I have a 9 yr. old step-son who must sleep with his "bwanky" and his "Teddy". I feel he is much too old for this. I'm sure he'll outgrow it, but is this healthy at this age? (He lives with his mother and we see him everyother weekend.)
2006-08-04 15:05:36 · 15 answers · asked by momof3pups 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
He'll grow out of it. There are most likely some insecurities he's dealing with at his young age. Since he's your step son I would venture to guess that he is probably dealing with the divorce of his parents and a new step-mom. I'm not insulting you or your husband or the boys mother... just saying that his young mind doesn't understand it all. Another thought... his mom may baby him and that may encourage the bwanky and teddy need. Either way HE'LL GROW OUT OF IT.
2006-08-04 15:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by pottersclay70 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have anything to worry about.
1) Many, many kids that age still sleep with blankets, teddy bears. One kid I know takes a washcloth to sleepovers as a substitute for his blanket. One day, they will outgrow it. Why rush them? What's the big deal?
2) Is it possible the child is feeling the effects of all the upheaval in his life? How recent was the divorce? Many kids regress under stress. It is temporary, but if there is something beneath it, you have a chance to help him.
3) I hate to be blunt, but you are not the kid's mom. This is not really your decision.
2006-08-04 15:12:00 · answer #2 · answered by bugnscout 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not an expert but I would say just let him have it. I had a stuffed animal for quite some time when I was younger..I think I turned out just fine! But if you feel that it's not OK you could give him a reward for not sleeping with it. You could have a sticker chart and for every time he doesn't need or sleep with them he gets a sticker. After a set amount of stickers, say 4, then he gets to go play at McDonald's or gets some ice cream. What ever would be rewarding to him. After a while he'll learn that he doesn't need the objects at night.
2006-08-04 16:00:46 · answer #3 · answered by I_am_Here_and_Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him be. It is apparently the only thing in his life that is stable and does not change. Your concern should be to praise his mother and not try to "WIN HIM OVER". He needs security and his bwanky is just that. My son is 14 and still has his bwanky, he does hardly acknowledges it is there, but he keeps it in his closet and KNOWS IT IS THERE. Our world today is different than when we were little. Security is a commidity now.
2006-08-04 15:15:35 · answer #4 · answered by Tim B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are split up it is probably part of the reason. he still as some insecurities and it is something that helps him adjust to going between houses.
my friends son slept with his blanket until grade 6. no big issues. and the word bwankie is probably just there because that is what he has called it since he was a baby. lots of parents encourage baby words and kids carry them on too.
2006-08-04 17:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by Justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the last thing you should be worrying about. More important is :
"HOW MUCH TIME ARE YOU SPENDING WITH HIM IN QUALITY TIME?"
for you rednecks and trailer trash out there "Quality time" isn't him in his room and you drunk watching NASCAR. But rather fishing or throwing a ball or just talking without smacking him on the back of the head or grilling him about his grades or yelling at him.
2006-08-04 15:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys barely see him so whether or not you feel he is too old for these items (which I agree and it sounds like he has been babied) doesn't really matter. You could try telling him that these things are not allowed at your house but other than that if his mom lets him have them it'll continue till he stops on his own.
2006-08-04 15:09:41 · answer #7 · answered by Amy >'.'< 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a 14 year old who grew up at that age with step moms every other weekend 1st of all let his dad approch it if it is a problem u have no groun to step on in his mind so please do not attemt to be a mother figure he already has one so give your opinion to your husband and let him discus it with his son
2006-08-04 16:15:57 · answer #8 · answered by sean34480 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone, he's fine. For one thing he's been through his parents divorce and moving back and forth, he probably needs them for security. Don't bother him about it. There's nothing wrong with a child of any age needing to sleep with familiarity.
2006-08-04 15:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by chi chi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it's no deal. Heck I'm 15 and I still sleep with my "stuffies" and whatnot. If it comforts him, why not let him have it, it's not like it's a bad habit, just something he likes. Don't take it away, honestly what's it hurting?!
2006-08-04 16:22:12 · answer #10 · answered by Scoot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋