he has cheated on her for years, she has more or less accepted this. now he is in "love" with someone else. is there a chance for a new relationship?
2006-08-04 23:26:53 · 28 answers · asked by mz.hunnie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
60-40... if she has kept a blind eye all these years ..he is "safe" to fall in and out of love ( lust ) as he chooses ...not a very nice man to be opening relationships with ladies ..raiseing their hopes.. making them fall in love and then POOF he is out the door ...back to his "trouble and strife " as the Aussie say ...
Please be careful with your heart
2006-08-04 23:37:55 · answer #1 · answered by MrsDave 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is always a chance, but the possibility is slim. If he has been cheating on her for 20 years and neither of them will walk away they are both staying it the marriage for a reason. As long as she accepts his cheating, he will cheat because everyone wants to have their cake and be able to eat it to. Why start a new relationship with someone else when he can do what he is doing is fine with his wife and the women he cheat on? The next relationship may not be as accepting.
2006-08-05 00:14:47 · answer #2 · answered by philly_q_t_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has cheated on her for 20 years (as my ex did me) and she has accepted his behavior (I won't say I knew about his cheating all those years, let's say I ignored it). Chances are he has found his mate for life, one that takes care of his house hold for him and keeps his life in the order he wants without make waves. He has his affairs and when things get too serious or just his appetite is taken care of for the time being he has his comfortable way of life to return to until the next one.
What has happened is after 20 years the wife that has been cheated on but remained faithful thru-out these past 20 years looks back on her life and the long lonely nights and the tear stained pillow case and the broken promises and says "NO MORE". Off to the lawyers and files for divorce. We live through all the derogatory comments about what all he has given her over the last 20 years, how she'll never do as good, why she had to rock the boat...and the big one, she took him to the cleaners! No one sees the 20 years of affairs.
No, the chances of him leaving is slim to none. But the chances of the marriage ending is fairly high.
2006-08-05 01:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a complete pr1ck... he's with his wife waiting for something better to come along, rather than just having the balls to leave her 4 years ago. You say she's accepted this, don't be so bloody ridiculous... that sounds like something he would say.
He may have a chance at a new relationship if he grew a spine and some balls and make the break...
2006-08-05 03:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by dirtyminx82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad, but it sounds like she has just settled for whatever she gets. Lots of times it is because of money. Or the lack of self esteem. Some women just don't think they can make it out there by themselves. They can!!! They might have a lot less money and material stuff, but the happiness and fun can more than make up for that. Sounds like she needs to leave that jerk, and find someone to love her and treat her right. Lots of women just won't leave though.
2006-08-04 23:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by Vicm0322 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wife of 20 years knows her husband, (usually), inside out. She knows when he's having an affair and sometimes turns a blind eye. I can't see a man leaving a woman that takes care of his needs and puts up with his habits, for someone he is having an affair with. Just can't see it. Life is too comfortable as it is.
2006-08-05 14:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not likely, sweetie.
If he cheats and she accepts it, what's the motivation for leaving?
Also, he tells these women that he's "in love with" that he's married and they accept the situation as it is.
Who's got a good thing here?
2006-08-05 01:06:33 · answer #7 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this, would you want a relationship with someone who cheats on his partner just cause he can and constantly gets away with it, doubt it cause I sure wouldn't, his wife is better off without him is all I can say.
2006-08-05 04:55:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. There are so many instances where the hubbys have deserted their wives even after so many years of marriage. It is a decease, by age one can not over come it; it goes with death of the person.
2006-08-04 23:33:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-09-27 21:25:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kknow of someone that was married for 34yrs had carried on for many yrs out of that 34 yrs and then split from his wife and finally married his mistress, so yes seperation an happen even after many yrs of marriage
2006-08-05 06:41:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋