Im 21 and living at home. im a full time student and working as well. Its me my two younger sisters and my dad! MY dad is an alcoholic and is always putting me down for not doing anything around the house,(ex. cooking, cleaning) when i honestly do everything when i can and have the time. My mother recently left cause he was doing the same thing to her. I feel like he treats me as if was his wife. I dont have the means or funds to leave but i cant do it anymore everyday im being putdown and yelled at for no reason. What can i do to have a better environment for my sisters and myself?
2006-08-04 16:23:20 · 6 answers · asked by rock 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My mom leaving was a big shock as well and she didnt take us because she is having a hard time getting on her feet. If thats any form of an excuse but i didnt understand it either she's at my grandmothers and we talk daily but i still have an issue with her too about leaving us. Everything just fell apart and left me in the middle of it. Im bitter towards both my parents i just need to find a quick way of getting out of here with my sisters
2006-08-04 16:36:16 · update #1
I think this is a situation where your mom needs to toughen up and provide some emotional support for your sisters and yourself. Counseling is definitely needed. Your dad needs help, desperately. If your mom left, why didn't she take you girls with her?
I'm really puzzled about that. As a mother, I could never leave my girls, or even my son, in such an abusive environment. I hate to slam on your mom, but I really think she should take part in helping you girls out of this volatile situation.
Hopefully, he won't go to far in "treating you like his wife". This frightens me. You can IM me anytime if you need to talk more.
2006-08-04 16:31:25 · answer #1 · answered by *~*~*~~~His Angel~~~*~*~* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a crying shame what some parents do to their kids. I don't blame your mom for leaving...actually what else could she do?
As for him, that's an alcoholic for you. Get in touch with Family Services or your local public Mental Health organization. I'd tell you to see a lawyer but that costs money and you don't have it. In the meantime, when he puts you down (it's what they do)...tell him you are not his wife and remind him his wife left because of his behavior. ..leaving all you kids without a mother. As for his yelling...tell him to blow it out his ear, you were not put on this earth to live up to his expectations and he's not living up to his responsibilities as a father and creating and causing you all this pain and suffering. If he gets out of hand...call the cops. Don't even think twice about it. Let him yell at them (ha). Don't put up with it...that is the message your mother left you all with. He's already done enough damage to your life, your mother and sisters. You are better that him and have already proven it. Reaching out for help was the first good step you took...keep going and do stay in school. Best of luck.
2006-08-05 00:03:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anyway you and your sisters can move with your mom? That is not a good environment for you and your sisters...believe me and then you will choose guys like your dad to date...whether you want to or not! I found that I did that and now I have a child and I do not want him to grow up like I did. Or see if your dad will get some help and stop drinking! You are too young to be responsible for your family!
2006-08-04 23:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by delfin716 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before your dad starts drinking for the day...sit him down and say...wtf dad...you tell me this, you say that...what would make YOU happy...what can I do to make YOUR life better...maybe he'll wake up to what a total *** he's being....if not...save your money and move out with your sisters!....why did your mom leave you with a father like that...I don't understand that...she couldn't live with it, yet, expects you and your sisters to live like that....strange!
2006-08-04 23:30:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your mother, she should have taken you all with her anyway.
2006-08-04 23:28:02 · answer #5 · answered by redbone_lds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to confront him an intervention. be open and honest tell him how you feel.
2006-08-04 23:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by Tracy T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋