I could really use some help here!?

Question

I'm going in to 8th grade in a new school and a new town. I'm okay with that for now, but my mom wants to dress me like HER this school year-- MEN'S jeans that grasp at the ankle (tacky), XXL collared shirts (I'm a size M/L), and no shirts above the butt. I'll look like the tackiest thing to hit 8th grade! And she won't let me wear what I want. I'm 13, and she acts like I'm still 5! I DON'T WANT TO DRESS LIKE MY MOM... it seems like I'm going in to a new school, and she wants to screw it up right away! Is there any compromise we can come up with that we'll both agree on? I'm really emphasising the men's jeans... I got made fun of in 7th grade for wearing them :-(

Answer 1

I think you should show her this question. Maybe she doesn't know how you feel. When you approach her, be subtle.

Answer 2

I understand how you feel. I won't dress like my mom either. First of all, you need to have a one-on-one conversation with your mom and tell her how you feel about the situation. Then you need to schedule a time to go to the mall and get some clothes that you both can agree on. Make sure to where clothes that fit.Just because you have different tastes doesn't mean you can't find something you both think is nice.If you go to school with clothes that you like and people make fun of you just tell them to back off! It's none of their business what you wear anyway! Good Luck in 8th grade!

Answer 3

Yes, make sure she knows how you feel. If she does, then tell her, "Hey, I'm thirteen, and I respect your opinion, but I have formed some of my own by now. Can you try and treat me more like an adult and try to compromise with me?" But probably not that blunt. Then, if she agrees to at least LISTEN to what you want, try things like boot cut jeans that aren't really flared or anything, but nicer, and pants without holes or rips, but still faded. Ask if you can wear polos that fit correctly for your size (measure and show her a size chart if you have to), some of them can be pretty nice. Also, if she's firm on the no above the butt, tunic are pretty in if you're tall and/or average weight. pair it with a belt over or something. Be creative, you'll figure it out.

Answer 4

Yeah, you really need to tell her how you feel. Tell her it's not that you want to dress trashy or like a hoochie but you just don't want to be made fun of. Cry if you have to and tell her (exaggerate too but in a believable way) how bad it was in 7th grade and how you were made fun of. Say if made it hard for you to pay attention in school because you were so self conscious and that you dreaded going to school everyday.

It seems that she doesn't want boys to be anywhere near you and wants you to look as dumpy as possible. This is a reality that she will need to face. You are a girl, you are growing up and at some point boys will be a part of your life.

Answer 5

Um, Gee, I think Itoldyu said it all. Show your mom this question, but before you do, have your alternatives ready. You already know what she absolutely will not allow, so change what you can. I cant see why you would have to wear pants that are tight at the ankle, if there is an alternate. Just get out your catalogs and magazines and show her what you like, then, you have to look at what she likes and then you guys should be able to pick some things you both like.

Answer 6

Ask mom if you can spend 2-3 hours alone at the mall. Go and make your own design and set them aside in several stores. Model for mom when she comes to get you a the mall. If she hates them all. Be QUIET and don't sulk!
Instead let her think about it. Then ask what she did think looks best of your choices and why.
Then you go back an modify to her specifications and make a few more outfits.
Just let mom know you respect her. In the end it will be better than your present situation.

Answer 7

Its ok sweetie- in a mature way explain to your Mom that you are going into a brand new school and starting 8th grade. You are not a little kid anymore you are one year away from entering high school. Explain to her that you are you're own person and would like to express yourself through your clothing. Make a list of stores you like and go over them with your Mom to decide which stores are appropriate and which are within your budget.
Good luck and I hope the advice helps <3
Liz

Answer 8

It's good to know you mom has your best interest *not obviously*
She obviously wants the students at your new school to make fun of you and harass for what you're wearing.

If you have a job or some buy, go to Savers, or Old Navy (very affordable) and buy something cute for yourself. You don't have to suffer to make your mother happy. I encourage you to do this. If your mother really cared about you she would do this for you, but you're going to have to take matters in your own hands since she really doesn't give a **** about you and wants all the girls in your school to make fun of her.

Best of luck to you. You don't have to go somewhere expensive to get some good or nice looking clothes. Savers is a really great place or other second hand clothing places.

Answer 9

Talk to her. Let her know that you're gettin golder and would like to pick out your own clothes when shopping and getting ready for school. Let her know that you don't plan to wear any tight tops, short skirts, revealing clothes, or any with obsene gestures or suggestive sayings. If you two still don't agree, let her pick out a top, then you pick out one, and then buy the one which is a compromise between both tops, jeans, etc.

Answer 10

I was looking in Vogue and believe it or not a modern version of the 80's look is what is coming! You just might be "in style" before the trend hits your new school. But if it's still not your style. Talk to your mom and tell her (NICELY) it's hard enough to be in middle school but now you're going to be going to a new school and you want to feel comfortable. Can you guys find a happy middle?

GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 11

You need to sit your Mom down and talk to her about this seriously. You need to talk to her about compromising what clothes you will buy. You really need to emphasize the fact that you will be made fun of and how it really hurts you. You need to see why she chooses these clothes for you, what has made her feel this way about your style of clothes and why she won't let you have an input of what you choose to wear. Try hard to hear her out and then ask her to listen to your feelings. God bless you!