My BFF lost her virginity and came to me for help!?

Question

She (14 years old) had sex with a guy, and she regretted it. She was beat by her mom, had privelages taken away, and she might have aids, cuz he sleeps around alot. And I think she might kill herself. She has attempted suicide before, and I don't know what to do. I talked to her, but she's deeply depressed, and I'm scared she'll cutt herself like when she was 12. What do I do? I talked to her, but I'm like the worst advice giver. I told my mom but she just gave a long speech.

Answer 1

Try and talk to her, you dont know. She might just need a friend at this moment. You dont need to be a good talker to be a good friend. Just try talking to her and tell her you will listen to everything she has to say. Help her, she will feel heaps better. Make her a card and tell her how much you adore her friendship and how much you admire her strength. Friends love compliments. She will be fine im sure.

Answer 2

Your friend lost her virginity...yes that's a big thing but it's not the end of the world.
Her mother beat her...well I guarantee she didn't need a beating because of the pain she probably already feels knowing she has given up something so precious to someone who takes it for granted.
Tell her if she kills herself she'll be letting everyone who has done her harm win. Life can sometimes be hard and painful. We have our good times and we have our bad time. Giving up is not an option. Pray with your friend...if you don't know how...just say what's on your heart.Prayer is just a conversation with god.
Call the suicide hotline I believe it's 1-800-Suicide
Tell your friend to write down a goal and work hard at it. I know this one sounds weird but this one will take her mind off her troubles and give her a reason for living.
Maybe a goal of her could be to go to college.
She can work at it everyday in everything that she does....
Tell her to help others...this also takes your mind off of your own problems and it also helps you solve your problems,
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I hope this helped!

Answer 3

Just let her you know that you love her. If you have any friends that have gone through something similar and have gotten over it, have them talk to her. At the moment I'm sure she thinks no one loves her, so really let her know you love her. Stay positive around her, but no too positive (cuz that can get annoying). But just joke around w/ her. Make her smile. Make her happy. Try and keep her away things/people that really depress. Tell about good things that happen life, give her reasons to live. Take her out and just have fun. I suggest that if you're going to tell someone like adults/police. Don't tell her you are going to. Otherwise that will cause a whole new issue.

Answer 4

Young Lady, dear child please get to your counselors or someone at your school..get on the phone and talk with a real person not these responses though they will by and large be sound and solid advice you/she need to talk to an adult who is not so immediately involved as parents and other close friends and relatives might have some unwarranted indifference's. You are doing your part in seeking advice from your parents...now get on the phone and get to work both of you and be real about it...
do not "punk-out"...stay rational and get help.
A physician is a good first step...
her Primary Care Physician has got to be made aware...

Get with it folks and be there for your friend as you are here now.

Peace, Good Luck
and
God Bless You, Soldier.
now
Carry-on.

Answer 5

It sounds like your friend is dealing with deeper issues than just having sex and a bad relationship with her mom. The sex, cutting herself and suicide are all cries for help. She really needs to talk to an adult she can trust. They may be able to help.

Answer 6

Wow, that is a difficult situation. honestly i would tell both your mothers. seriously. try again. her mother may be mad that she lost her virginity, but imagine how she'll feel if her little girl takes her own life. And your mother may be able to talk to her mother. tell her how important it is. how serious the situation could end up. maybe then she will help. but don't give up. bring it up all the time till she helps. and talk to your friend all the time. make sure she knows she has a friend. someone she can talk to and cry with if need be. don't give up.

Answer 7

wow my bff was is in the same position except for the sex with a guy part ok what you have to do is tell her you are always there for her and just be like its not worth killing yourself and just tell her you love her (like a best friend) and just talk to her and tell her how much she means to you and how sad you would be if she was gone (if you would be) umm... i hope everything works out for you and your friend and i hope she doesnt have aids =] if you want any other advice or something you can email me

Answer 8

Try talking to her mom, and telling her what she might do to herself and if her mother is careless, you have to talk to God, trust me. Pray and tell him the problem, put full trust in him and keep talking to her, but for help now, if you really wanna save her, talk to a psychiatrist to help her, she may be upset @ first, but when she realized that you were doing it out of love to save her life, she'll calm down. And sooner or later, get her tested for STDs. I'll keep you in my prayers. Jesus loves you. You and her might try going to a fun active church, like youth or something and you may be able to talk to a pastor that can help.

Answer 9

dude you gotta stay away from her she's only gonna bring you down. at that age its best to either tell her parents or some school advisor. you are not equiped in anyway to handle it. she's got a lot of problems and there really isn't anything else you can do. just say you'll be there for her but she's gotta go find help herself.

Answer 10

I think she needs a good doc to give her some answers for her problem of low esteem to let herself get into this problem. As for Aids, get a check as soon as possible and forget about pre-marital sex. Your to young to be having these problems.