HELP ***Part 2***Where does it go from here, Love, Lies, 3+yrs. and a ?

Question

we've been talking alot lately and i am getting counceling and am going to church to be saved. She said she want's to be with me and that she believes me. She is my everything. It's just this whole thing with the "friend" really bugs me. she's never made me feel like there is anyone else, ever. apparently he was there to comfort her whenever we had problems, so i know he was just saying what sounded nice. But she told me the onther night that she knows what she wants, me, but no more drama. she also said that should we get back together she'll stop bieing/seeing this friend turned whatever. the day she realized that things were not the same as with me, he tried to kiss her and she turned and walked away. now she's calling me and things are comming back to normal. however when i asked if were back together (officially) she says something like why do i have to be so absolute!?! is she playing it safe or stringing me along. and do you think they did more than just kiss in these last 2 wks

also our relationship is now more distant, it used to be every weekend now it's every other month because of her school and my job. I love her dearly, and she's given me chances before, but this time has made it so real, that i can't afford to lose her. i just don't want her to be playing me for a fool. she's never been like that, but when a womans sick and tired...you know. i know she loves me should i just keep working at it. and should we get back together should i even care if anything really happend with this guy? help.

Answer 1

if she doesn't stop being "Friends" with the other dude then therefore she's not worth your time. she's just going to keep on seeing him and when things aren't going well with him, she'll get back to you, so she's using you guys for her insecurities if you know what I mean. you'll just keep on hurting yourself if you stay with her. you should move on and look for someone else.

Answer 2

If you have to ask, then no. Sound slike you put all of your eggs in one basket, and that's not always good.
She turned away from you once, probably because she had a problem and was too ashamed/lacked integrity/didn't trust you to turn to for help. She was "interviewing your replacement" with the other guy....probably so she wouldn't have to be alone after leaving you. She shouldn't rely on anyone for her happiness. No one wants that responsibility, and it would never work anyway. When you love someone, you feel a mutual trust, respect, and acceptance, without question or doubt. You just know it like your own name. You share an intimacy where you reveal parts of yourself that you don't with anyone else.
You need to move on, and forgive her for her shortcomings. She can't help that she is an a*sshole. Thank her for the life lesson she taught you (about what NOT to accept from someone) and quit wasting time hoping she will change. Find someone who is a perfect fit, and don't be afraid to risk being hurt. You just gain more experience. The world is full of potential friends and lovers, so don't "settle" for being miserable. Life is too short....
Take care!

Answer 3

Dude, you must ask HER these questions. If you two can't talk about this stuff, then you will NEVER have a successful future. Find out now if there is good communications between you, before another 3 years pass and you see you've wasted 3/6 years with the wrong person.

Answer 4

Give it up man. You're killing yourself for something that you said yourself is petering out. Distance in her voice is probably not going to be overcome by anything you can do, especially if there's another guy in the picture. If you really do love her and you believe that she loves you too then you'll have to change the situation so that you can reconnect and spend more time together. Boot mr smooch and get your girl by your side where she belongs. Good Luck :-)

Answer 5

i feel for you, I'm sorry to say that i feel that you should end it. you will grieve, but in the long run and when you are not looking miss perfect will fall at your feet, until then my advice to you is go on with your life and have fun because once you meet miss right, kids will soon follow and you won't have time, plus you won't want to go out with the guys either because you will have found pure bliss, right at home.