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Question

i got this fiance and things are getting worse, almost every conversation turns into a argument , should i break it off

Answer 1

How long have you been fighting like this? Did it just start? If so, then it should be an easy fix. Just talk it out. Get to the root of the problem. If this has been going on, then maybe talk to a counselor. You don't want to get marriage if you two are like this already. Is it the same argument over the same stuff? Maybe insecurities and fear of getting married are coming out.

Answer 2

Upper 40-something here. I vote YES, do dump him. He is already displaying some "control issues".

I read an ad on the back of a magazine the other day that said, "The only way to change a grown man, is if he is wearing a diaper." I had to laugh at the irony of this ad, and truthfully I do not even know what they were advertising! But that statement is one of the ONLY true advertisements that I have EVER read!

If he is already starting to argue and be disagreeable, tell him what the problem is, if this relationship is something you may want to hold on to(?) Perhaps you could try some pre-marital counseling?

I am thinking I would move on, probably because human nature is really something that can be very predictable and it does take time to know someone. Before I would ever consider marrying him, I would have to consider if he was really "Mr. Right", and NOT Mr. Rightnow.

Take care with your heart and your station as a partner in this relationship, if this is not possible, it is my opinion that he may not be the right person for you!

Good luck, and remember it's not over 'til the fat lady sings! I had a nice plump woman sing at my first wedding, and nearly as soon as I said, "I do"...I knew that I had probably made a mistake...I was right.

I was blessed to find my second husband at the ripe old age of 38, so true love can happen when you least expect it! If you do dodge this bullet, then try to find a man who will love you as you are. You deserve someone who will not have to "train" you to be his partner, when the right man comes along, he will want you to have an opinion and he will at least pretend that what you want DOES matter to him.

Answer 3

Even though it is a tough one, if you can't get along now without things turning into an argument, if you get married I am not sure it would be any better when you start arguing about marital issues like; family, money, kids, jobs, chores....ect...I think maybe a good long talk or counseling...I have been there done that and divorced....remarried to a wonderful man who is my best friend and we don't hardly ever argue anything! I think you really do need to sit back and see if this is what you want, and will you be happy?? Even if you love a person, if you can't get along it is pure hell....Good luck to you..I know how it can be.

Answer 4

Sounds to me like God tapping on your shoulder trying to tell you something. Don't make Him get to shoving or hearts will be (more) broken. I had to break up with a fiance before even though I loved him to pieces and he loved me even more because our disputes were getting to be like a tape recorder playing the same pointless jealousy, insecurity, et cetera. Now my wonderful hubby is sleeping next to me. Get her out of there and on to her destiny so you can do the same for yourself. I don't mean to sound harsh, but I have been there and wouldn't want anyone else to stay where I knew I was no longer meant to be. Godspeed.

Wait a minute, OC.... maybe you're lookin for FREAKS is the problem. Thank goodness for PROFILES. I just checked yours. You ain't ready and your subconscious is causing the fussin!!!

Answer 5

First what is going on you said fiancee are you in the process of planning a wedding? Before you react step back and look and see if there is more things going on to cause stress if you can't see any then maybe it is being scared the step your relationship is at either way you need to sit down and talk without accusing and see what can be done to stop the arguing.

Answer 6

Communication is the number one most important quality in a relationship. Without communication your relationship will go no where. There is nothing anyone can tell you that you dont feel already, your asking the question whether you should break it off or not has alot of self doubt in it. You know the answer, feel it in your heart and listen to it.

Answer 7

Not at all, you need to listen to each other, one speak at a time, then the other do the same. this is conversations not arguing, that will get you no where. Be loving and understanding with each other. ONE thing to remember. NO ONE IS PERFECT!!!
not you or me, we all have our flaws, you have to decide can you
live with each others flaws. Food for thought! one more thing!
true love is unconditional there is on blame, if you can not live by this advice then You will be setting your selves up for a major disappointment, that would be shame,

Answer 8

This question is hard to answer without specifics. However, if the two of you can't even have a conversation, how can you have a marriage? I think you guys should get pre-marital counseling.

Answer 9

No you should just arrange time out for the both of you from your busy lives and talk. And promise each other that no matter what you won't get mad and then lay it all out on the table and then you will know if you need to call it off.

Answer 10

wow! you guy's sound like me and my husband! i think it might be better if you guy's hold off on the wedding bell's for Right now. but don't call off your relationship just yet.let her know how you feel and try talking about it. just think back to the day you guy's feel in love and how you both felt about each other.try to tell her you love her every day and that she is beautiful.or you guy's can always seek pre marriage counseling. maybe you both just have cold feet. but instead of asking your computer this question you should be talking to your girl!