i was raped but i dont want to go to the police?

Question

well today when me and my boyfriend were fooling around he raped me and i told him to stop but he didnt i think im pregnate with his baby by the way he's 18 and im 17 turning 18 and i dont want to go to the police because i pretty much forced him because the week before i slepted with his best freind and he gets really jealous and i dont want to have this baby and i want to have a abortion
what should i do

i didnt tell him i slept with his best friend he found us and broke his arm and a couple of days later he said he forgived me for what i did

i didnt sleep with the whole wolrd i only slept with my boyfriend and his bestfriend(which was a mistake)

i think im pregnate because he didnt use protection and i wasnt on birthcontrol

IM NOT HAVING RADOM SEX I'VE ONLY SLEPT WITH 2 ******* PEOPLE SO STOP TRYING TO SAY IM SLUT

Answer 1

go to the police he doesnt care for you trust me

Answer 2

I can tell you are really confused and my advice before you cause yourself any more pain is to get some counseling, perhaps through planned parenting. Every action causes a reaction and I can certainly understand how you feel about not wanting to call the police. When I was raped it was too much my word against his and all it would have caused is more pain and problems for me. Years later I have never regretted my decision.
Aborting your baby is a quick solution, but before you do ask yourself in the years to come are you going to be able to live with yourself. Sometimes easy solutions are the worst way of solving problems. Unfortunately, if you abort baby you will NEVER be able to undo it.
I think you are just a young woman who is looking for love, that is why you are being indiscrimiate about sexual partners (been there - done that) When I stopped was when I started looking inside myself and learning to see the beauty inside me. It was every bit as exciting and scary as swimming in the depths of the ocean. One more word of advice. I also couldn't have done it alone. I needed to seek out a professional. Good luck to you

Answer 3

Hi my name is Christina
What made you sleep with your boyfriend's friend in the first place? Well anyways In a way I kinda think you should go to the police because if you told him to STOP and he didn't that's RAPE!!! Over a million girls around the world get RAPE everyday and most of them don't have the choice to go tell someone or they end up getting kill! So to prevent him from doing it again or to someone else go to the police! Ohh yeah and don't get no abortion cause that's a big SIN keep your baby she or he doesn't have to know what happen until they're old enough!

Answer 4

I hope you're not serious.But if you are God help you.You were raped if you told him to stop and he didn't.This happened to me when I was 14.I told him I would sleep w/ him but then he started doing painful things.I'de rather not go into detail.But I told him to stop but he wouldn't.
And he wouldn't say anything until he was finished.When he was done I didn't know what to think so I kept it to myself but I knew I was
hurting physically and what he did was wrong.
I didn't want to tell anyone I was raped because I knew it would get back to him and he would do something terrible to me.Also in my situation, which is very simular to yours,he was jealous because I had just lost my virginity the week before to someone else.He was angry because it was not him so he raped me.What I am telling you is 100% true.I am shocked because your situation is so simular to mine.PLEASE listen to me.TAKE my advice.
You need to go to someone in your family.Someone that you trust.Tell them.Go to a counseler.They will help you decide if you should go to the police.The choice is yours though if you want to get the law involved.I personally urge you to.You may feel embarassed but you should tell the police.This is not your fault.I'm sure you feel guilty for sleeping with his friend but that is not why you got raped.You did not deserve punishment for what you did.Now.Calm down and find out for sure:ARE YOU PREGNANT?If you are then I beg of you.For God's sake please don't have an abortion.Even if you don't want the child there are other options.If I knew you myself I would take the child.REMEMBER even though you were raped the unborn baby is innocent.
PLEASE don't kill it.If you want to talk to me you can look up my email information.MY prayers are with you and remember the same thing that happened to you happened to me.
You need to talk to someone.Please look up my email info.


PS:I sent you a message w/ my email address
just incase you want to talk to someone.

Answer 5

The law, possibly fortunately in this case, is always more protective of the woman in rape cases. They'd probably overlook the thing that you "pretty much forced him", claiming a lack to control an impulse on his part.

Go to the police, I beg you. It'd be for the better. Judging from the fact that you slept with his best friend, I'm thinking the two of you aren't just quite right for each other & it'd probably be better for him to be away from you if he really did rape you.

If you really are pregnant, they can help, too. I wish you the best.

Answer 6

Yes, report it rape is an act of violence it's not sex. As far as the abortion issue that pregnacy will not go away just cause it gets sucked out of you. I suggest you talk to your parents and a doctor and a therapist. There are risks with a abortion that you need to know before you seek treatment. People need to realize that there are reactions to choices that we make in life. Abortion is used to widely for people who won't just get a perscription for birthcontrol pills. Nobody realizes that a abortion is surgery and it's evassive. God be with you child but use your parents for help and guidence in this matter.

Answer 7

Are you crazy?

First, if he raped you it is a crime. You should report it and right now. Go to a hospital and report it. If you don't and he breaks up with you he might rape his next girlfriend and so on. He thinks it is okay. It isn't. I am not kidding. you should go to the emergency room and get this on the record.

Second, you did not cause him to rape you. His temper did that and that is wrong. It is also wrong that he broke his friends arm. That is assault. He should go to jail for that too. But in no way did your sleeping with his friend justify him assaulting you today.

And Third, when you go to the hospital they will do what ever you ask them given the circumstances. If you bring up the question of pregnancy they will educate you on your options. Listen to them and make your decision. But, do so now, the longer you wait the worse it will be reclaiming control of your life.

Sorry to read this but you need to act now. Good Luck.

Answer 8

I really don't know what to say to this complex story about he raping you, but you kinda forced him to by sleeping with his friend. It seems like if you "forced" him to "rape" you, and you do not want to go to the police, then... what's your question again?

Even though I believe in a woman's right to choose, but if you ever do abort this child, you should live with that guilt for the rest of your life. It is completely your own careless conduct that brought this child about (I mean, it is impossible for you to know you're pregnant with his baby if he just "raped" you TODAY. Right? So that means you must have had consensual sex with him before, and it was during one of these times that you got pregnant.)

All I can say is it sounds like you've brought youself to your own pitfall. Ask your parents for help, or your school counselors.

Answer 9

Listen RAPE IS RAPE! If he caredanything about you, he wouldn't have done this to you. You do need to report this to the police, the longer you wait, the more evidence you loose. Then it will become "consentual sex" and not rape. You will have to live with this for the rest of you're life. You may even have to care for his baby for the nest 18 yrs. I think he did this to get back at you for being with his friend. Therefore, I don't think he cares for you at all. If he did, he wouldn't have commited such a crime against you. He probably thinks that you wouldn't have the nerve to report him. He's going to say that you said yes and not "NO" The nest step is to get a pregnancy test, and aids test while you're at it. You never know. You really need to let your family know what's going on. You're so young to have to deal with this on your own. Please, go tell someone what happened, someone that can help you. PLEASE!PLEASE!PLEASE!

Answer 10

In my personal opinion, I strongly disagree with Ruri V. It is not abt religious matter or what, it is about a innocent life that we are talking abt here though it is legal procedure to do so. Don't ever tot of abortion - The baby is innocent. It is a decision you will regret for life aft doing so. Don't live your rest of ya life with this regret till the day you die... I rather ya give ya baby up for adoption instead, if ya reali tink ya cann handle the baby at ya young age.

Talk things out with ya parents is probably the next best solution to police...

Answer 11

If you said no. Then it was no.
You don't force anyone to rape you. That is HIS excuse.
What is your excuse for having such loose morals? Why in the world are you having sex with so many people? Don't you have pride in yourself? Are you wanting to be a used piece of meat before you even turn into an adult?
TELL YOUR PARENTS NOW. Get tested for AIDS now. I would be more concern over getting a disease than being pregnant.