get pregnant but think about it love my ex bf has gone and left me with being pregnant !! not all men are nice and respect us girls to them all they wont is to get there dick wet !! but if u think u are ready hunni go for it noone can tell u what to do or when to do it and all this u should wait till you are married is crap go with what u think !! GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

You can ask yourself..are u really ready?

What age are you?

You have to be ready when you are in 26+..

Do keep ur virginity

Answer 9

if u r under age u should wait, but at least u have the sence to use condoms.that shows u r thinking seriously about it but u seem to have doubts so maybe it would b better to wait, but u will know better when u r with him

Answer 10

well if u think ur ready so do it.dont listen to this people who said how old are u!just imagine that ur ready and have fun with sex .

Answer 11

If you are asking the question, I suspect you are not ready.

You have the rest of your life so don't rush into anything you are not comfortable with.