My fiancee of 2 years continues to stay in close contact with her ex who lives out of state. Her cell bills show 10-20 calls per month, some of which are as long as 40 mins. There are daily text messages too. None of these calls come in when I am with her. She maintains that she is only friends with him. I think the contact is excesssive and demonstrates something else. This has been going on for many months. Cheating or not?
2006-08-04 23:15:15 · 11 answers · asked by Noncheater 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks Everybody! Actually I already broke it off with her a week ago today.
But at least everyone that answered smelled the same dead, rotting fish that I did.
2006-08-04 23:56:14 · update #1
Even IF this was a friendship, It doesn't sound appropriate. The only person I phone or text that much is my significant other. If there were nothing going on, odds are that over the course of several months, at least some of those incoming calls are going to arrive when you are with her. Unless of course, she has told the other guy not to call during those times. You are right to be concerned.
2006-08-05 02:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by homelessharold 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she see him? Maybe they are close friends! It's not hard to assume that she's cheating, but in reality, if this were one of her best friends, would you worry? Probably not. Maybe she doesnt know how to end that relationship. If she's with you for some of the calls and/or text messages then you know what the conversation is like just by listening. Inquire about what the TM's say. Ask.. if there's nothing going on, she shouldnt make a big deal out of telling you. If he's out of state, it's doubtful that she's cheating!
2006-08-05 00:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to declare, yet whilst she cheated on you as a fiance', she would be able to maximum in all likelihood do it lower back. cheating on you whilst engaged exhibits she isn't as excited to be on the marriage factor as you're. often whilst 2 each and every person is engaged, they have eyes for no person else. To cheat for some MONTHS tells me, she isn't severe. Giving her a catalogue of demands won't artwork. she would be able to the two comply with them and then ruin them later, or gets disenchanted on the restraints perfect away. in case you go with for her lower back. start up from floor 0 and spend time construction the relationship mutually as having exciting. The believe will strengthen from those studies. for my area, i think of you deserve and could discover somebody much greater effectual, yet you will carry on with your coronary heart, so I desire you the main suitable of success.
2016-10-01 12:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Provide her with an ultimatum. There is no benefit in keeping in touch with an ex, unless they were married and have children together. Obviously she does not. If she maintains contact with him, it shows a lack of disloyalty to you, and the propensity to be a future cheater.
2006-08-04 23:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by adjoadjo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about asking her? Because if she's not and then it comes out that you've been rooting through her bills you're going to be in trouble. Take the high road, confront her calmly and ask her out front. if she is lying it's all going to be revealed eventually and you'll be able to say that you did nothing wrong and she was in the wrong.
2006-08-04 23:56:12 · answer #5 · answered by bananapancakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating
2006-08-04 23:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her
2006-08-04 23:24:08 · answer #7 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has a back up plan
2006-08-04 23:49:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if not cheating now...someday, I wouldn't doubt it...
2006-08-04 23:33:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when in doubt, its probably right
2006-08-04 23:27:42 · answer #10 · answered by skittleshavana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋