he tried to rape me because he was junk and he wanted to have sex but i said no
i love him and he loves me
and i know he didnt mean to do what he did
is it ok to have sex
2006-08-04 18:54:33 · 26 answers · asked by keely 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
he was drunk that night and he woke up the next morning and didnt remeber any thing and i dont want to leave him
2006-08-04 18:59:30 · update #1
he started drinking this much after i found out i was pregnate and stoped having sex
2006-08-04 19:06:27 · update #2
he really isnt like this
he's really a good person and he wouldnt do this in he's right state of mind
2006-08-04 19:09:30 · update #3
talk to him and tell him to go to rehab because i guess this is his way of not having sex even though he didnt rape you he should seek help and you can have sex when your pregnate it helps with the dilvely
GoodLuck
4 the 3 of U
2006-08-04 19:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by kay2angel 4 · 10⤊ 2⤋
It IS safe to have sex when you are pregnant. However " rape " is FORCING himself on you and could hurt you AND the baby.
"Rape" has nothing to do with " making love ". It is a very hateful act, with the intent to harm.
You said " he was junk ". Did you mean he was ON junk, meaning heroin?, and he didn't mean to do it?????????
I have to wonder why you would be "in love " with a person like that. Believe me, THAT'S NOT LOVE !!!! And, the other way around, you don't rape someone you love.
I keep sitting here trying to think of something else to say to you, but I have a feeling you wouldn't listen anyway. So, good luck and take care of your baby.
EDIT
OK, now that you have added additional info, my advise for you is to get as far away as you can from this guy.
I know that's not what you WANT to hear, nut it's the truth.
If you have any kind of self respect at all, and if you want your baby to be safe and have a loving family, please get away!!!
Knowing that you are pregnant, has he even proposed to you? Or is he just going to keep you around long enough to get away with what he 's been doing, then dump you, and be a " deadbeat dad"? I could answer that for you, but you probably wouldn't listen to me.
You NEED to talk to your parents or someone that knows you well and will help you. Don't count on it being him !!!
2006-08-04 19:09:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have sex while you are pregnant (If you don't have any serious conditions, such as an incompetent cervix), HOWEVER it is never ever okay to be forced into sex if you don't want it. It sounds like your boyfriend needs to not drink, as it sounds like he gets violent. This is not someone that you want around a baby! You need to seriously evaluate if you want a violent drunk around you and your child. Past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior, and no, having a baby won't change him. God bless you and your baby.
2006-08-04 19:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by The Nag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety I know how you feel my boy friend has never tried to rape me but when I dont feel like doing it he gets pissed and keeps begging me to do it. Is he the father of your baby? If so you should try to work it out tell him how you feel and let him know how bad he hurt you. It would be wise to ask your self this question, would you really want some one that is pretty much a rapist raising your baby? Think of whats best for your child he or she will be the most important thing in your life. good luck please feel free to e-mail me any time you want to talk robin_angel2005@yahoo.com
2006-08-04 19:02:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can say all he wants. Rape is Rape being drunk isn't and excuse He's going to get drunk again. Next time he might go to far and hit you and kill the baby or he might kill you. Don't give him the chance. Dump his *** you'll find another person who loves you and that you love back. Don't give him another chance if he did it once he will do it again.
2006-08-04 19:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by Amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look don't make excusses for him. NO MEANS NO. What if you were injured you could have lost your baby due to his lack of judgement. If he were being a responsible person this should be a good time for the both of you. Trust me dear I was raped by a man who claimed he was drunk. Funny he raped two other women being drunk after I reported him. Put your child first PLEASE.
2006-08-04 19:33:48 · answer #6 · answered by rene197320 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rape is rape. It doesn't matter if it is a stranger or a husband. If he truly loves you he would not try to force you have sex when you say no. He has no repsect for you. Do you really want him to raise your child and teach them that rape is ok?
2006-08-04 18:59:41 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he tried to rape you he dosnt love you. It dosnt matter if he was drunk he needs to respect you. For gods sake your pregnant he could have harmed that baby.
No means No and if you allow him to treat you that way than there is nothing you can do. But if you dont want him to treat you this way you need to leave his ***. He dosnt need to be getting drunk anyway espically since your pregnant.
2006-08-04 18:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by catherine b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its fine 2 have sex when u r pregnant but not 2 b raped, maybe u should think about whether or not this is the kind of man u want raising your child.
2006-08-04 18:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its perfectly okay to have sex when you are pregnant unless your doctor told you not 'cause of some compilation, but, like all sex it should have a consent of 2 people involve, not one. If you feel you were violated... report him to the authority.
2006-08-04 19:03:10 · answer #10 · answered by Dawn Treader 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can still have sex while you're pregnant, but rape is rape. If you feel that he violated you, you should tell somebody. If it happens once, it might happen again so just be careful!
2006-08-04 18:58:15 · answer #11 · answered by sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋