Do you believe in it? Why?
2006-08-04 17:39:43 · 27 answers · asked by Luv_Li83 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
I'm almost in a friends with benefits relationship right now, and it's nerve-wracking. I had feelings for him from the start but he's just using me. when i think of how he's using me and how stupid i am to still hope for a real relationship, i go crazy. So i'll say, it's okay if both parties are not emotionally involved and know clearly where they stand, or else it can get really messy, and one can get very hurt, just like i am right now :(
2006-08-05 11:27:18 · answer #1 · answered by babychi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do I believe it can work? Yes. Does it work very often? No.
It can be useful for those that just don't have the time or want to put in all that is required for a more serious relationship. It's definitely not for everyone. Obviously it depends heavily on the people involved. Only if both people can be honest with themselves about what they want and need will it work, otherwise one (or both) will end up with feelings that may not be reciprocated.
2006-08-05 00:50:59 · answer #2 · answered by Muse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
On some levels, it can work, on others, it is a complete failure. But, what normally happends is that one or the other of the party decides that they want to be more serious with the other... or one of them decides to not play by the same rules as the other. and Feelings end up getting hurt...
It's good if both parties could actually keep to just friends, or agree to get together eventually, but otherwise, it just makes drama
2006-08-05 00:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by Rob D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only reason i do believe in it is because of how men have treated me in the past. i am a good person and dont deserve to be treated like a dog. so i do what men do have sex with them nothing more. i quit messing around with them when feelings start to get entertwined due to i dont want the same crud happening. i know there are good men out there just not where i live. they mess around to much to even want to consider getting serious about. if you do do it wisely and safely. and be very choosey about who you pick. i dont like the idea of a girl getting herself into a bad position and end up getting hurt.
2006-08-05 18:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by carrie j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well actually I do cause I don't depend on anyone and I don't really want that might bring me down around me. Cause there is alot of freeloaders out there and I need people who are positive and have benefits.
2006-08-05 00:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by aries 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you have a good honest friendship then it may work for a good while but there's always a worry of jealously becuase the other person may want the relationship to be exclusive among their peers and there's emoitional damage to consider if things don't work out so friends with benifits is a good and bad thing
2006-08-05 01:09:42 · answer #6 · answered by Twan180 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that's how my boyfriend and I got started 5 months ago. We were friends w/ benefits who ended up really liking eachother and just decided we were a couple. Be careful of your emotions, though. They get tangled up in it.
2006-08-05 00:44:41 · answer #7 · answered by marisha z 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pretty lady, I have not heard of the phrase you mention, but you ask if I believe in it. No, I always want to know, not just believe. To believe means to be convinced a statement is true without proof. To know, you must test it to see if your observations support it. Tell me exactly what you mean, and I'll subject it to logic and scientific method. I tutored students in them in college.
2006-08-05 00:53:05 · answer #8 · answered by miyuki & kyojin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No because its hard to draw lines. Unless both friends know exactly what benifits eachother is expecting. Then someone is going to cross the line.
2006-08-05 00:44:41 · answer #9 · answered by mnorth12 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it can work-- depend on the ppl and how strong the friendship is... i have such a friend now...its convenient for us... and its not like i dont love her, because i do.. but we both know we wont ever be anything more than friends....
the down side is you may be keeping urself from finding a "real" romantic relationship... because you are tied to this one
2006-08-05 03:34:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋