I love my husband because of so many good things he does but not his addicting to drinking beer.
2006-08-04 19:44:45 · 14 answers · asked by painfull woman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you can not help anyone who truley doesnt want to help themselves--sad but true--tough love hun you may have to leave him
2006-08-04 19:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by karlyk721 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do but suggest that he gets help and goes to AA. You should only say it a few times because nagging does not help either. He has to want to quit on his own terms. No one can stop an alcoholic from drinking. If he continues to drink and not get help then maybe you should consider separation. Tough love is hard but sometimes that is the key to sobriety.
2006-08-04 19:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone got that pretty much on the button. Be supportive of his recovery. Don't nag. But he needs to do the repair for and on himself. Do yourself a favor and get a copy of the Big Book from AA. There is a great chapter on how to help an alcoholic. Good luck to you and remember self care.
2006-08-04 19:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by STEPHEEDEE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't, he has to do it, anything else will fail for sure. Its a tough road. First you have to get him to admit he has a problem, as long as he doesn't think he does you will get nowhere, then he has to want to change it and he probably doesn't. I hate to break it to you but more often than not this is a losing battle and it takes something MAJOR happening to their lives because of their drinking to snap them in to reality, although often times it just gives them another excuse to drink. If you really want it to change you probably are going to have to be prepared to walk away from him if he won't. If he doesn't quit he's a sinking ship and don't let him drag you down with him, the future is UGLY if you stay with a drunk.
2006-08-04 20:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to realize he has a problem first. Talk to him when ihe is sober and do it in a loving way, he is covering up some sort of feeling, he may not even know he's doing it. drinking is a crutch. like all other additions. It might help if you ask him to go to AA. there is no shame in helping oneself. I wish you the best in fixing your situation. Your not alone either.
2006-08-04 21:14:45 · answer #5 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont he is the only one that can do that
i have been there if he has no desire to stop no one can stop him he must do it
all the schools in the world wont help that is why they make so much money off of these people for they know there is no help if you do not want to help your self i still drink but as i want to not for i need to it is not the drink but something deeper that he is trying to oercome the alcohol is just a front
good luck
2006-08-04 19:54:14 · answer #6 · answered by judetip 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem, i love my husband to death and i refuse to buy his beer and remind him all the time that if he does not stop he will lose not only me but his child as well. he refuses to seek help of any kind and says he can stop but he is cutting down (this i can not see) i too don't know how to get him to stop or go to non-alcoholic brands i guess when he is tired of my nagging it may help?
2006-08-04 19:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by montanamom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure , you allow him to come home and enjoy his time in the house , where you should take care of his food by becoming a good host , ask him not to go out for beer , you can control his consumption , maintaining your cool & patience .
2006-08-04 19:50:14 · answer #8 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get him to quit, he has got to want to do it for himself. You need to find the one thing that would motovate him to quit and expose it to him (Within limits of safety, of course!!) Health issues might be one. Joining Al Annon might help, too if he needs a support network and help with motovation. Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-08-04 19:49:28 · answer #9 · answered by The Nag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him the right help. First talk with your family doctor and ask for recommendations for treatment. That's the best place to start.
2006-08-04 19:49:57 · answer #10 · answered by jumpingrightin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is 'addicted' to alcohol, he should go and see what can be done about it. Suggest that to him. He has to be ready to help himself, though.
2006-08-04 19:48:08 · answer #11 · answered by D L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋