Weve been married 2 years almost...the sex is the same everytime it lasts like 2 min. Its like he cant go for more than a minute?? is that normal or he just doesnt want me more??I have talked to him but hes liek ...what you want it for 2 hours??? um...yah thats what most people do I think. Anyways he doesnt come to me much...its like I wait up every nite looking at the wall... and whats weird is he cuddles me to death and tickeles me before we sleep but doesnt make any move. we do it like 2 times a week. Hes 24 im 23. I am attractive girl. I dont get it..i wear lingere and he just seem not into anything. Are relation ship is not bad...we joke and cuddle and play alot but why he isnt after me for sex alot?? we both come from work early its not liek hes tired? Ok this happeded twice...in the morning I went to touch him...id be touching him till hes u know up there then 5 min later hell be like come on sweetie lets get up its late...hell get dressed...and ask me to ake him some cofee.
2006-08-04 17:26:39 · 9 answers · asked by GIRL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yah I mean he never tried positions with me nothing and I know he likes woman I caught him looking at porn I put a keylogger. So why doesnt he want me?? I dont get it. im willing to try everything..is there someone else maby?? a friend of his told me he went to strip club and he looks to other woman. Im panicing help.
2006-08-04 17:28:43 · update #1
Wow, this is a toughie! I want to first of all say that I am so sorry to hear that he is treating you this way.
It could be so many things...speculating really won't help. So, my advice would be to change what you are doing...not because you are the problem..you are not. Change what you are doing because it isn't working. Use some of your own ideas, but some examples would be...to start saying things like "Okay, when you tickle me it only leads me on, so please don't do that unless you really want me." If you have been acting real interested in him...act less interested. I mean, keep it real. I am not suggesting you play games to get what you want..what I am saying is change the way you react to him. Let's face it..fancy nightwear and cuddling isn't working and it is only putting you in an awkward situation. Next time he wants sex, tell him no for a change...tell him that you are tired of the empty sex and want and deserve more. Even if this doesn't work, at least you will have preserved your pride. I am concerned if this continues, you will only get more and more hurt. Good luck to you! I feel for you.
2006-08-04 17:54:30 · answer #1 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound desirable, and it sounds sad to me that you're in a relationship that does not fit your needs. And I don't just stop at the sexual, the emotional are lacking too, if he's not being honest about porn. But then again, a lot of guys don't like being confronted with it, so don't be TOO harsh about it. I don't understand though, maybe he feels bad that his sex only lasts a couple minutes. (Enough to get him off) He might feel bad about it and go to the strip club where he feels he might not get "made fun of." Hope it helps.
2006-08-04 17:55:53 · answer #2 · answered by jokerscard692000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If pornography (of various types) is his history and habit, this is very destructive to a normal, healthy and happy marriage.
He needs some new friends... ones that would teach and encourage him to be a real husband.
I would suggest seeking a Bible Believing Baptist Church.
You need to also be very observant within your relationship...is there any missing amounts of money, or time... accountability is very important.
Another need for your observance, is to make every effort to (with in reason) seek to find out what makes him happy...Serve and adore him.
2006-08-04 18:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by is8reallyenough 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he doesn't know what to do or how to do it. Perhaps he isn't too experienced. If you try to talk to him about trying new things, it might excite him. If he doesn't know what to do, and you don't either, then get a porn video and watch it together. You both have fantasies, you should talk about them. He needs someone to teach him what to do and there is nobody better to teach him than you. You know what feels good, so teach him how to do it. good luck
2006-08-04 17:34:07 · answer #4 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I think it sounds like your husband had a medical condition. It sounds like he wants you he just can't last. Maybe you should consider that a complement that you two have been together for 2 years and he still can't last that long. Maybe your just that irrestible. As long as your sex life isn't dead then just go with it.
2006-08-04 17:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by Dana J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband is normal, like any other man. Talk to him and tell him your expectations. If he doesn't listen to u then u are a free bird. Do what u think is the best. Wish u good luck.
2006-08-04 17:40:13 · answer #6 · answered by Hem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's adicted to porn and gets no kicks from the real thing. Have you talked to him about it. Two minutes must really suck. I wish you the best in working things out.
2006-08-04 17:36:05 · answer #7 · answered by dpjejj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should blow him everyday and swallow everything and than put it in his coffee to mess with him
2006-08-04 17:34:01 · answer #8 · answered by F EVERYONE FOO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch some porno with him...
2006-08-04 17:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋