I Haven't had sex with a guy for almost 3 years now , and only have had 2 guys anyways. The Father of my kids cheated on me so i left him. And The other guy Raped me. I Just Want to know why i cant move on. Help??
2006-08-04 17:08:01 · 14 answers · asked by mzstacey145 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
You don't have a positive experience with sex, that's why you're scared. One man that you trusted has mentally ruined sex for you by cheating and breaking your ability to trust (necessary for good sex). The other guy physically and mentally ruined sex by taking the pleasurable perceptions of sex from you and giving you a perception of pain and violation. You can't be comfortable with sex when you're worried about being hurt. If you were in therapy for the rape, you obviously did not get the help you needed. You really should get more counseling. You're suffering from post traumatic stress from the rape and your anxieties from the cheating ex are just combining to create this fear. Please seek help and I'll hope that a good guy who will help you heal comes into your life and will help you not be scared of sex anymore.
2006-08-04 17:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by mytreacheryiseternal 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what the hell kind of answer is cause your ugly(dr.chacho) grow up you little pathetic boy.
I would agree with Daniel, you do need to realize that there is a lot of crap out there, but there still is a few of us out there as well. Rape? you need to get some therapy, if you haven't already. Cheaters? there will always be guys and gals out there that don't realize what they have or what they are doing to the person they are cheating on.
2006-08-05 00:23:23 · answer #2 · answered by Chuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to realize that there are actually a lot of good guys out there, but also a lot of jerks. Trust is the most important part of any relationship and understandably you cannot trust guys right now.
The teenagers and idiot guys (like dr. chacho) on YA will not be able to help you. If you are finding it extremely difficult then please seek a professional to assist you through this. It isn't easy but the result it worth it.
Good Luck,
2006-08-05 00:11:28 · answer #3 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your still traumatized from the rape. Your stuck on that and you cant move on. You should talk to a professional. Your probably scared that your gonna get hurt again.
2006-08-05 00:12:13 · answer #4 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gotta learn to trust again or get someone you can learn to trust. Take it easy. It's an opportunity to filter out the bad guys to get the right guy is all. If thats all he wants, he'll be gone. If he loves you, he'll take the time to get you to come around and discover how wonderful intimacy can be.
2006-08-05 00:12:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you were raped, if you have not had counseling do it now, you need to take it slow and make sure the guy understands
2006-08-05 00:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being raped is not " having sex", its a brutal assault! I also bet your a great mom to your child, which means you have already moved on.Their is nothing wrong with being a single and dedicated parent!!
2006-08-05 00:56:31 · answer #7 · answered by mr.bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fear of getting hurt again one way or another, maybe you should seek counceling to help you get past the bad parts and move on with your life to be happy again
2006-08-05 00:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by melindarix@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well being raped usally leaves a sensitive part to sex its going to take some time
2006-08-05 00:12:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand what your going through it was and is still hard for me to be around men after i was raped but i am married but before him i didnt let anyone in my life i am just saying it takes time
2006-08-05 00:12:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋