How can you really get over someone who has really distroyed your life in every way possible?

Question

But, your kids (over 18) are stopping your from doing what really needs to be done?

I really am in between a rock and hard place with no where to turn. My ex-husband had been cheating from the day we were married. Spending all of our money on his mistresses, and not on me or my kids and now he is just being nice to my kids to impress his girlfriends now. Our kids have no idea of what he is really doing, and I really don't want to hurt them anymore because of him. My ex-husband has ruined me financially, emotionally, physically (medical) and any other way he can think of. what should i do???????? PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!

Answer 1

..I think you should desintoxicate yourself...Go enroll in a gym, release all that emotional depression that you have, then go to a counselor or psychologist that help you get out of the state of mind you are right now. And then.. when you feel that you are ready , when you have put all your ex-husbands betrayal behind you, try to start a new life fresh , without all those feelings and with a new you!! Good luck (try to give you a make over, while is healthy for you the gym, it will also help you to get your body toned, also try to buy new clothes, a new hair style, that will help you feel better also )

Answer 2

First you should "pray" and then you should "pray" some more.

I'm glad you didn't ask how to get "even". However, your children are grown now and you don't have to tell them anything that they can't see for themselves now.

So, for you to move on you must first focus on you and you only. Stop worrying about what he's doing with the kids (young adults). Find something that keeps you busy and your mind off these issues. Do the things that makes you happy. I know shopping is in there somewhere, but theres manicures, pedicures, beauty shops, health clubs etc. just waiting for you. I wouldn't dare tell you to find a date! When you get through pampering yourself and looking like a "Million Bucks", men will be stuffing themselves in envelopes just to get to your doorstep. Not that you need any of that.

But when you're feeling good, you look good and when you look good you are good! So, "Be Good"!

From: MAJULQQK (made u look)

Answer 3

Oh, honey, I just read your question and my heart went out for you. I don't really have any answers I'd like to share, I'm not a relationship expert, but just know that someone out there will be saying a prayer for you tonight. You will find the strength, the courage and the wisdom to make the right choices. Just stay close to your kids and friends and family, they can be your best 'rock' in times like this. Good luck

Answer 4

telling children of any age bad things wether true or false about another parent usually just makes the teller the bad guy....
maybe counseling for yourself can help you come to terms with it,and eventually ALL "kids" grow up and learn what was really goin on.
if not counseling ,maybe a pastor or someone you trust to talk to.
youve heard the saying,give him enough rope and eventually he will hang himself,its true!
you be the bigger person and dont tell his dirty secrets and some day those kids will realize what he did.and your relationship with them will be even stronger because YOU were the bigger person and didnt "slam" him to them,you let them chose how they feel for him and learn on their own.it is hard to keep your mouth shut,I know,I have a child with an ex....but in the end it works out....ever wanna chat again about it,leave me a "question" on here under the marriage topic! good luck

Answer 5

Just let him go.Tell your kids that you love them and want them to be active in their dad's life,but you two as a couple,doesn't work anymore.Kids,of any age,do not need to be told what an a**hole their father is,they'll learn on their own with time and that's hard enough,because as moms,we don't want our kids to hurt.I suggest,with all he has done to you,to let him be.Let him make someone elses life miserable and go on with yours.Let him buy the kids things .You just love your kids,the way you always have,and they will grow up knowing who the stable,loving parent is,in the long run.

Answer 6

If your kids allow him to parade his girlfriends in front of them then they should realize what your going through....hey they are adults now so they would have to deal with it...you have a live as well as being mother and wife or should i say maid(sorry) Ive been in your shoes believe me and when my kids were old enough to understand I left the bas----

Answer 7

I wish I knew what to say. I'd go after him legally with a suit if possible. Beyond that I can't say. I'm going through a similar experience. Not only did my wife cheat on me, she ruined my name with the local police and with my commanders (I'm in the military). I know what it feels like to have your whole world turned upside down.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

i would burn his house down and his car, slap his g f and beat the **** out of him!!!!!!!!