when i met him he was really nice and sweet and had a great personality.. weve been friends for about two weeks, no sex or kissing. so we talked about it tonight and we agreed to go on a date in 2 weeks, and well need advice on how to act, what to do, and what foods or things should and shouldnt do around someone who is HIV POZ. btw im HIV NEG.
2006-08-04 16:54:18 · 14 answers · asked by Heretohelp 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
HEY GUYS IM A GAY MALE OK SO I DONT HATE GAYS, IM NOT STEREOTYPING IM GOING TO FAMILY (GLBTQ) FOR HELP OK
2006-08-04 17:02:57 · update #1
Simple answer, just be careful.
The only way for you to get it from him is if his blood or semen mixes with yours.
Always use a condom while have sex. While it's very uncommon (I don't know if it's even been documented as having happened) to catch it during oral sex, it can happen if there is an abrasion of some sort in your mouth.
HIV is not carried in the saliva, so kissing is safe (unless you both have cuts in your mouth). Obviously though, don't share toothbrushes or razers (most people don't anyway).
I don't know what you mean by what foods, eating something shouldn't get you sick, unless he's been uncareful preparing it, which I highly doubt.
You should do some research into the virus yourself, to find out as much information as you can about it so you can be comfortable around him. I do believe there are many successful relationships based on one + and one -, so if the date works out, good luck in future.
And to people who think that HIV is a gay only disease, look up information on it yourselves and learn about it, rather than blasting your mouth off and looking like an idiot.
And to the people who thought this person was attacking the gay community, perhaps you shouldn't be so defensive. I know there's a lot of homophobia that comes this way sometimes, but we have to be open to someone who does want to know more.
The truth is that HIV is a problem in the queer community (as it is in the straight community) and we need to help inform other queers out there because the homophobia in our society is stopping young gay people getting proper information on it.
2006-08-04 17:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by Shaun B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry youve gotton a bunch of hate.... First of all you asked your question in the right topic as far as im concerned. if you were to ask this on a medical board youd likely get all flames in responce... And by asking a question here about dating someone who is HIV+ is in no way sterotyping homosexuals as ALL being carriers of HIV like was suggested by Rob.. Ill have to assume he has been bashed and tormented and dealing with homophobic haters for a long time and as a result is overly defensive with even fellow gay guys.. so pay no mind to the negative bullcrap..
now to your question... I dont know much on HIV so not sure about the food things to avoid ect... that you might ask him before the date.. on the pther part of your question... be yourself...
because he is HIV+ doesnt mean you have to walk on eggshells.. you might leave it up to him about all the details surounding how he was infected ect.. and only ask detailed questions should a sexual situation come up..
First off get to know him and be able to trust him... you are trusting him with your life... there have been many many cases were people set out to intentonally infect other people.. so make sure he is trust worthy... use protection... check and recheck condom yourself if involved in anal sex..dont go by his word... he will understand this and shouldnt have a problem with if if his motives are pure...
honestly id stick to oral and types of stimulation that dont involve penetration...
many HIV+ people gay or straight have HIV- partners... and there are plenty types of sexual activity that are no/low risk...
I know hiv- guys that date hiv+ guys... nothing wrong with that just be smart and protect yourself...
on a note...oral sex is very low risk and thats only if you have an open sore in your mouth when you are giving a hiv+ guy a BJ... studies have shown you can ingest ounces of semen and not get HIV...
2006-08-04 17:24:11 · answer #2 · answered by Levi Cristopher . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 11:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call your local hiv clinic if there is one. they have counselors who will be able to go into depth and answer your questions, there's nothing wrong with being concerned. if there's not a clinic the red cross have courses in hiv prevention (i'm an instructor) you should definitely be aware of safe sex guidelines before the issue "pops up", you don't have to worry about eating and such it's not spread that way..............just be informed be prepared and have a great date!!!!!!
2006-08-05 00:09:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he's HIV + doesn't mean you have to act totaly different. Act perfectly normaland do the things you would do if you were on a date with someone who wasn't positive.
2006-08-04 17:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
EXCUSE ME but why would you ask that in the GLBT section that is a question for the health section. Do you realize how ignorant that is to come here and ask such a question. You assume that gay people all have it or somthing.
You are so wrong and you should appolgize
2006-08-04 17:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by Rob 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well jus act yo self cuz u cant get hiv from jus drinkin after a person or kissin a person wit hiv jus dont use a needle dat he has use or u can get hiv so jus act as normal as possible!!!!
2006-08-04 17:03:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat him like you'd treat anyone else on a date. Don't act like you're all 'careful and worried' around him. He's not a weakling...he's only positive.
Eat, drink, smoke....do what you do. Don't worry about ANYTHING. He's just a person who's positive...he's not on a deathbed.
You know the drill when it comes to sexual intimacy.
Safe safe safe!!!
Other than that, please treat him like you would anyone else.
2006-08-05 07:40:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just ask your date if there are any dietary restrictions that he has.
Just don't put your self in a situation where you might get his blood or other bodily fluids in you.
If it comes to sex, just be sure that it is 100% safe.
2006-08-04 17:35:53 · answer #9 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not sleep, have sex with, or do anything that could spread the virus with him.But still treat him like he's a human being.
2006-08-04 17:04:08 · answer #10 · answered by indrep33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋