Me and my man have been together for about 6 years. We both know that seperating is the best thing to do but neither one of us wants to let go.plez someone help.sincerely confused.
2006-08-04 18:00:49 · 14 answers · asked by Tatiana M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why is it the best thing to let go when neither of you wants to? If there's love still there, then it's worth working on. I don't know why people are always so eager to move on. My now hubby and I almost broke up when we were together around 6 years and we worked through it and it's been 11 years dating today and 3 years married in 2 weeks. If you both love each other, work through it. Good luck!
2006-08-04 18:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by mytreacheryiseternal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know for sure that it IS the best thing to do if neither one of you want to let go? 6 years is a long time to be with someone..what are your reasons for wanting to seperate?..maybe if I knew more..I could give some advice.
2006-08-04 18:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by me_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After six years, it's hard to give that all up. But if you are both unhappy, and agree it's for the best, then you should do it.
It's just inertia, a subject at rest, will stay at rest. It needs some kind of energy to start the movement.
Same with you two, one of you has to grab the bull by the horns, and move out.
If you are living together, you must decide who gets the place, if you aren't, then it's much easier.
Get with your friends, get back into circulation, find some activity, volunteer for some project, get your mind of your troubles.
Time will pass, and you will move on, and hopefully find someone new to share your life with.
It's not as if you will be able to foget him, in a matter of weeks, but as time goes by, it will get easier and easier.
Good luck.
2006-08-04 18:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be alot of unhappy things going on that hurt both of you alot yet both of you refuse to let go & want to hang on. Both of you love each other, so much so it hurts alot too.
Since both of you refuse to let go, hang on to it. Give it your best shot. Talk out the issues & discuss / resolve them one by one. Go counselling, if neccessary. Some couples who loved each other so much yet on the verge of splitting simply because they do not understand each other for certain things due to musunderstandings. They tried counselling & resume their relationship & keep it going stronger than ever. If counselling is not your cup of tea (though it's the fastest way), then read up books on understanding the differences between men & women, you'll be surprised at the common misunderstandings among couples & work on them.
If all else fails mainly due to incompatibility reasons, don't force it anymore, then let go & start afresh. At least, both of you try to make it work & won't live to regret it. Wish each other to lead a happy life. When you love someone, you want him/her to be happy and not to be hurt. When he/she is happy, you tend to be happy for him/her too. That is also love, in a different form.
2006-08-04 18:12:57 · answer #4 · answered by Queenie Tay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need to know why you guys are wanting seperate and if it is worth giving up those 6yrs of being in love for want ever reason you are deciding to break up. If I were you I would keep the relationship.
2006-08-04 18:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible, but hard especially if you dont have a good support group around you. However, if you have someone to talk to time go by fast and then you'll eventually be alright. Keep ya head up!
2006-08-04 18:05:38 · answer #6 · answered by GOD IS REAL. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been in love with the person i was with for 7 yrs and i still dont want to let go but sometime love just isnt enough good luck!
2006-08-04 18:40:01 · answer #7 · answered by luv2_givepleasure 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way u do that is to take time off from romance. Start hanging wthe your friends more oftten.
2006-08-04 18:12:48 · answer #8 · answered by Taylor J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anything is possible, you will just have to be strong, i was with my ex- for 5yrs, it takes time, but you will move on eventually, i heard tell one time that the amount of years that you spend with someone is the amount of years that it will take you to get over them, but i think it depends on the person, because it didnt take me that long at all!!!!!
2006-08-04 18:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by s_peach23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't know d reason why u 2 think separating is d best way, but it seems that u 2 love each other so much, so why good bye?
2006-08-04 18:07:12 · answer #10 · answered by ite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋