bieng bi worse than gay?

Question

if there are any gays or lezbians plz help me what do u guys find wrong with bieng bi i dont want to seem stupid though but i am thinking about it

Answer 1

I am gay and I find NOTHING wrong with being bi. BUT, I have gay friends who will discriminate against bisexual guys becasue of a true sense of mistrust. This isn't particularly mistrust of bi guys so much as mistrust in general and bi guys (in this example) are just singled out as convenient targets. The excuses for this mistrust are often very straightforward and simple, generally posed as a question. "How can I trust that a guy really loves me if he can potentially cheat on me with someone I can't possibly compete gainst?" That's probably an oversimplification of the question often posed, but it points to the misconception that members of all sexual orientations have about bisexuality. For some reason bisexuality is viewed as a reluctance to accept a committment. This is patently false, but unfortunately this prejudice exists, firmly rooted, in both the gay/lesbian and straight communities. From some of the gay guys I have spoken to, the fear is always that if they acquire a bi boyfriend and fall head over heels in love, that bi guy could conceivably "cheat" and go for a woman and fall in love with HER and leave the gay guy. This would hurt in that the gay man would be forced in to realizing that the bisexual lover went for a person who is able to provide the sexual comforts that no gay guy would ever be able to provide. I suspect that straights may feel similarly.

What this assumes, however, is that personal committment and personal love do not enter into sexual matters. It's wrong, and it assumes that bisexual people (male and female) are more prone to violate monogamous relationships simply because they are able to seek out and derive pleasure from both homosexual and heterosexual contacts. So I guess on both sides of the orientation line, bisexuals are unfairly seen as being traitors to both camps. What this points out, however, is that there are too many gay men, too many lesbians, and too many straight people who feel that they cannot trust their partners enough to NOT cheat, regardless of sexual orientation, and bisexuals are just a convenient target at which to throw all of this paranoia.

Answer 2

It's worse because not only do the homophobes discriminate against so do some gays. They both feel you are either straight or gay and there can be no in between. It's bs since I am bi. I love men and women. You may lean one way a bit more but it doesn't make you any less bi. But again only some gays feel that way not all. Those few gays who demand tolerance but show none towards bisexuals are nothing but a bunch of hypocrites.

Answer 3

There's nothing wrong with being bi.

A lot of gay and lesbian people steer clear of bisexuals for a number of reason. One is, that sometimes a gay person will CLAIM to be bisexual as a means of saying "it's not as bad as being gay," and this is insulting. Others have been burned, because by forming a sexual relationship with you, an emotional bond often follows, Then the bi person goes back to his or her heterosexual partner. Also we've met plenty of bi's who are cheating on a partner, and that's never good.
But being bi isn't bad, it just puts you in a spot where many people will be skeptical.

Answer 4

In response to the homosexuals who are worried about bisexuals commitment towards a particular gender ....

The important thing in a monogamous relationship is commitment to THAT PERSON - not the gender. This applies to homosexuals and heterosexuals as well. Remember, some homosexuals and heterosexuals cheat on their partners as well.

Committed homosexuals/heterosexuals still continue to feel attracted to other people, but don't act upon it. Bisexuals are also capable of being monogamous.

Answer 5

The problem you may have is commitment. You want a relationship with one gender of individual, but don't want to give up the options with the other gender. The best thing you can do is to find someone you are in love with and be very honest with him/her and be up front about it. There are many bi people who will understand you. There are many people who want that kind of open relationship. If you want a committed closed relationship then you will have to suppress your urges to porn, imagination and the knuckle shuffle for the other sex.

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with it. If someone thinks there is then they have heard the bisexual myths and sterotypes, which are untrue. The Human Rights Campaign has a myth list if you don't know them. They are just ignorant to the facts. And being that they have been sterotyped before makes it that much sadder.

Answer 7

I personally find nothing wrong and it is not worse. There are others who feel that you should have to make a dedcision on who to be with. The fact that you can be with a woman makes you less ridicules by straight people

Answer 8

Being bisexual is not something you can choose to be anymore than you can choose to be homosexual. Being attracted to both sexes is a curse and a blessing. A curse because you will have to deny your sexuality and hide it from others to have a normal homosexual relationship or a normal hetero relationship. And a blessing because you can fully experience both sides of that coin.

Answer 9

I think it's a lot more fun that way. You can check out GUYS AND GIRLS!

Answer 10

Neither are as bad as you thinking either is bad.