I found out on good friday that he's still seeing her, he asked if we could co-exist! Well i've been hanging in there and i found out today that its still goin on and he's even been braggin to one his family members about his girlfriend and that he's just waiting till our kids are grown. well, our youngest is 15. should I get a jump on things and leave him first? I feel like such an a**. one thing that is involved is that I take care of HIS mother who has alzheimers. I just can't believe that I have stood by him through thick and thin, rich and mostly poor, good and bad etc. and even clean his mothers **** and this is the thanks i get!
2006-08-04 16:10:21 · 14 answers · asked by brokenheart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you know that you deserve better than this? Because, honey, you definitely don't need this guy. You are his cook, housekeeper, babysitter, nurse and what are you getting but possibly some STD and a slap in the face. Think seriously of taking your son and start your life anew. He can cook, clean, and take care of his mother. Co-exist what is that...you the hired help? Do you get a salary or a day off? No, if you are cp-existing then he taking to the limits of a open marriage, How do you think he would handle if you got a boyfriend, and needed the night off to go out? Because you are taking all the responsibilties off his shouldars and he's having a good old time at your expense. Do you want to keep paying? It's your choice. He's not standing by you or helping you. He broke the vows, you owe him nothing! He owes you his love, understanding, and faithfulness...Do some hard soul searching! If he's going to leave when the youngest get's out of school, what would happen if his Mother pass soon, I bet he would hit the road. If you stay, please make some changes...start with I need a day off, if nothing but go out with friends, or go get your haircut and walk the mall....start putting money aside so if he does decide to leave you will have a nest egg to help get you and your son on your feet. As I said the decision is yours, but please don't think this has to be your life. You might have a struggle at first, but sounds like you are use to that so it won't be nothing new or something you can't handle. Anyone who raise kids, and takes care of a Alzheimers patient has nerve. You do what your head tells you to do, because sometimes your heart acts on feelings and not what's the best in the long run......I will be praying for you all....God bless us all..........
2006-08-04 19:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its true you should leave him but first do you have a job that the question if not this what i did my husband cheated on me and promise over and over also his family new .So what i did on day i open an bank account and save money didn't touch the account i treat him as nothing was wrong wait to have enough in the bank and got my self an apt then i walk out my door with two bag and my kid and went to my place i left him with his mom and said for on know he be taking care of you adios and i never look back good luck iam happier now and i never felt that i had go back always look at your self and say i never going to be second plate .He just a loser one day he will see what ajerk he was and wishes you back ,The best part is to say i will never take you back .The expression on their face he just satisfied
2006-08-04 23:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by victoria g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you find his girlfriend's number and give her a call and let her know that it's her turn to take care of the sick mom and sit around and figure out whether he's gotten sick of her and is with someone else. Once a cheater always a cheater and she'll be in the same boat in a few years.
Good luck!
2006-08-04 23:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by mariana m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom faced the same situation- she suspected my dad was cheating, even got an STD for life but stood by him- then the box of history came-all the letters, pictures, hotel receipts, even voice mail; saying-"wait til the kids are grown and I am gone", even a picture of my dad's face tatooed on her huge butt-no kidding- there are women that dumb out there-- my mom got the box in the mail and her heart broke--then she got mad and got some great books on divorce and a really good lawyer-- now dad pays her alimony so she can buy her own house and will get half his retirement- the currant GF isn't happy about it but mom took care of HIS mother while she was dying and he was in Paris with her--PS Mom is thin, happy, dating, and at peace- SO YOU GO GIRL
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2006-08-04 23:45:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to worry, GOD will take care of it for you. You were doing your part of the marriage and fulfilling his wishes. Now it's time to start being GRATEFUL for what you do have. You shouldn't feel like an a** for being a good person, in the end you will be rewarded for all your goodness and kind heart.
2006-08-05 12:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and let the ***** clean his mom's ***! I'm sure she isn't a good person like you are! She probably doesn't want him like that! It's the excitement of sneaking around that she probably likes! And him, he is a jerk!!
2006-08-04 23:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by delfin716 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for him to grow up and take care of his own mother and time for you to take your children and leave. Call an attorney asap.
2006-08-04 23:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell out of there. But try not to abandon his mother, at least call adult protective services or something cuz that jerk ain't gonna take care of her. Good luck, dear. PLEASE GO NOW
2006-08-05 00:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer, now! He is being incredibly unfair to you and, on so many levels! Don't give him a head's up, though. He doesn't deserve it.
2006-08-04 23:24:19 · answer #9 · answered by Colleen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't stay around. You have done more than your share. I would leave and let him tend to his Mom. You deserve better than this. He sure isn't worth it.
2006-08-04 23:19:22 · answer #10 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋