r all older guys just lookin fo se x only?

Question

people keep warning me to watch out for them, r all guys that way

Answer 1

Well..that's a tough question to answer and one of my daugthers asked that after my mom said something like "all men only want sex" and she asked me if it is true. This is more or less what I said to her:

Yes, men want sex and will typically start up a conversation with a woman because they find her sexually attractive. Their minds do think "do her or not?"

And by no means just older guys, as soon as they hit puberty, boys have sex on the brain almost all the time. Besides, when you say older, how old do you mean? Like 20! Guess what, 80 year old men think about sex a lot too..they just aren't as driven to be lunatics about it anymore.

However, not all men are pigs and not all men want ONLY sex. A good percentage want more. They want a friend, they want a partner, they want someone that makes them feel good and they want to give back. In other words, they want similar things to what women want.

The good ones are more than willing to postpone sex until they figure out if they can get the whole package, and some actually insist on it.

However, few (unless married and even that is no guarantee) will ever turn down sex if it is available, unless the woman is so gross and ugly they just can't perform. So, just because a man will have sex with you does NOT mean he wants more from you.

As a woman, this knowledge is helpful, not because you should fear men or assume they are all dogs, but because understanding how they think can help you make better choices.

Unless you really want just sex, it is generally a good idea to WAIT a while, sometimes months (or if it is your personal belief...until marriage), before having sex. Again..keep in mind that few men will turn you down, but MANY men will assume if you are quick to sex that that is all YOU want. So if you are having sex too soon, you will find most will have sex, then walk away. You won't get much respect.

By waiting until you have both gotten to know each other, sex becomes an outgrowth of friendship and affection that can turn into love. Sex too soon comes out of infatuation and is absolutely not a guarantee that you will get love; in fact more often than not, it guarantees you won't (sometimes you can break this rule and still find love..but not very often)

As the woman, you have more control of him and the relationship by postponing sex. Because women are more often emotionally connected to sex and equate sex to love, it is very easy to get hurt and relinquish control of the relationship to the man if you have sex before your relationship is ready.

In other words, as your mom has probably told you, any man that is really interested in you for you (as well as wanting to have sex with you) will wait until you are willing and ready.

Sex is not a dirty thing or bad, however it comes with a fair measure of responsibility and given foolishly leaves you open to all kinds of problems, not just unwanted pregnancy and disease, but also a broken heart.

Sex between a couple in love can be amazing. So don't hate men or fear them because they want sex. Nature has programmed them that way. Just understand their nature, and use that knowledge to get what you truly want out of them.

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I wanted to add this since some have said you are only 11 or 12, at your age any older boy (and this means pretty much 14 and up) is ONLY going to be interested in you for sex. That much is true.

That's because there is a world of difference in interests and other things between 12 and 14, and even more between 12 and 18, 19 or older. It is GOOD for you to be you and to be a typical 12 year old, however your interests are not interesting to older boys. Period. So the only thing you'd have in common is sex.

Some girls don't get that and they think the attention they are getting from older boys makes them special or somehow not like other 12 year olds. Unfortunately the only difference is that you've sold out your self to give sex to someone who is using you. This isn't good attention, it is bad attention and again, may well come with some very painful consequences.

I know 12 year old girls are interested in boys and most boys that age are curious about girls, but nowhere near ready to have a real girlfriend. That's OKAY. That's how nature meant it to be. At your age you should be doing other things that will shape the person you will be, like learning how to stand up for yourself, concentrate on school, broaden your social skills and figure out what you want to be as an adult. Sex is the very LAST thing you should consider doing. Getting started too early usually ruins a girl's life and definitely robs her of valuable time that could be used better.

I hope that answered your question.

Answer 2

not all guys are just looking for sex. However, I am wondering how old you are referring to when you say older. Your profile says you are 12. IN all honesty I would recommend a 12 year old not date any guy more than 1 or 2 years older than you. WHen you are 18-20, an older guy may be ok, but at this stage of your life you are likely to find guys who are 13-16 looking to take advantage of a young girl so that they can have sex for the first time and it will be meaningless for them. Stay away from older guys until you are a bit older.

Answer 3

Yes, especially from young women. You are nothing but prey at the age of 14-17. And the crazy part is, most all of the girls that age claim to be in love with the older guy who just wants to screw. Of course, he'll tell you he loves you and that he wants to be with you for the rest of your life, blah, blah, blah.

And when he does finally get into your pants he's coming back again and again, not because he loves you but because you are a sure thing. Wake up ladies, before you get pregnant, or worse, contract and STD or AIDS. You surely don't think you're the only one he's with.

Answer 4

Im not that way. I believe in waiting till marraige and that is may 27 2007. You need a true Christian guy thats all

Answer 5

No, not just sex. Companionship, love and support are important as well. But yes, guys want sex. And not just older guys, younger guys want it, too.

Answer 6

yepp they might see you as an easy mark and if they tell you they are not they are lying,,,,,it may b\not be all but the main thing

Answer 7

We also desire to steal all your Hello Kitty knick-knacks.

Answer 8

I'm not.
I'm looking for love or that special someone.

Answer 9

it do somtimes seem like it. but i dont know. just listen to them people. be aware lol

Answer 10

it not "older guys" its just guys in general. well... not all guys... i'm not one of those kinds