at what moment do you realize you've fallen OUT of love?

Question

is there a precise moment, and how or what makes you realize it? is falling out of love something that can be chosen?

Answer 1

I heard a saying I found to be true:

"The opposite of love is not hate, but indifference".

If that person does something (like cheating) and you just dont give a damn, like numb feelings, then that's a VERY good sign.

Answer 2

Well...I realized it when I started taking interest in other people. Falling out of love isn't something that's chosen either...it just happens when people change. There are some instances when two people just need time away to reflect on whether or not they feel the relationship is worth salvaging or if YOU are willing to change for the other person. However, many factors can lead to falling out of love. Mine happened to be control issues, manipulation, and abuse. Other situations of falling out of love can just simply be the fact that both of you have changed or grown up. Remember, humans are adaptable creatures. You shouldn't stay in a relationship because X amount of years have been put into it or because you think you can change the OTHER person. If you two were meant to be...then it will find a way to work out. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 3

I think its when you realize that you would be happier alone than with the person you are with. Sometimes just a question like you ask is all it takes to realize it. Can you choose it? I don't know. I know there are ways that you maybe could try to fall back into love but people change/grow. It's all a part of life.

Answer 4

I believe that love is more than an emotion. A lot of people think that love is when you get butterflies in your stomach and when you talk about sweet nothings, sitting on a swing the whole day, with your loved one. And then, when those emotions aren't there, they think they've 'fallen out of love'. I strongly disagree with this. Emotions come and go, sometimes are enjoyed, sometimes are unwelcome, but love is more than that. Love is what keeps you together when there aren't butterflies, when there's no time to sit on a swing set the whole day, when there are too many responsibilities that won't allow you time to kiss in the rain. Love is what keeps you together when you're angry, it's what teaches you to forgive. It's what pushes you to work at it, to make a new start, to be determined, to go on, until the butterflies come along again, and there's time again to sit on the swing set the whole day, and there's places to kiss in the rain.

Answer 5

No,
Falling in or out of love is not a control issue. It's an issue that is "won" or "lost" sort of speak. When your heart travels the path of love and it feels that it is no longer being catered to, you will begin to fall "out of love". This can happen over a period of time or it can occur all of a sudden, depending on the circumstances.

You may realize that you don't love him/her as much as you once did or not at all. If you are questioning it you may be at that point yourself. What ever your situation is.......remember it not anyone's fault but the consequence of being in love in the first place. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Falling out of love is not something that you chose. It is what you feel. And it is usually a gut feeling and it becomes more and more tedious spending time with that individual. When you are looking for excuses not to spend time with that individual, and when the return on your investment yields zero or next to nothing...it's time to let go and move forward. No sense pursuing something that just isn't there. Life is to short.....

Answer 7

When things you used to think were cute are just annoying, and you're no longer willing to tolerate their faults.

No, it can't be chosen, it's sad, but if you have to try NOT to fall out of love, it's too late.

Answer 8

There was a time for me, earlier this year when i just thought f**k this, I'm not doing it any more... within days she was saying "you've changed" ... true... just stopped trying... I think the relationship had been dead for about 18 months but i was trying so hard to keep it going... just exhausting....

Answer 9

I do believe that falling out of love can be something choosen,,,just get yourself into the wrong trap...putting others before him and listening to their nice comments realizing you dont get that from him anymore....you can decide....but youll regret it later.

Answer 10

for me it was gradually over time. falling out of love wasn't suddenly but after years of emotional abuse. I knew when I no longer missed him when he was away and when I was tempted to cheat. Everything he does is annoying and you are happier when apart.