Here's a simple and common scenario. Person's A & B are talking. Person A makes a comment. Person B gets offended.
Person B's viewpoint is since they are now offended, that was person A's intent.
Person A's viewpoint is Person B misunderstood them.
Who's right or wrong? Is anyone right or wrong? Does anyone find that particular scenario as aggravating as I do?
2006-08-04 21:51:29 · 10 answers · asked by Smarticus 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Responsibility lies with both person A and B. They are both responsible for their actions and reactions. Intentionality is irrelevant, the result of A's actions were offensive to B. Is B's response the correct response? Neither one is right or wrong. Just because a person says something that someone takes offense to doesn't mean they were wrong in saying it. And just because someone hears something that they are offended by doesn't mean that they were wrong to feel that way.
Every person is responsible for their actions, reactions, thoughts, and words. But right and wrong is a matter of personal opinion that is arguably inapplicable to the context of the situation you have described.
2006-08-05 03:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
Does A not have sufficient command of the language to speak clearly? A needs to apologize immediately and clarify what he/she meant.
B may or may not accept this because oftentimes an "A" will say something out of line and then try to excuse it by saying B 'misunderstood'. This is called verbal abuse and that would make A very much in the wrong.
If A really did make a mistake, A should never ever say that B 'misunderstood', but take the blame for the misunderstanding as it was A who made the misunderstood comment in the first place.
2006-08-04 23:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by Steffi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you're representing Person A, because from A's viewpoint, B misunderstood A, so A knew what s/he meant. B, on the other hand was offended, and automatically assumes that the offense was intentional. This seems unrealistic, unless B was the type of person to chose to see the worst in people, rather than give them the benefit of the doubt.
In the scenario you described, though, I believe A is right, and I agree that it can be an irritating episode.
2006-08-04 21:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If A thinks [some thing or does not think any thing] and comments , then it is his morale responsibility to clarify his point to the extent that B will get the meaning in the same sense as A wants to deliver .
2006-08-04 22:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by deepak57 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a huge abyss between intent and impact.
Intent on the sender of a message and the impact on the receiver is always at the base of all misunderstandings.
Communication is the bridge between the two, therein lies responsibility.
Ultimately, I believe responsibility lies in a person's conscience.
2006-08-04 21:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I see it, NO MATTER who says what...
If you are not grown up enough to handle a comment appropriately then you are the one with the problem.
You can say what ever you want to me because it is just words. I know that there are times when people don't want to hear things even if they are true. But people just need to grow up a bit more. "mentally"
2006-08-05 03:19:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this old old saying comes to mind when I read this. Nobody can make you mad, you let them make you mad. Meaning that nobody has control over you emotions and reactions except for you. So if person B was offended, then it's their own fault.
2006-08-04 21:56:46 · answer #7 · answered by Becca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unload the useless information, say farewell to comparing mind.......
2006-08-04 22:01:09 · answer #8 · answered by silhouette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
person b is responsible for his/her own response. yes, it's aggravating.
2006-08-04 21:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by jbslass 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mad... I love you Smarticus!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-05 05:54:37 · answer #10 · answered by 1hotmomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋