how can i not be too attached to my bf?

Question

ive been living w/my bf for abou 9months now.. we been together for about 18months. i see myself very attached, how can i stop that before it gets out of hand..? i dont wanna be bugging him. i wanna do my own things.. i work full time too but i work office hrs and he doesnt so when i dont hvae anything to do, i end up calling or txting how can i stop that i dont want that to ruin our relationship.. hes very busy and i cant be doing that! he hasnt complained.. but i dont want taht to happen so plz help?

Answer 1

I think you should give him some freedom as he does to you. I mean...don't call him frequently to ask him: how are you?...where are you?...what are you doing?...who are you with? and so on. Let him a chance to call you, because if you aren't all over him then he'll feel a bit lonely and he'll miss you. That's what me and my bf do ;;)...We just give each other freedom. Good luck :)

Answer 2

if ur thinking ur on ur way 2 start bothering him, and u wanna break the habbit of "clinging" on 2 him..just try 2 find other things 2 do with ur spare time instead of calling him every minute. U kno, work is fine, but hang out with ur homies, go 2 a little get-2gether with 1 of ur girls. (Talk 2 him about this if that'll make u feel better n let him kno what ur trying 2 start doing 2 keep the relationship fresh and not "overcooked.") Then every once in a while, so he won't get a feeling that ur trying 2 be distant (even tho ur not, ur just trying 2 practice on giving each other a little breathing room) text him every once in a while while ur chillin with 1 of ur best friends. Tell him, "what's up," or, "what's goin on...i haven't 4got about u" or somethin like that 2 let him kno ur still appreciating him even tho ur out with a few friends. This can probably encourage him 2 phone a few of his boys up n they can go out n shoot some pool and all that other men stuff. That way, ur relationship will have just enuff. It won't be 2 much or 2 less. It'll b just right.

Answer 3

Not to be rude, but I think your first mistake was moving in with him. What you're suffering from is what I call the house wife syndrome. It's not anything based on psychological evidence but it's what I went through after my husband and I found out I was pregnant and I quit my job. My suggestion would be to take up a craft, hobby, or sport. Do something that will get you out of the house. Because of the fact that you don't get to see him when you're off of work, you get lonely or bored. You're at the house all by yourself with nothing to do and the only thing that you can think to do is call your boyfriend. It's not that you're too attatched, it's just that you have nothing better to do. I took up knitting. Sounds crazy I know, because people generally tend to think of old women when it comes to knitting. I'm 21, but I like it because it keeps my hands busy and holds my concentration. Whenever I finish a project I can wear it and show it off and that helps with confidence. Plus when you get good at it and don't have to concentrate very hard it becomes medatative, much like a rosary or a chant, and I can do it mindlessly. Also I can take knitting anywhere. You don't have to take up knitting but what I am getting at, is keep searching until you find something you like and are passionate about. don't stay at home in front of the tv waiting for him to call on his break. It will drive you insane. if you do want to learn go to knittinghelp.com.

Answer 4

You have to have better control...When you catch yourself calling him or whatever just stop ...Pretty soon you will find you aren't doing it anymore....I know where you are coming from though...You just can't get enough of him..but you have to stop and think that one day you might have to be without him then what are you going to do