do moms usually know u r gay?

Question

im thinking about tellin my mom

Answer 1

I think moms USUALLY have a guess. There are a few exceptions, but MOST of my friends said their moms "knew" before they told them. There's varying degrees of "knowing", though too. What has she said to make you believe she may already know? Has she said anything to indicate her possible / more likely reactions?
I would only say that when telling anyone, especially parents, I always suggest imagining the worst possible scenario, and waiting until you have a backup plan should that be what happens. However you decide, best of luck.

Answer 2

Yes, I think they do. They have these maternal instincts, the feelings and the vibes about all their children. They know if they're kids are happy or sad, etc... My mom does and I do have a feeling she knows I'm gay too but is just in denial. It's like if she doesn't ask, she won't know or wouldn't want to know... (don't ask, don't tell) unless of course I come out someday. Good luck with coming out to your mom tho'.. make sure you're ready and willing to accept the consequences whether good or bad. ;o)

Answer 3

i have always been interested in girls. I've always played with dolls AND trucks and cars when i was younger. and when i started dating my current partner, i used to bring her to the house a lot. my mum liked her and always insists that she come along on all family occasions. then one day i just decided that its only right for me to tell her myself, rather than to hear from others that her precious daughter is a "muff d!ver" (that phrase always cracks me up)
and when the big day finally came, i just told her about it with my GF by my side. all she said was "i knew it a long time ago"
(it was such an anti-climax....lol) but i thank god that i have such an understanding mum. my dad however is still in the dark about me being gay. and i hope he continues to be so, otherwise, he'll have my head for dinner! (which wont be a nice experience I'm sure)

meanwhile, good luck to you sweetie, you need to take into account on a lot of things before you come out.
(a) are you financially independent?
(b) are your family members homophobic?
(c) do you have friends that will provide you with emotional support? (just in case the whole coming out thing turns disastrous)
(d) are you willing to stand up for what you believe no matter what?

if your answers to the above are mostly "no", please think twice about coming out. otherwise, good luck sweetie! i wish you all the best!

hope this helps. regards.

Answer 4

Maybe most do, however mine mom wants all gay people to die and burn in hell. I doubt she knows I am bi and I don't plan on ever telling her. Find out what your mom thinks of homosexuality. If she turns hostile then no. Otherwise if you want to come out to her good luck. I hope she accepts you for who you are.

Answer 5

I'm sorry I haven't talked with you, my computer have been down. As soon as I reinstall my IM, I will contact you. You are doing great. I think your mother already know that you are gay and I still think she loves you just the way you are.

Answer 6

My mom had to have known, the signs were all there, but, like me, she lived in denial until I finally had to tell her that I wasn't going to marry a man, and that I was adopting children. (I can't have children anyway, something is wrong with my body)

Answer 7

On some level, I think most do. But a lot of them are in denial, and others are so self-absorbed they don't notice. How old are you? Think before you leap. How would she take the news?

Answer 8

I really believe a mom knows her kid like the back of her hand but most of them are not gonna come to you. They want you to go to them.

Answer 9

you might want to think twice...when i first decided to come out to my family, i thought my mom would be the first person to stand by me, cuddle me, comfort me and accept me. on the contrary, she did not. she cried, shouted and was so heartbroken. till today, she hopes that i can be *cured* and tries to matchmake me with girls...now, i pretend that i am no longer gay just to avoid making her sad and all that

life is hard.

Answer 10

Sure, they may not want to admit it to themselves, but usually, everyone in the family already knows. Keep it to yourself until such time as it is necessary to share...I am not sure just when that is, for it really is no one's business but yours. Certainly keep it to yourself until you are on your own. Good luck