Is it better for a child of divorced parents to have one primary home or half half?

Question

Four days at one for school, three days at the other for the weekend.

Answer 1

Oh, God no. Don't do that to your kid. They need a primary residence and the SAME school each day. Kids are creatures of habit and don't usually take change as well as adults. The more stable their schedule is, the more secure they feel. They'll need the security if the parents are going through a divorce.

Answer 2

That is a very hard question. On the one hand, you have to think, "Would I as an adult want to move every 3 to 4 days? But on the other hand, the children should have access to both parents. It works best if you live in close proximity to each other. And frankly, if you can afford it, the kids should have basics in both homes: clothes, bikes, toys, etc. They should not have to pack up all their belongings twice each week.

Also, divorced parents who move hundreds or thousands of miles away from each other ought to be drawn and quartered. Sounds tough? Well, too bad because that's what happens to the kids - they feel as though they are being drawn and quarted, split in different directinos. Divorced parents have an obligation to come to an agreement which will not split the child. After all, at one time you loved each other and created these children. When we parents divorce it's horrible for them and we must do all we can to minimize the effect on their lives.

Answer 3

I wouldn't go for it but I would say for that to work and offer the security and stability they really need the parents would have to agree completely on discipline issues. But I disagree with it because that makes one the school, disciplinarian, slave driver, full time and the other hey its the weekend lets relax and have fun parent and thats not right, they need to spend time off with both parents. School days are so hectic by the time you get home from work, get dinner, get homework done, get baths done its bedtime so that parent has no relaxation time with the child, to me that would really stink, never having fun with them makes it hard to do all the work. Plus I've seen kids in these very loose parenting arrangements just get kind of lost in the shuffle, each parent only knows part of what the kid is up to so it can be far too late when and if you figure out whats going on. It would be like two people sharing the same job in a company, nobody would ever be totally sure of what was done, when it was done or how it was done and eventually it would get to be a mess. Thats why companies say ok your job is payroll, your job is supplies, etc etc.

Answer 4

It would be better for the child to have a primary home. Half and half is too rough on a growing child. Parent will be parent and time spent with the child is what should be the issue.

Answer 5

well it is sad that any marriage goes bad. but the children should know both of there parents while growing up and should buy all means be with them. the best thing is not to have to make such a decision in the first place but that sad to say is not the case.there is an old song out that the whole world should listen to try listing to this song both you and your mate and see if you can work things out for the children's sake.you will be glad you did .

Answer 6

My son does, and he is 8 years old. He does pretty well. He has his home and then he has his dad's house. He functions well, and has great grades in school. He has different things at each house, and I work with his dad and his wife to make sure we are all on the same page. The only thing we do not agree on is allowing him to be his own person. I think he should be individual, his dad thinks being different is bad!

Answer 7

primary home is better for the child...changing schools can be hard on child

Answer 8

i think that a child should have one primary home.. i have that my step children have their dads home where i live too is more where they stay and they see their mom on saturday at 1pm til sunday at 6pm.. but it really messes them up cuz she always do things that we don't approve of just cuz we said no.

Answer 9

this is a problem only you can figure out what is the way to go cause you and your kid(s) have to live with what ever you come up with.

but what ever you do put the kid(s) first .

Answer 10

I think it's a great idea. do whatever is best for the kids