I thought I was pretty close to a couple of my co-workers, then the other day, I walked in on them whispering something and they suddenly got quiet when they saw me. Recently this has been happening a lot, and I notice they are not as friendly as before.
2006-08-04 15:27:43 · 8 answers · asked by Optimistic 6 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
As a Human Resource professional, I can tell you this is certainly a tough one and has happened to us all. I have observed this dilemma handled many different ways.... here's my advice.
Confronting is certainly one way to handle this situation, but I've rarely seen this turn out effectively. Usually, this serves to place a larger wedge between the parties involved. Think how much you'll give them to "discuss" when you confront them. They'll be two little chatter boxes - and - you'll still be the odd one out. Besides, you can't let these backstabbers think you give a darn about their conversation and friendship.
Based on my experience and observations it's best to act like you barely notice their behavior. Adopt a professional stance with them. Greet them and keep going, be helpful as it relates to work - no more, no less. They will quickly observe that you have cooled off.
Being "unaffected" by their childish behavior will give you time to refocus your efforts on being a stellar performer and while they are still acting like children you're getting ahead on the job.
Professionalism wins. Leave the kiddies in the playground. You've got work to do.
2006-08-04 15:56:36 · answer #1 · answered by littlebunny101 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your coworkers comments probably come from a false sense of trying to help. They may think they're offering good advice for your health but going about it the wrong way. Some people are just skinny. Unless a doctor tells you that you need to gain weight than you shouldn't worry. These comments are inappropriate but shrouded in good intentions perhaps so if you can communicate that it offends you in a graceful way then that would be best.
2016-03-26 23:38:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that this is happening to you because it's really awful. I've worked for many years, and I believe that it's a hazard of working in most environments, not all, but most. I believe that the best thing is to try to ignore it and maintain a distance. Several people who I know who are very successful in business told me recently just "not to care". But, I know that it's easier said than done.
2006-08-04 16:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by traveller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start keeping your relationship with them strictly professional and start looking for other friendly faces at work. Good luck...there is nothing worse than a lying, backstabbing co-worker.
2006-08-04 15:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by seattlecutiepie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you are going to be stabbed in the back then your best choice is:
STAND NEXT TO THE WALL
2006-08-04 15:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I keep a 30-gallon trash can lid down the back of my shirt.
A metal one, not that flimsy Rubbermaid stuff. That won't even slow the knife down.
2006-08-04 16:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confronting them directly, in a non-defensive manner and tone, is the best way to go about it.
2006-08-04 15:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by Pushy Buttafly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approach them separately and ask them "what's up". I can't stand people like that. Good luck!
2006-08-04 15:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by Tortured Soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋