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Ok my bf has this problem and i just dont get it... For example.. My parents got this video camera as they didnt have one and they were borrowing his and he cracked the shits saying that he was sad they got one and he doesnt feel special anymore. But the thing is he used to get shitty if they asked to borrow something. They didnt no that only i do but yeah. Also the other day he got shitty coz i was talking to my mom about this dvd preview i saw and it looked good, my mom loves to collect dvds anyway i was telling her but i had to ring my bf as i couldnt remember what the movie was called and he was like why do you wana no and i was like i was telling mom about it and his like y? I dont no y you have to. He was shitty coz she would get it first and like out do him but the thing is my family isnt like that he just goes strange?? I need help i just dont get him at times. Then other times his awsome he just goes thro little stages. We have been together 2yrs.

2006-08-04 18:03:50 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Friends

and yes ive tried to chat to him but all he says is i feel sad as i dont feel special and he even gets shitty if my brother has this ps2 game b4 him!!

2006-08-04 18:04:26 · update #1

the thing is i feel happy with him its only this situation.... He says he loves me and my heart is with him but i just need help with this. How whole relationshiop is awsome he just gets so jealous of my family...

2006-08-04 18:04:54 · update #2

20 answers

Maybe that´s because he feels your family is first and he comes second. Make him understand that you love him but there´s two different things...he is your boyfriend and not your owner...he has to share your time and feelings. You need to settle a limit cause in the future this could be an issue with your kids or friends

2006-08-04 18:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by miliscal123 4 · 0 1

Perhaps someone mistreated him or something in his family background happened in the past to cause him to feel inferior in the face of what he perceives to be competition. It sounds like he has some personal issues that deal with dependence and trust. If he becomes "angry" when he is consulted and "hurt" when he is not consulted, he must deal with resolving these feelings within himself if he expects to have successful relationships with others. That is a no-win situation. You cannot "tiptoe around on eggshells" and avoid having normal conversation and sharing with your mother and other family members just to keep him feeling special. Encourage him to seek personal counseling to overcome his feelings of inferiority before he does something destructive to himself or to others. Do not compete with him on any level because this will only make bad matters worse. Do not depend on him until he gets help and a change of attitude. Best wishes.

2006-08-04 18:26:58 · answer #2 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0 0

Jealousy caused me to get divorced,my ex did not want me talking to my parents.everytime i called them she would get mad and say y did u call them.I put up with it for a while then she got pregnant and did not even want me to call my parents.I did anyway and she decided she wanted a divorce.But thats ok my daughter and I are better off.Then I got into another relationship with a women we both really loved but jealousy steped in again I was told we spent to much time at my parents house.Well my girlfriend worked 3rd shift while she was sleeping I would get the 3 year old out the house and bring her to see her grandparents.Try to keep it quiet another one bites the dust.I have said all this just to say if you think you can live with the jealousy go for it but it normally gets worse with time.I just noticed if you take the jea off all you have left is LOUSY. good luck.

2006-08-04 18:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by Desperado 5 · 0 0

Here's what i think...he's acting really immature and childish and u need to tell him that if he cant get over the little things then u need to learn to get over him because if he makes you feel like crap and he acts like a total jerk then he really doesnt love you but i understand how hard it would be to end a 2 year relationship so you might think about sitting him down and telling him how you truly feel...i hope it all works out

2006-08-04 18:14:01 · answer #4 · answered by Nora n Kt 1 · 0 0

if you love God you should know that you don't need this fool in your life. This is not your husband and you fill uncomfortable around him when it comes to your parents. You need to find a wise man who is secure in his life and understand the meaning of love. He has no respect for you are your family.
by the way if you think this is a little problem you are wrong.
ASK YOUR MOTHER WHAT SHE THINKS

2006-08-04 18:28:53 · answer #5 · answered by gemini2 1 · 0 0

i imagine you already comprehend the answer. men love the chase. do not EVER chase men! you'll lose all of them too speedy! in case you opt for him to not take you with no interest, disappear even longer this time. Get busy with different events outdoors of him. enable him chase you and once you're taking him back, supply up all the texting and calling etc. this is a sturdy thanks to keep dropping him.

2016-10-15 11:10:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well, if you're really happy with him, then try to overlook that. Everybody has their flaws. I don't think there is any way you can change his jealousy. Maybe just reassure him that you think he's awesome even if he isn't the hero of everything.

2006-08-04 18:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by crystal 3 · 0 0

no offence but ur guy is a brat tall him its either he go find some poor chick to deal with or quit crying about stupid stupid hes not gonebe the first to get everything when it first comes out i feel sorry for you to haveto go through this really

2006-08-04 18:10:24 · answer #8 · answered by ounce212001 1 · 0 0

Yes, he is jealous..............So tell him as little as you can about things that would make him jealous.............Guys don't need to know little things like mom got a certain DVD..........or video camera.........when he sees it .......then he will know...........It seems he likes to be in control of things and when someone else gets something he has .........he feels he no longer is in control .........and they don't need him anymore.........You will have to break him slowly of this..............

2006-08-04 18:14:18 · answer #9 · answered by ginny3282 4 · 0 0

Ummm well maybe you could tell him something that arent so great about your family & compare them to his family or you could point out good qualities about his family.
If that doesnt work I wouldnt see him anymore.

2006-08-04 18:09:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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