I am talking about people who are already late twenties, early thirties and financially stable with no other major problems in their relationship or life. Is this an excuse (that the girl wants to get married) to get out of a relationship, or are men really bothered by such pressure enough to end the relationship even if they love the girl?
2006-08-04 14:52:09 · 13 answers · asked by cecko 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have to believe that if the idea of getting married scares the guy, he knows she isn't the one, or he just has no plans of getting married at all. Either way, she's wasting her time. :(
2006-08-04 14:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by Ruthless Rick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that a lot of men do not want the resposabilities that come with marriage. A lot of us are scared that because u r married that you have no personal life or that you will be tied down and not able ot do what you want anymore. In addition some males are scared of having kids. If the guy truley loves and cares about a woman and they have good communication in their relationship then they will be able to discuss marriage and understand how eachother feel. If i were late twenties ealy thirties i would want ot settle down and start a family so i'm not in my 50's still having kids in grade school. I guess it really depends if the guy thinks that you are the one for him. If he sees you in his future and given the age, with a little pressure from the lady i think he would go for it. However if he has doubts about her and she is pressuring for a ring then he could use it as an excuse to leave her. It is hard to say, so many people in todays world are afraid of commitment and responsibility it is really sad.
2006-08-04 17:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by shnizpoop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its probably just the result of centuries of socilization. There is an old saying that a man, as an individual answerable only to himself dies when he gets married, while women as individuals die upon giving birth. In both situations the person is now "responsible" for the wife/child. Or he just might be scared, after all, fifty plus percent of marriages end in divorce, and men generally have a greater chance of being financially responsible for someone they no longer love or live with. Hopefully its just cold feet.
2006-08-04 16:45:13 · answer #3 · answered by Unknown Oscillator 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all who in the hell in there right minds would even bothering wanting to get maried too a broad when shes either heavilly involveed with somebody else etc, and i have, never heard of anyone these days, who is really frre of debt and no problems in a relationshipp(some run up huge credit card debits per say of course) i only wish i had seen people in, there lives no materr what age that is debbt fre these days and dont have no problemm in there relationships, unles you are living in the twilight zone, etc, as far as the girl wanting, just too get married this sounds like, she just wants too run downe the isle with what everr, joe comes, along etc, life dont work that way, and yes i beiong a dude would end the relationshipp in a heart beat etc, even if i loved the broadd, and, just walk away now theres one more big question youi lefet out here thats bothering me what if she pregant?? expecting?? hmm makes me even wonder now etc
2006-08-04 15:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot ask a question like this, for each answer will be from a perspetive of that person. ME...I have always been married...well, not to the same person, but always been married. Others run from committment. There is no set answer here. Good luck
2006-08-04 15:19:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if the man isn't ready for that yet, then he is doing the girl a favor. She gets her wish and will eventually find a man who is ready, and he gets his wish (or loss depending on the woman) for remaining single. There is a saying by who knows, but it was good.
On marraige:
"a woman worries until she is married"
"a man worries after he gets married"
There ya go, a Man's perspective.
2006-08-04 15:10:45 · answer #6 · answered by mountainlvr65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allot of it is that some men get scarred when they are pressured to do anything. Not that I'm saying men are dogs but.... My dog doesn't like to be forced to do anything. When I put it in my room it runs right out, but if I don't it comes in and makes it's self comfortable on the bed! Sometimes guys need to have space and don't like to be rushed. Let him move on you on his own time.
2006-08-04 14:59:14 · answer #7 · answered by John W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do people thing a guy would give up his best friend, lover, and helpmate because she wanted to get married. That's about like taking your favorite bird dog to the pound, because it hunted slower when it was old. Sheesh!!
2006-08-04 15:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive heard of guys not wanting to settle down but never ending the relationship cuz of that...i mean, its the general order of things...meet a girl you really like, you date for a while, get engaged, get married...thats what happens. and if you really love the girl, theres no reason not to. theres this preconceived notion that most guys like bein with a lotta girls and dont like settling down with one girl...its not true. ive never been with a girl where i didnt see the possibility of spending my life with her. if you really love this guy, and you see a future, you need to tell him how you feel...if he doesnt wanna marry you right now is it gonna change the way you feel about him? how long will you wait? u guys need to talk about it...best of luck
2006-08-04 15:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by af4sguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to question the guys love then it may not really be worth trying to marry him.
2006-08-04 14:56:37 · answer #10 · answered by rich b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋