When a A Woman's Fed Up?

Question

I found out my serial cheater boyfriend is "at it" again. (We have kids) After begging me back for 6 months after I left due to his cheating, he's been all lovey dovey since I been back. Then I find out he's still cheating. The crazy thing is, I didn't blow up. I told them calmly that I knew they were still seeing each other and that I was "done", and I aint even mad at the girl. I used to go all psycho when I used to find out what he was doing in the past, but I didnt the last few times. What does it mean to feel this way? Why didnt I really FEEL it like I used to?

Answer 1

You knew that it was going to happen again and were prepared for it.

Answer 2

There probably isn't much anyone can say to you that you don't already know in your heart but leaving him alone is your best option. Don't take him back cause he's not worth it and you don't deserve it. When you leave, cut off all lines of communication. Don't leave him any means of getting in contact with you. The sooner you forget about him, the better. It may sound cliche' but, "out of sight, out of mind." Find a hobby, read a good book, join a church, find a new man, buy a dog. Whatever you do, figure out a way to occupy your time honey. I have been in your predicament and it was very hard but I kicked him to the curb for good. My friends tell me he looks all skinny and sick since I left him but it had to be done and I will not look back !! It's definitely true, when a woman's fed up it ain't nothing you can do about it!!

Answer 3

What it means to feel that way is you are finally over this jerk! I've been in your shoes before and done the same crazy things and we also had a child. I knew my daughters father was cheating on me and I went back and forth too many times thinking it was best for our daughter to have both of her parents living together. The best part was he was cheating on me with my friend and she was married with a child of her own and "our men" worked together where her dad was their boss. Finally one day after 5 years of back and forth and we were engaged, I had enough and that was the end of it for us and it didn't bother me one bit! My brother and I even helped move him out of my house thats how much I didn't care anymore and I never once thought that I should try to work it out again for my daughter. I hated my friend for doing that to me and my daughter for the longest time until the last time I was with this fool. I thought if she is dumb enough to keep going back thats her problem in about 6 months when he kicks her out. Since then I've got married and am happier than I ever thought about being with that jerk and she is still with him and they had a baby and is learning the hard way how it is to deal with his ways. The funny part is my daughter's father doesn't talk to me about anything that has to do with her he makes his girlfriend do it and we can actually get along and talk again! I will never trust her the way I did when we were friends but talking to her longer than we have to make him furious and I love it! Pay backs are great and he doesn't even realize thats what I'm doing! It's probably best that you feel this way. Good luck to you and I hope you find a great guy who treats you the way you deserve to be treated!

Answer 4

Nuni, I think you are a walking time bomb. Do not let yourself esteem be taken away. You truly most be a beautiful women (inside and outside) if this loser keeps wanting you back. He knows your a GOOD CATCH for someone else but some how he has managed to make you think HE IS THE CATCH.
You deserve to be #1 and the only one for MR Right and he is out there. I think you have settled for his B-LL S-IT and think that all me are this way... well they are not. Rent some movies that have dealt with these issues and you will see most of the women leave these losers for good men, good friends, and/ or a good job. God Bless, and through out the mess.
PS Aids is still active and out there. Use protection!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

Notice you said "serial cheater boyfriend"....you see you knew this was going to happen. It's inevitable really...once a cheater always a cheater unless they are committed to changing.

I'm proud of you for reacting this way. It shows you have had enough. Good luck to you on your next relationship...you deserve better treatment than that.

Answer 6

When someone habitually cheat or lie,you fall out of love with them.I loved my second husband so much.He was handsome and muscular(and i liked his NJ accent).I walked away after 4 years of marriage b/c I was tired of being hurt.Sometimes I still think about him and probably always love him,BUT I owe myself a better life then that.After he cheats,he makes up.Giving you flowers and makes promises he knows he can't keep.He thinks as long as he can "make up " with you,everything will be OK.But after going through this sequence of events over and over and over again,it doesn't hurt any more.

Good Luck to work.

Answer 7

You should create distance from him. For both you and your kids. Don't teach them that this is ok. he only cheats because he feels inadequate and it gives him power to have something on the side and he can get back at you because he feels emasculated. Move on, let him resolve his issues, and don't get in his way. Forgove him for being an a*sshole, because he can't help it. You don't have to be, so don't put up with it.Your kids need you to model strength and character, so they ca grow up thinking independently and make decisions for themselves. You are emotionally divorced, so you are becoming more objective and immune to his bs. Lok, his actions don't match what he says, and he has already turned away from you to try to fix his problems. Yes, HIS problems, not yours. Move on, collect child support, and raise your kids to have backbones. Take care!

Answer 8

I'll tell you like it was told to me " Your not tired yet". Then again it may be that you already know what to expect so there's no reason to get all upset and depress for the same ole mess. When you finally get tired and really fed up you'll know and there will be no going backward.

Answer 9

You poor thing! It sounds like you are just so used to him disappointing and hurting you that you've started to just go numb in order to protect yourself. Someones heart can only take so much! Sounds like yours has had more than it can handle from this insensitive man.

I wish you the best of luck... and I hope that one day you'll find someone who will respect you and treat you well.

Answer 10

Some people just get tired of it, and deal the best they can. Personally, I think you can do way better than a guy who can't bother to be faithful. You probably just don't love him, plus if it happens, you can't really be surprised anymore.

Answer 11

After being hurt so many times..you become numb to the pain and that is finally a sign that you need to be not with him and be happy