me and my boyfriend for 5 yrs just broked up. we've been trying to have a baby for 2 yrs.i just got back from a 3 months vacation, now he's telling me that he's ben doing a lot of thinking while i was gone and he doesn't know wat he wants! he's not ready to have a family and he wants space to think wat he really wants. i'm so hurt by this and i don't know wat to do!!!!
2006-08-04 19:06:50 · 8 answers · asked by maria_christian0901 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all, he's just a boyfriend so you shouldn't want to have his baby anyway! Regardless of how long you two have been together. It's clear that you're probably not the one that he wants to spend the rest of his life with otherwise he wouldn't ask for space when you're asking him for a "committment" because having a child together is a huge committment (it bonds the two of you together for the rest of your lives whether you two ever get married or not). If he never wants to get back with you, consider yourself lucky because you don't want a child with someone who doesn't want one to begin with.
2006-08-04 19:14:47 · answer #1 · answered by sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well think of it this way what if you already were pregnant with his baby and he wanted space. At least you were not pregnant. Give him space let him see what he wants. His vacation was probably with another woman. Seems very strange he is on vacation for 3 months comes back and now he is confused. Go out have fun with others maybe it was not meant to be.
2006-08-04 19:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run as far away as u can. if he is still unsure after this long then you are wasting your time on him. you say he wants space and you went on a 3 mos vacation. how much space does he need. try to separate yourself from the emotions and read your question- the answer is written there. i am sorry for your broken heart
2006-08-04 19:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by speeblesrn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 years is long enough to know what you want to do. He may have met someone else while you were on vacation. Tell him it is time to SH_ _, or get off of the pot. Don't waste anymore time with him. I know it hurts but give it some time.
2006-08-04 19:15:08 · answer #4 · answered by Jacks036 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be grateful that he figured this out before you had a child. over the course of a long relationship, people usually change. sometimes they get closer to one another, and sometimes they realise they want different things in life. it is not an indication that things were bad between you through out the relationship or anything. more just that he is at a different time in his life to you right now.
2006-08-04 19:13:23 · answer #5 · answered by girl3blonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect his wishes and move on with your life. He doesnt sound like he'd make a good father. And obviously marriage is out of the question. Sounds to me that he's made it perfectly clear what he wants.
2006-08-04 19:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mum and dad residing house their policies. Get your man or woman residing house and flow by using your policies. of direction you love your mum and dad, yet you ought to stay your existence for you-no longer them. there's no use in pressuring him right into a faith he has no longer customary in the previous very just about 4 years. in spite of if he did, your mum and dad(dad)could in all likelihood nonetheless look down on him.
2016-10-01 12:07:47 · answer #7 · answered by damaris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how you truly feel. Allow him to make the decision for himself and that although it may hurt, you support his choices. If you beat yourself up about it, it will only hurt even more.
2006-08-04 19:12:15 · answer #8 · answered by Kwik N Stik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋