After the baby my husband won't have sex with me?

Question

i gave birth 7 months ago and my husband told me i never should have asked him to be in the delivery room And now he sleeps on the couch...Help..... I love him wiyh all my heart What can i do to get him to return to our bedroom?

Answer 1

He sounds very immature if he cannot handle that his wife brought life into this world for him then he has a lot of growing up to do. He should of been in the delivery room with you to be by your side he was the one who got your pregnant and you were in need of him there to help you out. He needs to think there are lots of men out in this world that could care less about how you had your baby and they would jump at the chance in a second.

Answer 2

ok, ive heard of this many times, this is not uncommon.. some men just cant handle being in the delivery room and watching something so small have to get so big to get a baby out ..lol not to mention that their perfect "area" so to speak, didnt look to pretty from all the mess, .. 7 months is a long time, but i wouldnt give up your marriage for it.. just keep trying to persuade him to the bedroom ..and he is being a baby.. and an idiot about it.. but then again he is a Male lol.. he shouldnt be sleeping on the couch no reason for that.. do u suspect any type of infidelity, i know thats not something u probably even want to think about, and a woman usually knows this in her gut.. so can u definately rule that out? if so, then just give him time but id definately make him get back into bed, if he doesnt want to have sex thats one thing, but sleeping on the couch, thats absolutely ridiculous.. and perhaps u should seek marriage counseling to deal with his issues if this is that traumatic for him.. but sounds to me that the sleeping on the couch part is more of an excuse for something.. besides the labor thing.. either the fact that he feels he gets away with less parental "Baby" night duty by sleeping on the couch, or some other hidden agenda.. Like i said ive heard of the sex thing before after birth but never the sleeping on the couch thing.. So u do need to get to the bottom of that..

Good luck..

Answer 3

Okay. Just so everyone here knows. From where a guy stands
there is NOTHING beautiful about childbirth. There is no joy in seeing your wife ripped open and the kid and all gushing out. It was not that fun watching the dog have puppies either. I did the delivery twice and swore never again. You might try to literally jump his bones on the couch a couple of times so he remembers what his view used to be. Make sure he knows your encounter will not put him back in the delivery room. Good Luck.
There is a reason that midwives are women. If a guy wants to see that he will go to the barn, he does not want to see his wife reduced to to the animal state. That beauty of which women speak is created by their endorphins and Demerol.

Answer 4

This is probaly a phase he is going through. A lot of husbands feel like this after being in the delivery room. If it is still going on he may need to seek counciling. It's not a bad thing, he just has to get over seeing you in so much pain & bleeding. He might feel responsable for all that. He don't want to see you going through it again. That is why he don't want to be near you. He wants you but is afraid he will hurt you again.

Answer 5

I guess it could start with a coffee or hot choco and heart-to-heart talk. It would be best to talk it over and give him the right knowledge that it's how it really is. That there's nothing to be afraid of. I think it's best if you make the move. After all, it's you who gave birth, it's you who suffered, it's you who's in pain during that moment. And tell him this... "look at me now, what you witnessed really hurt me but what you're doing right now, hurts twice as what I've experienced..."
Goodluck and may a happy marriage be on the roll :-)

Answer 6

He needs counseling. It has nothing to do with his ego, about his "perfect spot" or anything else. Some people(men and even women) are traumatized by the site of a vaginal birth. It could very well be that He remebers how you were in so much pain delivering your bundle of joy and he doesn't want to put you through that again. He may not be a selfish idiot, but you (and he) won't know unless you talk to him(not badger, or argue) with him about it.

Answer 7

You are not the problem. Seems he's having a hard time seeing you as the "sexual being" you were before you gave birth. Some men have a hard time adjusting. You may want to suggest counseling. It helps to talk about it.

Answer 8

there is nothing you should do, the want to be around you should never go away no matter what.if he really loves you he needs to seek professial help. wacthing my son come into this world was the most beautiful moment in my life it made me think about all those times i had mess up with her and made me drop to my kness and ask god for forgiveness.tell him he is messing up a great thing and he needs to wake up because when a woman gets fed up all we men have at the end is regert

Answer 9

tell him how much it's hurting you for one. And to be honest it seems like a 'dick move' . Child birth is such a beautiful thing

He might need to get some professional help. Other than htat i'd recommend visiting an adult shop and getting some sexy clothes or somethign that he'd like

Answer 10

I think that he has seen more than he wanted to.Explain to him that you have given him a child and he needs to realize how much you love him and that you want things to work between the both of you.Maybe counseling is in order.Do whatever it takes.He needs to see you as his sexy,horney wife(before the child)and not the mommy who gave birth.Help him to wake up before he ruins the marraige.