So My bf and I are living together, and he just graduated with his masters degree. problem is the post graduation search has been uneventful, and our bills are really starting to suffer. I've been waiting patiently for him to get a job so he can help out, (he hasn't helped financially on a steady basis in close to a year) but i'm officially fed up now. So a letter came in the mail that Finally looked like good news (i saw a return address envelope in there) and so i opened it. and now he's mad at me. do you think i was wrong, or being that i was fed up in being in the situation and saw a spark of hope and went with it is a good enough reason to do it.
2006-08-04 16:41:08 · 4 answers · asked by myfianceisamonkey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Being in a stressful situation tests us and our relationships. But the boundaries that each person needs should always be respected. Not opening someone elses mail is one of those boundaries. Apologize, and hopefully he'll forgive, and be sure not to go there again!
2006-08-04 17:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by Just Ducky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should have opened mail addressed to him. You should have greeted him at the door with a smile on your face and handed him the letter.
You can't be blamed for needing financial help and being at your last straw wanting him to financially help, but the thing here is that it was his personal mail and shouldn't have been opened by you.
Nothing to lose sleep over, but not the right thing to have done in the end. Apologize and move on. Now it is his time to find a good job and start helping out.
Good luck.
2006-08-04 23:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a mistake this time. You shouldn't have opened the letter. If you got to it first, you should have delivered it to him, unopened and excited. You were fed up enough that you wanted to burst his bubble and be the first one to know of his good news. It was a selfish act and you should tuck your tail in and apologize to him. All of that said doesn't include the fact that it is a Federal offense to open someone's mail without their consent. Also not being considered is that he must be fed up too. Perhaps he wanted to surprise you with the good news in some romantic way, and you blew that too. 25 swats with a wet noodle for you. good luck
2006-08-05 00:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your spot...putting up with the bills and waiting for my bf to finally finish school and get a job. I wouldn't want anyone going through my mail BUT I can kind of understand why you did. You care for his future, and it gets very stressful living on only one income. I don't think you opened his mail because you wanted to snoop around.
2006-08-04 23:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋