im pregnant and 14 is that bad???

Answer 1

imagine prom night...and you need a babysitter. does that kind of clear it up for you?

Answer 2

You should have waited. I'm assuming the daddy is young too....It's sad because people your age are going to change SOOOOOO much before reaching adulthood, and it's then that you can be the best for your baby. Legal age to work is different in different places I'm sure, and then school, and daycare, and all......
A little reassurance..........A girl I know had her daughter when she was 13, and she was home schooled, so she got to spend tons of time with her baby and did schooling while Carolynn was sleeping. Man, at 2 years old, no joke that baby could carry on a REAL conversation with an adult and she had opinions and thoughts that were different than the people she would talk to. VERY intelligent baby. Look into some kind of "virtual school" (probably offered locally through a secondary school "nontraditional") so you can actually work, and do school when you have time......Honey, I wish you the best of luck......get your diploma! Give your baby that one MORE thing to be proud of you for!

Answer 3

That is terrible you have your whole life ahead of you and now you have to worry about a baby i am 35 i have no children and i am kind of glad about it i have 17 nieces and nephews and life is rough enough by myself. This is going to be very complicated for you but you can make the best of a bad situation do not drop out of school and do not keep getting pregnant. Make sure you graduate on time and go to the prom my sister did it at your age and she went to college to the prom and now she is married with six kids and they have their own house and they both make good money. Do not ruin your life and always want better for your child than what you had. God Bless You!

Answer 4

first of all, let me say that some of the answers to your question were downright mean and I am sorry for that. At 14, you can't understand what a predicament you have gotten yourself into. Being a mom is not a fairy tale. Whatever you imagine life with a baby will be like--it won't. You need to talk to your mother, grandmother, or trusted responsible adult. You have some serious issues to discuss and you should get info like this from Yahoo answers. Please post in the future and let me know what decisions you have made.

Answer 5

i'm sorry, why did you imagine having slightly one at 14 turned right into a sturdy concept? "you determined slightly one became all you've been lacking." heavily the position is the common sense, besides because the damage and tear has been performed i recommend you tell your mom. i comprehend that's scary yet she advantages to understand. you're shocked about her reaction, in reality she may already be suspicious (cuz moms are like that lol). do not I repeat do not get an abortion. placed the baby up for adoption OR in case your mom helps you, she will be able to even advance the baby on her own. thinking your so youthful and only a baby your self, she's probable youthful adequate to advance or help you advance a baby. i'm hoping each and everything works out, your in my prayers.

Answer 6

How do you plan to care for the child, young babies need to be feed around once every four hours, even at night? Are you going to make your mother or your grandmother take on a new child? Will you have to drop out of school? If so then you will never get a high school degree which is required for any job except for fast food type jobs. Where is the father, is he going to marry you or does he care less?

The WORST form or child abuse that I can think of is to have an unwanted child born. That child will be unloved, possibly abused, and definitely messed up. Many children brought up this way become felons with life term sentences, serial rapists, or even serial killers.

Then there is the wear and tear on yourself. You will have to support and care for this child for the next 18 years. That’s longer than you have been ALIVE! Like most people you hope to marry and have a family someday, but most young men won’t want to marry a woman that has a child from another man. How safe is it to have a child at your age? What is the risk to you? Most women wait until 18 or older to have children, except those who are foolish enough to let one night of sex destroy the rest of their lives. Carrying a child to full term is a dangerous activity, even for strong and healthy women. Although death in childbirth is rare, babies born prematurely are not. These poor child start off life with a strike or two against them, some don’t live very long, others suffer some sort of brain damage, and the lucky ones are only sickly for most of their childhood.

Then there is the effect it will have on your family. Babies take a lot of care, feeding, and clothes. They wear out or grow out of their cloths quickly. As they get older they need back to school supplies and always they have to eat. Who is going to pay for all this? Where is the child going to sleep? Sure they can share your bedroom for a few years, but after that what happens? All this costs a whole lot of money, and then there is college. Most parents want their children to do better than they did, and the key for that is college. College is very expensive now days and it is only going to get more expensive. Most parents have to start saving for their children’s college soon after the child’s birth.

Is it bad? No it is a DISASTER! and all the God Bless yous in the world are not going to be enough to give you the kind of help you need.

You cannot go through with this. Abortion is a cruel thing to think of, but in the long run the crueler thing would be to bring up an unwanted child. It is possible that you could give the child up after birth, but you are going to be carrying that child for 9 months. It will be impossible not to form an attachment, and letting go of that child will be the hardest thing you have ever done.

You didn’t think about this when you decided to have sex. Fourteen year olds are not able to make the proper decisions about having sex and having a child. It is a very hard decision for 18 year olds, and many women have had their lives destroyed by having a child too early.

Please, please find it someway in your heart to abort this child. I know it is murder but, it is legal for a good reason. Think of all the people that child will hurt. It will destroy you live, ruin your parents lives, and you will raise a child who will most likely turn out to be a horrible person. Few cases can be made for murder, but this one can. Actually, it is for the child’s own good! Sure it will help you, but imagine a child having to grow up with a mother that resents their child. That will scar a child for a lifetime and it will bend them into a person that doesn’t respect himself or herself or society. You are giving birth to a potential time bomb!

Answer 7

It's not good. Your body is still growing and changing - you can't give the optimum chances for a healthy enviroment for a baby at your age. You haven't accumulated the life experience to have the knowledge of how to raise a child. You cannot be independant, socially, financially or practically. You are still a child yourself.
Thankgod we live in an era where abortions are readily available in most parts of the world.

Answer 8

What's been done is done so please stop dwelling on whether or not it is bad. You have some serious questions you need to ask yourself in the very near future. The first one is one that YOU have to figure out and decide on...not you parents, partner, friends or religious leader. And that is whether to have an abortion, adoption or to raise the child. I hope that you have support in whatever decision you make. But remember you may be 14 but now YOU have to make an adult decision. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Answer 9

Well, I guess it really depends how YOU approach this pregnancy. However, in my book, it's bad. Your life will be changed, and probably not in a good way, for the reason that having a child is very time consuming and the activities that you do for fun will be greatly restricted.

Answer 10

uh yeah, you should consider giving it up for adoption or even abortion, your going to have a hard time in life by having a kid at 14 you will miss out on too much and not go as far in life that way.

Answer 11

yeah kinda and i thought my mom had me young (16) but ur only 14 dont keep it. You need to get a life and have a caree before a baby.