PLZ HELP!!! i cant believe he would do this?

Question

tonight i told my ex boyfriend i thought i was pregnant but hadnt taken a test yet but was pretty sure...he asked me about abortion and i told him i was totally against that and its not allowed in our state without parents knowing. then he asked if their was any way to kill it of get rid of it without letting our parents know.... the thing with the parents is that he is about 3 years older than me (hes 16 im 13) and hes parents would take it VERY badly and im not even sure how my mom would and im really afraid to tell her and right now i no clue how i could get a test to know for sure but im pretty sure i am and i have no clue what to do.....please help

Answer 1

You need to take a pregnancy test and if you are pregnant you need to talk to your mom. Because family are the only people you can really count on.

Answer 2

If he won't take responsibility, screw him. Tell him he doesn't need to be part of the baby's life. Btw, places that sell condoms and pregnancy tests are don't ask, don't tell. Dollar Tree has accurate tests. $1 to know for sure. That's not a bad idea. Just know that you have to collect urine, so you'll need a cup for it and one is not provided. Thought I'd warn you. Now, if it's positive, tell your mom. Get health care. She'll find out eventually. Find out what your options are. She might help you pick out an adoption agency if you want to go that route, or you can do an anonymous surrender at a police station or the hospital. Just look for the signs indicating that it's a Safe Surrender site. Usually it's yellow, triangular, with hands holding a baby. You don't have to give them any information. An adoption agency might be better because many allow you to choose the parents that your child will go to. If you and your mom decide that it's possible for you to keep and raise the baby, and you have good support from friends and family, you can do that too. Btw, even without an agency, you can have a family member adopt your baby! But that's all up to you.

Just remember: first thing's first, get the test. If it's positive, at least take some sort of vitamins, and prenatal ones if you can get them. Tell your mom and get medical care. If it's negative, be more careful. You don't need to be a certain age to get condoms. Planned Parenthood might be able to get you on the pill for little or no money. They will also give out free condoms. I got a huge bag that had to have at least 100 the first time I went. And that time, my parents didn't even know I went. They have plans just for kids who don't want their parents knowing.

Answer 3

First, go to a planned parenthood, or have him buy the test at the store! Find out first before you even worry. I know that is hard, but has to be done. If he used the term "killing it", I am not sure this is someone you want to be the father of a child anyway. If you are NOT pregnant, I would get rid of him, and buy a pack of condoms.....13 is too young to be having sex.......try to change that, you don't need to! I don't know what makes you think you are pregnant, but stressing over it sometimes produces hormones in your body to seem like you are. I wish you luck, and moms can be more helpful than you think after the initial shock....

Answer 4

Honey! 13, What were you thinking? May God have mercy on you. First of all, get of the jerk you called ex-boyfriend, and stay away. I wouldn't advise you to share any information with him what so ever about yourself, or the fact that you could be pregnant. Girl you need to stop now!! Don't play grown up games, when your just a child! And not ready for one. You need to get tested, for pregnancy, and aids right away. I mean right away, don't wait. Look in the yellow papers for assistance for pregnant teens, and alot of times there are free testings. They will even talk with you about your decision about having the baby. You may not be pregnant. (let's pray ypur not) Your mother is the next step. You need to let her know what's going on. She may handle this better than you think. It'll give you two the opportunity to talk and get things out in the open. Share with her, and don't push her away. Hopefully she will be comforting to you until you get things straightened out. PRAY ALOT!

Answer 5

my goodness,ur so young my dear!!u know, u can enjoy sex anytime u want but u should be more careful!!what happened to the physical health education?didnt they teach u about contraceptives and everything?!dont tell me u didnt know!im not agaisnt abortion only if its needed like the case of ectopic pregnancy which will endanger the life of the mom,but in ur case?!a big NO!u cant do anything but tell ur parents about it.u cant do anyhting about it,ur too young!but first u should have a pregnancy test first.it happens to me before when i got devirginized that my period hasnt come so im also worried.i test and its negative.its might just some hormonal imbalance since u have sex at an early age.better to check now,not sooner,not later but now and if its positive,have enough courage to tell ur parents about it.u commited a mistake but abortion isnt the only solution.goodluck..

Answer 6

What!!!! your Ex boyfriend is a F***ing Horny Son of a ***** I dare him do that to you and he souldn't been wanting to kill the baby if you were pregnant becasue it could kill you also so if you haven't had you blooding thing next month you might be pregenant but if you are go to your mom and tell her that you are sorry and then tell her what going on I don't care if you are realy afraid, I'm sure your mom well forgive you becasue all what Some guys want is Sex and matter of fact you are to young to be dating because you are not ready

Answer 7

Planned Parenthood has free pregnancy testing. If you are pregnant....you need to talk with your mother. She may be upset, but it will pass. Angry or not, you need to find out for sure before you jump to a decision on whether to abort or anything like that. There are a lot of couples who would love to adopt your baby if you aren't prepared to deal with a baby. Talk to an adult about your situation soon!

Answer 8

If your gonna have sex, than you need to learn about CONDOMS> It is very stupid of you to have sex without condoms EVER! (unless married are WANT to have kids with a man who has been tested for sexual diseases)

A) Tell mommy.
B) She will take you to doctor (or you can go by yourself) to get a pregnancy test, AIDS test, Gonorrhea test , Chlamydia test and Syphilis test.
I hope all comes back negative but if you keep up having sex without CONDOMS, than you will get some of the above.

Answer 9

Getting help at your age without having your parents get involved is a difficult thing. What state do you live in? That will effect some of this, I think.

Answer 10

There's clinics that offer free pregnancy tests either that or you can just go pick one up at the drug store. You should tell your Mother or talk to someone. There are hotlines you can call. I'm sure your bf is just as scared as you are b/c you're both still kids!