Last year when I was a new girl I was really shy. This year, I'm going to be a new girl again. I still think I am shy. Is their any possible way to get the first impression that I am not shy, am friendly and not snobby? Somehow everytime I try to be confident I always seem like a know-it-all or a snob, is their any way to work on this?
2006-08-04 15:36:38 · 5 answers · asked by ChaiTea 5 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
Don't try to be or look like something you're not. A lot of people have shyness. What you want, though, is to come across as a nice, friendly but quiet-side girl rather than a pathologically introverted shy person. What you need to do is make it a point to be the first speak to other kids when the situation is right. Don't try to "come across" as anything. Just strike up even a short, little conversation for a minute or two over anything - the homework, how to get to the library, what the shortest way to the lunchroom is, etc. Quick little comments about whatever is going on let people know you're friendly and in some cases will be the beginning of other conversations or friendships later. Its easy to just make a quick comment to one person who happens to be in your proximity or even to start up a real conversation by telling someone, "I'm new. Can you tell me where's a good place for pizza?" Its the people right around you in your classes and at lunch and on any school bus who are the ones who may either become friends or "spread the word" about what kind of person you are. You aren't going to get the whole school into an assembly and go up on stage and introduce yourself. Its easy to just be (not just "act" but actually be) a little friendlier to the people right around you on a day-to-day basis. The rest will come naturally.
The world is full of people who are very friendly but who, in reality, had to overcome shyness. Other than making that little extra effort to say a little something friendly first don't do anything else as far as making an impression goes. A little shyness is sometimes far more likeable than too much confidence. You just don't want to let it turn you into a recluse-type.
2006-08-04 16:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to know me to appreciate ate me but I just say it with a t-shirt no one can resist to see a cute shirt always a conversation starter, ice breaker, says a lot about my mood kinda thing. Those who know me love me and my T warns them when not to cross the line lol:-) Have a good one.
2006-08-04 22:47:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was at a new school in 4th grade i didn't get talked to and was hated for no reason for about 2 months. guess it's diffrenet for boys and girls.
2006-08-04 23:09:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for u
2006-08-04 22:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anthony D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself.
2006-08-04 22:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by GIZZY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋