I’ve have been engaged for ten years, My Fiancé has always had an obsession with large breasts and as a present about seven years ago he said he wanted to buy me breast implants. I’m terrified of surgery but I went from a 38B to a 38D to please him. He is so obsessed that he wanted me to go even larger and recently under his constant pressure I gave in but the size he pressurized me into I think makes me feel embarrassed to go out. I’m now a 38FF and I feel like a freak when I go swimming or even sit down to sun bathe with so many men making comment and staring at me. I love him very much but if I wanted them reduced I’m worried I would lose him but my own life is a misery I can’t find clothes to fit properly for my small frame and the person I’ve become is not really me. I seem to cry all the time but he seems happy and I so want him to marry me. He jokes about me going even bigger some day and I don’t know what to do.
2006-08-05 00:32:35 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This guy is a selfish controlling freak. Ditch him and get your life back.
2006-08-05 00:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him 2 get a penis enhancement start small then ask for it 2 be bigger See how he would answer,If engaged for 10 years what makes u think he is ever going 2 tie the knot.Your health is precious / with that weight on chest it is not good.You need 2 stand up for yourself tell him how u feel .As if he could not see for himself.Then get reduction for ur own sanity. If he really loves you Then he will stand by you.And even laugh at penis joke.
2006-08-12 18:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look you havre to live life and fine your own happiness, not fulfill other peoples happiness, at the end of the day you have a life so that you can live it, not so that other people live it for you, i understand that you love him, but why are you making your self so misserable in the process, if this man loved you the way that you loved him he would have consideration for your feelings, im not saying that this will happen, but maybe you should think to yourself that what is the worst and would be so regretable if you let a man like that go?? you are worth something to not only him, and by the looks of it you are worth more then what he gives you. why dont you just let go of you fears and explain how you feel to him, come on you are engaged to be married, if this is going to work out , a breast implant will not get in the way of your relationship and future will it? maybe talking to him will really make you realise the love that this man has for you, is it only in your breasts? come on women!! The truth hurts please do not make your life miserable talk to him, and let us no wot happens.
take care hun
2006-08-05 07:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by sweetlikehoney_73 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big boobs are nice but.. when its huge like 38FF that's extreme... and unnatural. Sorry to say this but if he told you he liked girls with no arms would u cut yours off how about no brain cause that's what he's basically telling you to do...
Think for yourself.... Do u want boobs that big? What makes you happy with your body? I am sure if you get alot of attention one guy in the crowd will treat you a hell of alot better than this guy.
Ur a human bean not a gosh darn doll and a piece of yo-yo or something... u poor thing.
2006-08-12 20:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by thought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is all very sad as your response to it all shows. You are crying about it so it's not ok for you. I would never have done any of this for a man no matter what I felt about him.If you continue to feel so bad about yourself you'll make yourself ill.I think he has a fetish about it all and is not joking about you having even bigger boobs. I just think it's unhealthy somehow and that you already know that. If he can't see your point of view, distance yourself from him as he obviously isn't interested in the real you.
2006-08-11 11:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by xbkw46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ARE YOU NUTS!!!! Ten years!!!! Hon, this guy is never going to marry you and its time to wake up and smell the coffee.
Reduce those boobies for your own peace of mind and sanity and then don't worry about slamming the door on his sorry *** as he walks out the door.
Good God! I cannot beleive there are still women who think they *have* to have a man in their lives in order to feel whole. Think about this.
You said it all right here ...*I feel like a freak *.
Men like this should be hog tied and implants put in their scrotum.
2006-08-09 21:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seem to be a lot of things wrong there. For starters why such a long engagement?
As far as your size, personally I'd say you have already let it go to far, and I wouldn't not even consider letting him talk you in to even bigger. As for you future, I would consider carefully your choices, seems to me that you are headed down a road that does not make you happy.
2006-08-05 00:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by tm_tech32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you love a guy like that, he's used you well and truly for ten years and you know , you have been an easy pushover. Tell him you will live your life as you want to live it and don't need a sex orientated guy like him. Dump him, don't even think of marriage it wouldn't run the course
2006-08-13 00:26:00 · answer #8 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Engaged for 10 years?
This should tell you more than you need to know.
You are suffereing from the "disease to please". As long as you continue to be someone you are not, you will be unhappy. Additionally, you are allowing this jerk to put your health at risk.
If you can afford it, get those breast implants out. Make the appointment and then tell him what you intend to do. If he can't support your decison, tell him to get a blow-up doll, kick him to the curb, and find someone who loves you for you, not your bra size.
Good luck!
2006-08-05 00:38:15 · answer #9 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would either get them removed or down to a size I were comfortable with and I wouldn't tell him until afterwards. THEN, I'd tell him 10 years is long enough and he either needs to @#$% or get off the pot. AND FINALLY, if he ever brought up getting them enlarged again I'd tell him, "sure after he gets HIS enlargement surgery... And even if he does, still say no!
IMHO
2006-08-05 00:40:44 · answer #10 · answered by Robb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a pr4t!!!!!!!
You need to start feeling comfortable with yourself, so get them bck down to a size you are comfortable with and get your self esteem and confidence back. Then you dump him, you say you love him, but is that enough, if he loved you he wouldnt want to keep changing you.
Please think about this, you have wasted enough time on him, do you want to waste another ten yrs of your life trying to please him instead of yourself.
It will be hard to do, but once you have done it you get YOUR life back.
2006-08-11 13:01:39 · answer #11 · answered by vino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋