why is it you never know what you had untill you lost it ?

Question

I met a guy oddly enough over the net, we talked on the phone or on the comp everyday, we would even write to one another through letters,we did this for 3 yrs. He told me he loved me, and i couldnt tell him that i loved him even though I did. So this is my question '' why is it, you dont realize what you had untill you lose it ."

Answer 1

Because loss causes you to reflect and compare.
Most people take alot of things for granted until
they lose them. After losing it/them you can objectively
compare how your life was with that person to what
it is now-this also forces you to analyse the characteristics
that you now find so endearing.

Answer 2

I think its human nature to take things for granted after a certain time and we lose track of what we have and how we got it and whats a stake if we lose it. Its only after the fact when we have lost it.. are we intune to what is actually gone. Over a span of time, we become in the comfort level of the way things are and we get stale and dont try to increase or go to the next level.. therefore losing part of "what could have been" until the inevitable happens. Over time I have learned to never put off for tomorrow what could have been told today. If you love someone.. say it. You never know if you get an opportunity to ever say it again.

Answer 3

That's life. Life is not all books nor schooling. You will always have ups and downs. We could not grow mentally without life experiences. Move on and do not depend on love to run your life.Love may not be for you. Many of us who had a lot, lost riches for different reasons. I am poor but happy. When I lost everything, I found a greater life. Just live one day at a time and have daily devotions.

Answer 4

sorry to tell u, but u r addicted to chat with him, u r so much absorbed with him. before u know that he defenetly talked to u when u needed him.
u never thought that if he left u because u were always thinking about what he told never think the reality of him n u liked to hear positive what he told about ur relationship. so this time u faced the reality that he left u but u don t accept this, u r still thinking that he calls u.
so, ACCEPT the Truth that he left u than only u can overcome from ur prob. try to be busy in ur work, give the improtance to others things.

take Gr8 Care
UR well Wisher

Answer 5

Sad to say. that's just the way it is. Sounds like you were just scared. Were ya'll fixing to get together or something? Well, knowing how you feel now, write him, email him or call him and tell him you made a mistake. If he has already moved on or can't forgive you, maybe he wasn't worth having. Maybe you felt something wasn't right all along and that's why you couldn't tell him you loved him. Good luck.

Answer 6

Because you take things for granted. Something you possess you don't really think about what it would be like if you did not have it, and even if you do it's usually not even close to the reality that hits when you lose "it". Humans operate funny, don't they?

Answer 7

you dont know how important things are when u have them. u take them as granted. u think they are not really important. buut once u lost it u will see how much u miss it u will think u cant live without it. for eg. we all take tv for granted but when there is no electricity for half an hour u will see how u miss it

Answer 8

because u take things 4 granted

Answer 9

coz wen u have somethin u dont know how good it is until u loose it so remember not to take things for granted

Answer 10

Well it happens everyday. Maybe you should try to get him back or just move on?