Ok I'm 13 and I'm pregnant and my babies dad is 18 and is willing to have the baby...are we fine in this?..

Question

my parents wont accept it my dad told me he will kill me if i ever got pregnant and i dont believe in abortions...i love my babies dad we knew eachother since we were 6 and now i am pregnant. i think im going 2 run away n give birth my parents will look for me but i dont think they will find me because im not goin to live with him he's gona be there to support me though and i have another friend that will support me(a girl friend im not a whore)..

Answer 1

At 13 your life is in your hands and truly just starting - making the choice should not be that hard - how will you work, are you willing to give up the parties and fun growing up???
There are so many loving families that could give your baby a wonderful life - one of the best gifts that you have to offer is to not be selfish and do what you want, but rather, do what will be best for your babies life and yours.
Life is wonderful - make sure you have time to enjoy it - don't get stuck so early in your life, you'll be sorry you missed it when you're older.
Good luck

Answer 2

abort the baby, its for you sake and your future, having a baby that young can be very dangerous, and ruin your childhood. how will you go to high school? you wont be able to go to movies? youll need to work 2 jobs to support the baby which you wont be able to do until you 16ish, by then your baby will be 3 years old, i doubt the dad will stick around with you for the rest of your life..sorry to say. and if you run away then the cops will always find you. once you have the kid im sure the hospitals will keep a look out for a 13 yr old giving birth and give notice to the cops that you are there. your bf wil most likely get arrested dor sagitory(sp?) rape since its illegal in most states for an 18 yr old to have sex with a minor. then he will be registered as a sex offender. well thats the worst that can happen at least, hopefully it will not come to that. Just dont run away, it wil only make the situation worse.your parents should support you and if they dont then go to a local planned parenthood and see what advice they can give you there. but your only 13 and should abort the baby, or you can give the baby up for adoption, raising a baby is hard work and you are still young yourself. a statistic said that if you have a baby now, from when its born until its 18 you will spend over 365,000 dollars on it. its expensive and i dounght an 18 year old can make that much money. anyways you can always have another one with him when your legal and are married. now is not the time for that.

Answer 3

Hi! Well first of all I think that a congrats is in order! I am 25, and I have a two month old boy, It is overwhelming and awesome! I am against abortion and I think that you are a brave and mature person to have this baby! I think that it is great that your boyfriend is taking responsibility aw well!!!!

I am sure that your parents disagree, but running away will not make things better, only worse. You are fixing to go through a tremendous amount. Emotionally, physically and mentally! It takes a lot, but you can do this. I would try to sit sown and reason with your parents, and tell them you know that you are young, but you are responsible. If this makes things worse, then maybe you should then try to stay with another family member, because you do not want to put any risk to the baby, and stress is the number one cause for miscarriage.

Congratulations, and God bless.

Answer 4

First of all, your parents can have your b/f arrested for having sex with you in the first place. It is illegal in EVERY state for a guy (or girl) that is 18 or older to be having sex with someone under the age of consent...which in only a few states is 16...most states are 17 or 18. If you run away your parents would definately call the police on him to make them tell you where you are. You are still a child yourself. You are barely of legal age to even babysit and you think that you will be able to raise a child? If you drop out of school how do you think that you will be able to support yourself and your baby when your guy takes off on you, and most likely it will happen!

Answer 5

Wish someone coulda gotten to you before know to prevent this, but since it's obviously too late for that, I would say, there's a lot of adult decisions that are going to be thrown your way, and you're going to have to try and be as adult as you can.

Number 1: running away while 13 and pregnant isn't a hot idea. You're going to need help to deliver a baby at your age. Your body wasn't quite ready for this, and there's a high risk for stillborns, and other problems in girls that young. So 'running away n giving birth' is not the way a responsible adult would react. You need to consider whether you are really ready to give up most everything you ever wanted to have this child. B/C if you keep this baby, he gets to come first. Not you, not your feelings for this jerk of an 18 year old who should've known better than to ever be with a 13 year old girl. I can almost guarantee this boy will not stick around. If he was irresponsible enough to get a child pregnant, he is too irresponsible to raise a child.

Your family WILL be angry. Get used to the idea. I was 22 years old when I found myself unmarried and pregnant and my mom was STILL upset with me. They don't like it when we make choices that derail our lives. The only thing making sense in what you said is that you won't have an abortion. Good. Women never recover from killing the life inside them just b/c it's inconvenient. Take responsibility for your actions and before you even tell your parents, make out a plan (a flexible one) for what you'll do, and then ask them their advice, and tell them you need their help.

PLEASE consider placing your baby for adoption. In a private adoption, you get to personally choose, meet, spend time with, really get to know a family before you select them for your baby. And many adoptions now are open, meaning you get some contact with your birthchild. You'd be able to start picking up the pieces of your life, though you'll never forget or 'get over' placing your child. But you could live with the knowledge that your baby would get both parents in a stable, financially secure environment. I chose to keep my child, but I also have very supportive parents and a supportive church family.

Once you have this child, whatever your decision to raise him yourself or choose someone else to, it would be a really good idea to save marriage for where it belongs, marriage. I've recommitted myself to waiting for my husband, and it's a load off my mind I won't be dealing with that stress again. Ever. Cuz the next time I get pregnant, i'll be married, and there'll be no decisions to make except...what color to paint the nursery.

Answer 6

There's no way you're gonna be able to survive out in the real world as a thirteen year old Mother. You're not old enough to get a job anywhere and if you're a runaway, you won't be able to keep going to school... you should just tell your parents. Parents make threats like that in order to scare you from making mistakes. If worse comes to worse, you can have a cellphone handy in case your Dad tries. Don't runaway though! That bf of yours will probably get arrested if anybody ever finds out he was the one that got your pregnant. He should know better. Good-Luck though!

Answer 7

Sis, please think about what you will have to do if you decide to run away.......You're not old enough for a job, you would have no place to live, and if I were your parents I would have your "boyfriend" put in jail for statutory rape.....Now, with boyfriend in jail, you STILL with no job and no way to support your baby, where will you go??? Back to mom and dad.....So why leave there in the first place????Think about it........Take care........By the way, do your parents KNOW you are pregnant yet???? Dad won't KILL you, I'm sure, they will be upset though but will wants what's best for you and the baby........

Answer 8

as long as u your self do no longer touch or get close to the cocaine your toddler would be effective. in case you someway ingest, inject, inhale, etc..the cocaine you're able to take the extensive threat of a "crack" toddler being born and loosing your rights to that toddler plus penal complex time. additionally, if the boyfriend is a crack consumer, he desires help in the previous the toddler is born. reason perfect now it doesnt look stable for you. having a toddler is a extensive responsiblity, if between the mum and dad of the unborn have a drug concern that discern desires rehab. with the aid of fact no baby ought to strengthen up in a cocaine environment and be subjected to criminal circumstances that ensue whilst the addict is caught with cocaine and the baby is going to foster care or that discern dies or isn't able to guard the baby the superb way. you have many months to make this toddler's existence a competent one. decide for properly.

Answer 9

I've seen almost 20 cases in 1 year of being an intern of 12-14 year old dying during pregnancy because their ribs breaking they cant breathe and their iron is so low they lose weight and die.If you are 1 to 4 weeks pregnant you could always get a surgent mother for her.

Answer 10

The best thing for you is to have an abortion, when i was 13.. i didn't believe in abortions either and i wanted to have a baby so bad to .. but then my mom told me that i was stupid, and i wouldn't have a life.. i would have to clean dirty diapers.. then it went threw my head that i didn't want a kid anymore. the dad would end up going to jail and i know you wouldn't want that. And you running away is a bad idea.. the cops would find you quick.. trust me Ive tryed it.. and I regret it.