Is it necessarily wrong for me to be sexually attracted to my wife's mom and my wife's sister?

Question

I am not nor do I have any plans on acting out this sexual attraction, but sometimes I do find myself admiring them and even thinking about them sexually.

Answer 1

Everyone has fantasies but be careful - this info may come out at some point when you don't mean for it to- it happens ir the sister and mother might notice you looking at them so I would try to limit the sexual part. Imagine how you would feel if she was attracted to your dad and or brother or even friends and pictured them sexually - that would hurt - she trusts you to be around her family and even though it is in your mind - it is kind of some kind of violation of her I think - somewhat -

I mean it is normal to find other women attractive but maybe you should try to start thinking of them as family and off limits in that way - you must think it is kind of wrong in some way or I don' t think you would have asked, you know? You wouldn't think of your family like that so try to accept her family as your family and that it is off limits. I mean how far does it go? - do you picture having sex with her sister instead of her - do you pleasure yourself sometimes to one of them?? I think it's off limits - you are supposed to be honest with ur wife and I think keeping a secret like that is hurtful - even if you don't act on it - things in the mind count to women - if she knew - she would be nearly as hurt as if you did act on it so is that worth it??

Answer 2

You and your wife should be able to discuss even the most sensitive of subjects, comfortably. It's not what you say, it's how you say it. You being sexually attracted to your wife is VERY important. It should be your wife's priority to maintain her figure, be well-groomed, and keep a nice appearance. Women gain weight for many reasons. From stress, to pregnancy, to age. If something is stressing your wife out, which is causing her to become an emotional eater, you need to know why and try to eliminate the stress from your wife's life. A woman's body changes with age but that is when a woman must learn to work with her body, not against it. I've known women well into their 40's & 50's that are more attractive and physically fit than some 20-something women. Pregnancy puts a woman's body through hell. Hormone changes are fierce. That's still no excuse for "letting yourself go". A 45 pound weight gain is a lot of extra weight. Giving into cravings and overindulgence during pregnancy isn't good for the baby or the mother. I hope she takes better care throughout her next pregnancy by eating healthier and exercising a bit more. Wait until she is in a good mood, you are both at home, and gently tell her how you feel. I'm sure she will appreciate your honesty. I see so many mothers with toddlers whose stomachs hang over their pants due to the "baby weight". There overall appearance has gone down hill, such as not wearing make-up, their hair isn't kept up, and just grooming in general. Women use this excuse, baby weight, way too often. I think it's disgusting, personally.

Answer 3

I am in a relationship with someone I want to marry. I know she is right for me. But I also adore her sister because being opposite of her, she fills another side to my personality and it's needs. I find both of them equally attractive and wish I could be with both at once, but I know that will likely never happen and I am content with the great friendship I have with her sister, and enjoy spending time with both at once. I imagine its normal because they both came from the same place, raised by same two parents, although my gf is more like her mom and her sis is more like her dad. I don't find her mom attractive but I would given that she is just like my gf. It seems to me that this is natural because, well animals act in such ways and they don't have the devices to say "tv is responsible" and what-not. Given people's insecurity and fear of loss and inadequacy... especially a younger sister to an older, or even worse her mom... well it would hurt her to feel like she wasnt good enough all on her own. And so I would not be able to act upon such a desire knowing that it would cause hurt to the one I love. I have actually expressed my desires openly and while she can understand it, she does not give in, (yet? =) Ever seen "Ordinary Decent Criminal" with Kevin Spacey? Great movie about this very idea. I'd love to have it where I was married to both sisters and each of them had children of mine and I provided them seperate houses right next to eachother and I visited each of them regularly, back and forth, and they got along because they're sisters... Im bipolar tho so I kinda have two seperate personalities to match with. I can fantasize right? Im only human.

Answer 4

Heh Heh, why don't U be focused on being sexually attracted to your wife too? She is more real!

Answer 5

You are sick. It is wrong to think about your wife's mom and sister like this.

Answer 6

There's nothing wrong with fantasy as long as you can separate it from reality and base your actions in the real world.

Answer 7

u are the only 1 that can answer that & u know this. ur marriage is all-ready on its way down that one way street with no brakes.how u find your self when u get to the bottom is totally up to u.

Answer 8

If you're seriously stating your problem (not just jestering about it) then you ought to call on a psychiatrist in order to diagnose and solve your problem which seems to be mental.

Answer 9

That is very wrong when you have a wife that loves you very much.

Answer 10

yeah maintainproper decorum with ya mothers wife and sister