how do i get out of a bad reltionship ?

Question

married for 6 years no kids still love him no passion he is making me mad all the time me too to him what to do? tired and tired of trying.

Answer 1

Oh oh oh dear.

If you love him you shouldnt have to try! And if he loves you the same should go for him. TELL him that you love him, and tell him that it makes you so mad to have a relationship like this when you guys just a few years ago were so so happy together and if there is still love in our hearts why cant it show?

I believe that you should give your heart a chance to be free again from being angry at the person you once loved so much.

Answer 2

I would try one last time with a marriage counselor perhaps - passion can come back - so many times the small stressful and even big stressful things in life distract us from the ones we love and then both pay the price - it's all stress and reality and the passion has no room anymore.

At this point, with no passion I am sure both of you are irritated easily, etc and getting on each other's nerves so whatever you are doing isn't working. I would try a couselor because they can mediate and are neutral and they can help you get to the bottom of this and see if it can be salvaged - for better or for worse right?

I think you both need to forgive and forget and try to start fresh, no coming back at each other or fighting - have to learn how to talk and what is really causing the probs - half the time, it isn't even what you fight about - there is something underlying - and if you can't even remember what it was then you really know that that wasn't it - The biggest thing is to remember why you fell in love -what made you fall in love with him and what your initial attraction was based on - and try to rekindle it - suprise him one night maybe in some lingerie with some candles lit - get out of the daily rountine - that is what kills passion - getting too used to each other and taking each other for granted and thinking sex is more convenient now than passionate - that you can always have it cause they are there - you know?? Bring it back - something and give it one last try - but with 100% effort and true effort means no yelling, fighting- no attacking the other with words. It means expressing yourself like - when you do this, I feel like this and so on instead of placing blame or pointing fingers and it's such a shame that we lose passion to the daily stressors -life is hard enough without fighting each other.

I would suprise him - try to froget all the BS and just start fresh - maybe take a road trip to some nice hotel for the weekend and just relax and make love and get a jacuzzi or take a bath together- something has to be done out of the ordinary to rekindle the passion that was once there - think back and do something drastic...haha get his attention. and tell him how you feel - baby we are losing everything we ever had because of this or that - and I don't want to - I want us to work. Put any pride aside or waiting for him to come to you and just do it - who knows?? - it just may work- good luck

And you know what - real relationships - ones that withstand the test of time and all the downs do take work and lots of it - communication, openness, honesty and effort - so don't let anyone tell you differently. Don't get down about it - jsut spice it up !!! maybe get him a little gift or be more daring sexually if you haven't been - he still loves you but we just get too caught up with all the things around us and you always take things out on the one that you love - don't worry - 6 years is nothing to throw away - talk to him - tell him you love him, massage him - make a special dinner - set aside at leassst one night a week where it is only the two of you doing something special - dressing up and going out or romantic or something - it takes work and I know you are tired of trying but don't be - pick up your spirits and don't let life bring you down - you love each other - remember that.

Answer 3

You are facing a very tough decision indeed.
1) I am assuming that you have talked to him about the issues. If not, maybe a heart to heart will help.
2) Have you tired to find out what went sour in the marriage? Is it work schedules? Lack of spice? Small things that wach of you kept inside that added up?
3) Have you tried marriage counseling?
4) Since you have no kids, divorce is not going to be as messy as with children, but is still going tobe tough after 6 years of marriage).
5) Think hard and long. If the relationship is salvageable, then try. Else think about splitting up.

Answer 4

you could always try dating again and not others but each other. Find things he does that don't make you mad and think on these and when he does make you mad don't say a word until you have thought of aleast one nice thing he has done for you. Try being nicer to him? Don't know the situation totally but you say you still love him so stop hating him

Answer 5

No kids, easier to walk away. But before you do, make sure that you've talked to him and actually tried working on things that need improvement before you do leave because it's better to have really communicated that to him and give him that opportunity to change than to regret later for not giving him a chance to prove himself worthy.

Answer 6

Pack and leave, from there things just get better, getting away can be tough to actually do but its worth it! Keep your focus on how you want your life to be, imagine it in your head and that will help you find the strength and courage to get it done. Good luck.

Answer 7

Make arrangements to find another place andleave. No kids is a blessing in this relationship. Nothing holding you back but yourself.

Answer 8

List down the pros the cons and if you could survive without him, you separate but if not, go into counselling. Try to talk to him first about how he feels about your relationship.. Good Luck.

Answer 9

put a add in the news paper saying you want a divorced and if he doesnt answer in a certain amount of time you will be granted one now if you want half like most women do then serve him papers

Answer 10

What do you mean how do you get out of a bad relationship? No kids? Get a divorce!!!