And give him your encouriging nuggets about divorce please?
2006-08-04 20:12:27 · 8 answers · asked by jason c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
While I would never write a letter to your son, tell him this: It is better to come from a broken home than to live in one.
I am also from a divorced family. I gained a wonderful step-father and a bunch of new cousins, grandparents, aunts and uncles. It was very hard in the beginning, but as time went on and I got older, I was better able to understand. Your son is a young man and he understands more than you know. Being eleven in today's times is nothing like being eleven when I was a child. These kids today are smart. He will do just fine.
If you would like, I'm sure a preacher or mental heath care worker could talk to him. Sometimes kids will open up to strangers, but not their own parents.
Sorry about that first poster. Seems they are taking great delight in writing nasty letters this evening.
Send me an email if you would like to talk more about this.
2006-08-04 20:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by historybug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know its not his fault and its not about him, that you both still love him just the same and always will, that you all have to adjust to this but that it will be ok. If you tell him it will be, absolutely definitely be ok and that he will be and that mommy and daddy will be he'll believe you! Then do things with him a lot, make sure whichever parent is leaving spends LOTS of time with him, that they laugh together and do things together. His big fear will be that the parent that leaves will disappear, and that being gone will make them not his parent anymore, once he is assured that WILL NOT happen (by seeing that isn't what happens) he'll be ok. Kids are remarkably adaptive and resilient as long as the parents keep the focus on making sure they feel safe and loved, beyond that he can deal with anything. Good luck, you will all be ok!
2006-08-04 20:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably better for you & your exwife to just talk to him about it. Most kids blame themselves. Just stress the fact that it had nothing to do with him and remain close & neutral with your ex.
2006-08-04 20:18:39 · answer #3 · answered by sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wont write him because i aint got the adress but tell him that hes not responsible in any way shape fashion or form. you and your ex have to comfort him in his time of need. oh and if hes cute tell him chey said hi
2006-08-05 07:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by CheyBaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're destroying your kid's life, and a stranger's note is supposed to help?
2006-08-04 20:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on man, He needs to hear this from you...
2006-08-04 20:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you use your nugget! you are his daddy! use yr heart he need you!!
2006-08-04 20:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by this is me... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-08-04 21:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by tariq k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋