ia am so angry, i would not mind but i have this person 's sister living with me ,she is not capable of living on her own.
2006-08-05 00:47:33 · 20 answers · asked by MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my spouse was not aware of it , at the time, it was said to an extended member of the family that she did not know.my husband was very upset about it
2006-08-05 01:00:23 · update #1
and by the way I did not do or say anything , ever, to cause this . she is a religious nun , up to that day we got on great
2006-08-05 01:05:02 · update #2
p.s. it was my sibling's that was insulted not my immediate family
2006-08-05 02:07:38 · update #3
and it was as we all stood at the grave that it happened . there was no drink involved whatsoever.
2006-08-05 05:54:26 · update #4
You have to talk to the woman directly and let her know that you feel insulted. There is a slim chance that she didn't mean to insult anyone at all.
Write down exactly what it is she is supposed to have said and the context in which she said it, plus whom she said it to. Write down how that makes you feel, to have heard that and to find out it was said during your Mother's funeral. Read from that sheet if you have to, preferably while facing her. Give her time to respond and don't jump down her throat. If she did say this insult, at your Mother's funeral, that says more about her than it does about your family, anyway. You may get an apology, you may not. By the way, if your family is so terrible, what is she doing having you take care of her sister?
2006-08-05 02:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
oh boy. Funerals are such emotional times, someone always says something to upset someone. If it really bothers you then you have to resolve it with her. Go and see her and calmly, non-agressively (though you might want to scream at her) explain that you heard her comment and it caused great offence. Once she understands the pain she has caused hopefully she will take responsibility for it and apologize wholeheartedly. if she is genuiune you can tell her you forgive her. You may not follow this advice but promise you won't let it fester cos it will eat you up inside. If she shows no remorse then as she is a nun she can burn in hell!
2006-08-05 02:55:52 · answer #2 · answered by ding diddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk away.
this person (regardless of the fact she is a nun) has insulted YOUR family on the day YOUR mother was being laid to rest.
Don't say anything to her - no matter how much you want to, just break contact with her.
My heart goes out to you at such an emotional time.
Good luck, and I hope the year goes better for you from now on x x
2006-08-05 03:16:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where the heck was your spouse. Should have stepped in immediately and ask the person to leave. It doesn't make a difference if the peson's sister is living with you or not, you do not need the mental anguish of being bad mouthed at your mother's funeral.
2006-08-05 00:53:05 · answer #4 · answered by older woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a time when you do not need any more stress. So, in the interest of your own mental health, you have to let this go.
Believe me ~ karma does exist. What you put out there comes back to you twofold. She'll get what she deserves.
In the meantime, talk to a family member about the anger just to get it all out.
Don't let this woman rob you of the meaning of the funeral ~ to respect the memory of your mom...
2006-08-05 00:56:52 · answer #5 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write a letter explaining how angry you are and what was said that was so hurtful. Tell the person that you will not let it destroy your life or that of the sister living with you. Then treat him/her like you would treat an ex you share kids with.
2006-08-05 01:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would knock the shine out her forehead if she'd insulted me at my mother's funeral. Throw the ***** and her sister out. Tell your husband exactly what was said and if he can't support you then throw his *** out too. Never take BS like that from anyone, no matter who they are. You are no ones mattress.
How dare anyone ruin your mother funeral for you. I am sorry that happened. No-one deserves to be treated like that. My sincerest condolences on the death of your mother.
2006-08-05 03:05:43 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear about that. what does your partner think. we don't know all the facts but regardless to insult people at a funeral is despicable. talk to your partner to find out why they did this and just ignore them.one day they may need your help with something. when that day comes just say get lost.
2006-08-05 00:59:48 · answer #8 · answered by 90210 aka Hummer Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that what she said upset you. You are batter than this person so don't let it upset you, be the bigger person. I always treat people like that as if they are three years old, and explain that what they said was hurtful, and if they don't understand chalk it up to ignorance and move on.
2006-08-05 00:54:33 · answer #9 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send this insensitive creature a posy of white lilies with the stamens removed and hemlock, if you can find some.
2006-08-05 01:57:38 · answer #10 · answered by apple juice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋