My wife lied,she told me she could never get pregnant ..now she is 3 months pregnant?

Question

Thats why i married her She knew I did not want kids ever and she agreed..now she wont get rid of it.What can i do???????????
I have three pitbull dog's ,They are my children.they are not too friendly with children .My wife has the nerve to ask me to get rid of my boy's(the dogs)Should we seperate.or is there any legal action i can take.

Answer 1

It doesn't surprise me some of the responses you have gotten, just consider the source. I would be upset to,you were very mislead. I am sorry to say, that she probably knew all along she could get pregnant. Women will do anything to get what they want,..I know, I am one, however I am not deceitful. I had four cats before I got married, I wouldn't have given them up for anybody for any reason, and it is selfish of someone to ask you to get rid of them. Only people that have furry children know what it's like to love an animal. Screw what the others say, You do what you feel in your heart, and never feel guilty because you want to keep you dogs. I am with you 100%. Not everyone wants children, and just because the majority does, they pass judgment on others which is nothing other than stupidity.
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Those that are calling you names and being down right rude are ignorant. Can you imagine how different this would be if it were a woman saying her husband lied.

Answer 2

Ok,
Maybe she didn't lie. Some women are told by their DOCTORS that they cannot get pregnant, but then down the road they do. It may be what happened. Sometimes womens bodies change, and they clear themselves out, and then one day, they can get pregnant. Our bodies are constantly changing. Also, do you love her? You say that you married her because she couldnt have kids? So i guess you guys got married for the wrong reasons. To marry someone, if you are normal, you must have some sort of feelings for eachother to tie into such a commitment. It is not only her fault that she got pregnant, you were involved as well. in fact, it is not anybodys FAULT, it was nature...nature decided that it was time, and it happened. she didnt make it happen. if your "boys" are more important than your wife, and soon to be child, then i think you need to re-think your priorities, or you need to move on. BUT one way or another, you will have to be involved. wether it be going thru life with your wife and child, or being in contact by a large check every month. becomming a father is an amazing thing, you may think that you dont want children, but then when they are here, it is much different, because they came from you, they hold a part of you...so maybe you should really think about this long and hard. she is your wife, and that should be your first priority.

Answer 3

First off...how do you know she lied? Maybe she was told that she couldn't have children.

Second...as much as you love these dogs...this is your child. Are you really saying that these dogs are more important to you than he/she is? Whether you wanted this child or not you are the father and you MUST take responisbility for it. It doesn't necessarily mean you have to get rid of the dogs...the just have to be outside dogs now. If you are going to put their importance before your child not only do you not deserve to be a father but you don't deserve to be married. It's time to grow up and be a man.

Third...a child will ALWAYS take presidence over an animal...you can even ask someone from an animal rights group. If you were offended at her asking you to get rid of the dog...just think of how she felt when you asked her to get rid of the baby.

The only legal action that can be taken in this case would be child support for her.

Answer 4

Believe it or not, women's bodies change. Some people get pregnant when they least expect it. She really may have thought that she couldn't.

Ever watch a show called the "Dog Whisperer?" It's on the National Geographic channel. Check out his web site dog whisperer.com He has great ideas for introducing a new baby into a household that already has dogs. If you follow his tips you should be able to keep the dogs.

I never wanted to have kids either, then I became pregnant and it all changed. You life will be different, but in a good way. Work on training the dogs and you will find out you can be a good father, too.

Answer 5

Well did she give you some kind of proof that she wasn't able to get pregnant? I mean, did you guys go to a doctor and find this out, together? Or did you go by her word only? I know, I know, you'll say but I trusted her word...............and that's how unfortunately, situations like this happen, babies are made! Did she say she never wanted to have kids or just that she would never be able to have kids? I think this is a really sad,unfortunate situation. It truly saddens me, for both of you and now, a baby will be brought into this world, into another situation of a possibly broken home. It doesn't sound like there is a lot of trust, faith and love here if she can do stuff like this and I would say that either you want to accept responsibility for no matter what, you are the father(whether you wanted to be or not)or you find yourself a really good divorce lawyer who can tell you the laws, where you stand. Find out your rights, and what you can do. See, if you really did want to have kids, as hard as it may be, you'd let go of your babie's, your dogs, to another great home. Seeing that you don't want any kids,but your pit bulls, and knowing that they aren't friendly towards kids, then it is best to not take any chances and to seperate. Trust me when I say, it is not an easy decision to have to let go of your kids, because they are your family. We are animal lovers! We know what it is like. However, a baby, an innocent baby is being born, and if you don't want to seperate from your family, then yes it is best to seperate from your wife and begin a new life. I think this is really a tough situation, no right's and wrong's, just plain sad. I am sure she thought that once you heard you were going to have a baby, or when you see the baby, your heart and mind would change!!That's not always the case, and never should anybody rely on somebody possibly changing, especially when you are talking about bringing another human being into this world, shame on your wife that she wasn't upfront and honest with you! I'll keep you in my thoughts, and pray for what is meant to be........

Answer 6

Hey, I was told I couldn't have children either (did the invitro thing 4 times....nada) Then my husband up and left, and guess what!! I found out I was pregnant (after 6 years of no birth control)...lucky girl. But these are the cards I have been dealt. He flat out told me he wanted NOTHING to do with the baby (he has a new girlfriend with two kids who he is shacking up with) and don't even put his name on the birth certificate. Well guess what?? TOUGH....these are the cards YOU'VE been dealt also! I'm sorry life jumped up and smacked you in the face, but....you've got to deal with it. If you don't, someday this child will come knock on your door wanting to know why you never wanted him or her. And what will you say then? That the dogs were more important???? Guess what....they will already be dead!!! But YOUR child will be standing there....hurt and angry. It's time to GROW UP and deal with it. What does this say about your "so called" love for your wife? Did you ever really love her? Because you sure don't act like it. THIS IS LIFE. Get a freakin' backbone and face your responsibilities.

Answer 7

Do you have proof that she told you she could not get pregnant? If not, set up a tape recorder on yourself and sit down with her when she is in a good mood and you've been nice to her. Ask the questions you want answers to for the tape nicely. If you attack her with your questioning your not going to get a truthful answer.

Bottom line - she lied to you. You have 2 choices. Live with this person and raise your child together or separate and be the best father you can to your child when he/she arrives.
I certainly don't know the type of relationship you have but it sounds like she lied to you to get you to marry her. This is how I see things working on...... she now will gain 80-120 pounds that she will never take off. She will soon be diagnosed with
Epstein Barr syndrom and sleep 20 hours a day. She will take prescription meds to try and help her with her Fibermyaliga. You will no longer be attracted to her because she blew up like a balloon. Lastly she will verbally torment you, scream and yell over everything... basically your life will be hell. If I'm right you need to run and run FAST!
Now if I'm wrong and she stays in good shape, respects you and is very loving to you then the (3) of you have a shot at life together.. Whatever you do. DO NOT abandon your child to be...

Answer 8

You other answerers are wrong. This fellow has a legitimate grievance. One of the things he was looking for in a wife was infertility: the inability to have a baby. A woman told him that she met that qualification so that he would marry her. That's a clear case of fraud, and nobody should ever benefit through fraud. He should not have to pay because he believed her lie. She's the liar; make her pay. This case is not about the relative value of children and dogs. It's about the difference between a truth-teller and a liar.

Answer 9

You cannot take any legal action to make her get rid of her baby, nor should you. And not all women who are told that they can't have children are completely barren.

If you honestly don't want to be with her because she is going to have your child, then you can divorce her, but I warn you, I've seen guys do that before, and you will end up paying out a lot more money. The courts don't look to kindly upon men who want to divorce their wives because they are pregnant.

But if you honestly don't want children, then you should separate. It's best for you, her, and the child.

Good luck!!

Answer 10

Maybe she is like lost women who think they can't conceive until they do. If you really didn't want kids you should have gone to the doctor with her to make sure. A baby is definitely a blessing and needs a mother and a father. Separation is not the right thing to do there has got to be a way 2 compromise without leaving her alone and you're gonna want to see your child. But it might be 2 little 2 late! GOOD LUCK!