I'm 16 and pregnant, how should I tell my parents?

Question

My parents hate my boyfriend and we aren't suposed to be seeing each other, I don't know how to tell my parents im pregnant. Not only that but my boyfriend wants me to get an abortion because he said he's scared and wants the easy way out. He knows i will always be against it, but he thinks that we wouldn't be able to handle a baby. I would never be able to live with myself if i had an abortion. What would be the best option for a 16 and a 17 year old?

my boyfriend wants me to have an abortion, but he's gonna stick by me no matter what i decide to do.

Answer 1

Oh hun.... you need to talk to your rents. They will be able to help you. Might be mad at first but you need their advice right now. If you really feel that you can't talk to them then talk to a counsler. Seems like you have a lot in you and you need to talk about this and have someone help you make the best possible decision.

Answer 2

I'm sorry your having a rough time. The good news is that you sound like you already know what you want. Having this baby or not having it is your choice, not anyone else's. Don't let anyone talk you into doing something you know you'll regret for life. If you're against abortion don't be afraid to stand up a let everyone know it's not an option. How to tell you parents is a tough one. I would say it all depends on what kind of parents you have. Take their personalities in to consideration when mapping out a plan on how you will break the news. You might want to tell you mom and have her break it to your dad or vice/versa. If you don't think you can do it at all, tell someone else you can trust (an older brother or sister, cousin, aunt, school counsler, a friend of the family) and then have them tell your parents. You should be present in the room at the time. I broke the news to my younger cousin's parent when she got pregnant at 15. It was very emotional. I suggest you don't go into it alone . You don't know how your parents will react and you may need some support that they will not be able to provide for you at that time. Make sure you boyfriend is not around. If you can skirt the issue as to who has impregnated you, do so at least, until the following day. But if your parents demand to know give them all the information they need. Realize your parents with feel as powerless and frustrated in this situation as you are. Don't take their first reactions to heart. Parents never stop loving their children. No matter how it may seem. You've changed your life and the lifes of those around forever. Whatever decisions you make. Keep your head up. Stay positive. There's lots of info out there on teen pregnancy and making it work. You've got your whole life ahead of you. It's not the end of the world. My cousin has a beautiful five year old and she wouldn't trade that little girl for anything. In fact she named her Joy. God bless and good luck

"Don't Mistake your Miracle"

Answer 3

I had my son when I was 16. Its a really hard thing to go through. Luckily my boyfriend stuck around and became my husband. The best advice I can give to anyone in this situation is to stay in school. No matter how hard it may be stick to it. The only way you and your child will have a good life is if you have an education and a good job. I am very blessed to have such a supportive family. Don't get me wrong my parents were very upset. But they get over it once the see a sonogram or hear the heart beat. There are many things 16 and 17 year old's cannot provide to an infant so be sure you have the means to keep a child. If you don't you may have to make a hard choice to give him or her up. You just have to think about what kind of life you can give your child. Remember it's not a puppy and you just cant get rid of it when you want to live your life. You have a lot of thins to think about and I hope you make the right decision. Good luck.

Answer 4

My daughter and boy friend sat me down and told me the made a "one time mistake". I was very mad and probably loud. But I got over it.

It is YOUR choice whether or not to have an abortion. But remember there are a lot of couples out there that cannot have their own baby and want to adopt.

When all is done, go to Planned Parenthood and get some birth control. If you are old enough to have sex, you should be smart enough to use birth control. A guy isn't the one that gets pregnant so it is your responsibility. PP charges what YOU can afford, they do not use your parent's income.

By the way, her dad was at work when my daughter told me. He didn't learn about it for another week. My other 2 daughters were playing Allstar Softball and I didn't want to ruin it for them.

Six months later, for my birthday, I wanted the boy to have dinner with us. Up 'til then he wasn't allowed in the house.

Just so you know it won't be pleasent but your need get it over with, and tell them.

Answer 5

I think you should just come straight out and tell them. They are going to be upset at first, but it won't last long. Once they see your growing belly and the closer oyu get to having their grandchild the more excited they will get. I hate the fact that the two of you are not supposed to be seeing each other, but there's nothing they can do about it now. As for the abortion, follow your first mind and KEEP your baby. You are 16 and you DO NOT have to drop out of school to care for it. Do you have any relatives that can care for the baby while you are in school? Your boyfriend shouldn't be pushing you to get an abortion. A baby is a gift from God and things happen for a reason. Congratulations and good luck. If you need any more advice feel free to IM me. My screenname is ckhampton99. Good luck sweetie and God bless.

Answer 6

Tell your parents that you need to talk to both of them. Begin by telling them you love them. Never but never have an abortion, ever, ever! You have a tiny baby growing inside you, your flesh and blood which will grow into the the most precious, wonderful thing you will ever love. I think, your parents will support your decision, but if they don't there are many, many places that will help you--look in the yellow pages, if that cdoesn't work keep calling churches until you get help. The next step is to get rid the the immature boyfriend that you have that wants you to kill your child. This is a bad sign of character for a man to want to illiminate his own flesh and blood. He will NOT make a good mate. With this guy it will be pay now or pay later with the pain he will bring you! Drop him now! When you first lay eyes on your baby your heart will melt and your love will grow and grow! Just count the lost of the boyfriend as a learning experience. Trust me, this guy is not honorable and will only bring you grief. Your baby will bring you joy! May the Lord bless you and keep you and make HIs face to shine upon you as you do the right moral thing for you and your child. God bless you!

Answer 7

I have been in your situation. I was 16 when I had my daughter... my mom hated my boyfriend, too.

The best thing you can do is tell them now. Don't wait because the longer you wait the harder it will be to tell them later. You will just want to try and hide it for just a little longer.
You can call a family planning center for advice. They may even be able to offer assistance in telling your parents. Sometimes you can tell your parents in one of their offices with one of their counselors with you.
Or, maybe try telling your parents in a public place where there are people around.
Your parents are going to be angry, hurt and disappointed and I am sure there is going to be yelling. In a public place, they MAY be able to keep that in check long enough to cool down until you can get home.

If you want this baby, have this baby. Noone can tell you what to do. You have to decide for yourself.
Being a teen mom is NOT the end of the world(as everyone will tell you)You can have a baby and still finish school, get a job and do everything that you planned to do.

Tell your boyfriend that the decision isn't up to him. Scared or not, this is what happens when you have sex. He needs to step up and stand beside you no matter what you decide.
The 2 of you also need to tell his parents, as well.

Good Luck!

Answer 8

1st, dont get an abortion. u might not be able 2 get pregneant evemn again if u get 1. tell ur parents, they will probably be mad at first, but they will also be glad u told them. if i were u, i would give the baby up for adoption. the baby will have a much better life(most likely). and if u want to still see your baby after it is adopteed, u could even do an open adoption, where u can still keep in contact with it. which ever path u take, i wish u the BEST of luck!

Answer 9

Hey kid u r still very young, with whole life ahead of u.
The very first thing u should do is tell ur parents.
Next with ur parents help go to some good gynaec. and get a abortion done.
You are not mentally and physically mature enough to have a baby.
Don't get to emotional abt the continuing the pregnancy for u might regrete this decision in future.
Life is not that easy baby.

Love is important but more than that you should b well educated to provide urself with all the needfull things.

all the best.

Answer 10

I know it is going to be hard, but you have to tell them, the sooner the better. And your boyfriend should definitely be with you. I would have both sets of parents there so you only have to tell them once. I also do not believe in abortion and ultimately that decision is yours. You have to start thinking about that new life growing inside of you and what you are going to have to do to supprt yourself and the baby. I think the 2 of you are much too young for marriage. Finish your education, get your GED if you have to, instead of finishing high school. Be strong. Best of luck to you and the new baby. I hope the dad will step up to the plate and take responsibility too for the new baby.

Answer 11

BOTH of you tell your parents that you made a huge mistake. You don't want to compound the mistake by having a baby that neither of you wants. You can't depend on the jerk to come around at some point and grow up. Tell your folks that you want to have the baby and put it up for adoption. Be as involved as you can be in selecting the parents for your baby and have an open adoption so you can stay in touch and watch your child grow up. Give a couple the gift of a child that they want and will love and take care of. You'll get a second chance to re-evaluate your own life and decide what you want to do with it. Good luck to you.