Would you re-enter a relationship with someone who...?

Question

...Is caring and attentive in one instant, then cold and distant the next? Today, welcomes you with open arms; tomorrow pushes you away?

If you loved this person tremendously but departed (and healed) due to the painful nature of the relationship, would you continue seeing them if they asked you back into their life?

Answer 1

ask yourself if it would really be worth it to go through crap just because it's good sometimes

Answer 2

I was in a marriage like that except the only time he didn't push me away and acted caring was when he wanted sex which wasn't often so I was basically ignored and felt lonely. Wouldn't take him back and it's called emotional abuse. Why would you take someone back no matter how much you think you love them if you know you are just going to be hurt again? You say the relationship was painful and you have healed why put yourself through it again? Find someone who will love you with open arms without pushing you away. Don't be afraid to be alone don't settle for less than you deserve.

Answer 3

I wouldn't. I mean, if you depart because of the "painful nature of the relationship" then why hurt yourself again? I have to views on this, and that's because I don't know details or the people concerned. So, speaking if it was in my shoes, here goes. One: He won't change or even try to. If he's so hot and cold, maybe he's fickle too, and he might decide he doesn't want to be with me again. I would be friends with him, but I wouldn't set myself up for heartbreak again, despite the fact that I will heal eventually. Two: Give him another change and allow for change. He's showing effort that he really wants to be with me and is trying to control his attitude. I know for a fact that he cares about me and doesn't want to hurt me. (if you go with this option, I suggest that you are still a little wary. Don't throw yourself back in it right away. If he know you're being more distant because of his moody attitude, then he may want to be better. ) Last tip: make sure you don't get sucked into it because you feel bad for him, because in the end, you're all you have, and you have to be able to be by yourself no matter how much you don't like it. Good luck and hope my advice was helpful.

Answer 4

Has this person changed since the break up? If they are the same person then life with them will be even MORE painful because you would be hurt and disappointed. If this person has gotten help or just matured and is now a different more predictable person then I would hook up again after some couples counseling.

Answer 5

I would be a friend to them, but they couldn't be my friend because obviously they are struggling with some serious issues. There's something deep down that is causing them to act that way. I can't trust/depend on people like that because they are hiding something.

Answer 6

Wow, that is difficult isnt it? One thing I always try to remember is 'If its not right, its not right' and it sounds as if its not right really. If it was right you wouldn't be asking and you would'nt feel unhappy. I think you should leave it. Everything will be ok I'm sure - good luck

Answer 7

To me, that's called Playing Games. No, I will not play her games ever again. Not worth her friendship either.

Answer 8

No.. I would never do that!!
I am not a DONKEY and I would not fall to the same hole twice

Answer 9

I wouldn't it sounds toxic.

Answer 10

No ... thats emotional and psychological suicide.