It has only been a year and I think I maybe want a divorce, all he does is criticize me, I hate it?

Question

I want to feel sexy again.

Answer 1

What made you marry him to begin with? You can feel sexy with or without him.

Answer 2

The first years are the hardest but once you overcome them things should be much more easier, have you spoken to him about the way he behaves towards you? was this the way he has been before you got married? Sit him down and tell him how you feel use the same words you used now which is "I hate It" give him the chance to make it right dont bail out as long as it is not Physical abuse it should be ok to try and work it out but be careful battering always comes after a man takes away a woman's selfesteem. You dont need to feel insecure tell yourself that you are sexy and beautiful because if you dont think that of yourself why should he. Dress sexy in the house take time to get back your life dont let any man take that away from you, and one more thing, tell him that he should stop criticizing you because you are the same person he married and if he had a problem with you he should not have said the vows. Remember the part were they said for better or worst. Good luck

Answer 3

Tell him how you feel. Then go get counseling. Sometimes men can be critical without meaning to be, but he is your husband your life-mate so you really need to fix this. Tell him very directly, "You make me feel like I'm not sexy, and I want to feel sexy again." Be direct about your feelings.

My husband used to be this way also during our early marriage. I don't know why men do this, but some do. I finally told him one day that "I used to feel sexy and pretty before we were married and I don't feel that way because you critisize me so much. But I know other men notice me!" Don't let him get away with this. My husband didn't change overnight, but he did eventually. We have been married 26 years now, and he has been very sweet and appreciate for most of our marriage. Give him a chance to do the right thing.

Answer 4

Before you demand a divorce, you need to talk to him. Tell him you will not tolerate being critized. And make sure your tone is serious and forceful. Do not even respond to his criticisms, when he starts to do it simply walk out of the room or tell him that the critisism diminishes you and also let him know that it is hurting you that he does this, your husband should care about your feelings

If he doesn't stop seek couples therapy, the therapist can guide you both to having a healthy relationship.

I work at a library there are many books on the subject of how to make a marriage work and on marriage in general, if you like to read go to your local library and find information there.

Please, Only divorce as a last resort.

Answer 5

I don't know what religion you are. First i want to say divorce should be a LAST RESORT!!! if you are Christian give your marriage a year. But not just that that means a year of both of you living right. A year of really being in the Word and actually going to church. If you want to feel sexy make the first move! Use your imagination. Great sex is a huge part of marriage!

Answer 6

Go to counseling. Chances are you both grew up completely different from one another and without knowing for sure I would imagine his criticizing is related to the way he's use to seeing things done versus how you are use to doing them. So going to counseling may help sort this out and help the two of you to understand that sometimes these differences aren't worth ending a marriage over. Men today don't have very much mentorship in their lives when it comes to being a husband and so when they have a young wife who maybe does things a little different they are not equipped to adjust to the change. So go to counseling and talk this out before you decide to cut bait and run. He may not realize what he is doing. It may be more of a knee jerk reaction.

Answer 7

get a divorce, then go out with some other guy. They would make you feel sexy again. But you have to make sure what he's like. but don't marry until you find the perfect guy.

Answer 8

I have been married for 5 years in the fall and I tell you, point blank he is a man. They will never understand us and as much as they pretend they won't try to.
The question is whether there is more to it or not. Is there somebody else showing interest in your who makes you question why you are with the man you married? This happened to me a couple of years ago. My good friend at work...who is maried and I decided mutally that we had feelings for eachother. That is as far as it went because we both have families, but I know how it felt to know that somebody thoght I was so great when I felt my husband didn't even appreciate the fact I was alive. My advice is to stay open and honest with him tell him how you feel, and try try try. Marriage is alot of work forever, and hopefully you knew this before getting married. Good luck

Answer 9

Well I would talk to him first before you go and make a decision like that let him know how he makes you feel and then make your decision off of his response to you. I know what it's like being criticized by someone you love. I told my husband that I was going to leave and I really was too and that made him realize that if he didn't straighten up then no more me. We are fine now so that's really all I can tell ya.
Hang in there and good luck.

Answer 10

Girl, I feel you!!! My husband is the same way. I don't even remember the last time I heard something kind or loving -- or romantic. We have a kid together and so I'm hanging on out of desperation -- but I'd give anything to even get a kiss. It's been over a year since we've had sex. And we're really young!!!! My advice: Find someone who can appreciate you BEFORE you have kids. My God, I wish I would have.....

Answer 11

Seek counseling. If he doesn't want to go, you go still. You work on the things you feel you need worked on. NOT what he feels you need worked on. You do it for you before you do it for him is the way I see it.

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